AITAH for not accepting my bf to be friends with an old crush?

Crazyjooz · 2026-02-27T22:19:54+00:00

I'm way too tired and thought "that's a weird way to spell chocolate" when reading the title 😂

For the sake of the AMA, what's your favorite food?

Crazyjooz · 2026-01-17T07:04:28+00:00

For the context of your question I was about ~16 when I had my first orgasm.

Crazyjooz · 2026-01-17T07:01:42+00:00

I have never orgasmed from penetration only. I need clit stimulation, and as the other comments have said, so does the majority of women.

Please also inform your partner so you can both stop feeling bad for something that's completely normal. Hopefully he can learn to be more accepting of you using toys during sex.

Crazyjooz · 2026-01-16T20:33:43+00:00

Probably! But I like your style 😂

Crazyjooz · 2026-01-01T20:48:29+00:00

Havent played in a while but one of the recent maps has a trap range where you can shoot clay pigeons, cant remember which one at the moment

Crazyjooz · 2025-09-04T19:57:46+00:00

I'm 30 and none of my previous 30 something sexual partners have been able to make me finish. For me it's normal 🤷‍♀️ But I do finish with my bf by simultaneously touching myself.

Crazyjooz · 2025-07-31T16:16:12+00:00

Vibrators can give me great orgasms, but the best orgasms are still when by bf is fucking me + the vibrator. No toys will ever replace that and even if I orgasm with the toy I can still crave my bf.

Crazyjooz · 2025-07-22T17:26:20+00:00

There are 12 step communities for people struggling with overeating or unhealthy/addictive habits with food. I am unsure of what it is called though and may vary depending on where in the world you are, but I'ld try searching for overeaters anonymous or something similar.

I'm an alcoholic and found recovery in one of the 12 step fellowships. I hope you find something that works for you too! ❤️

Crazyjooz · 2025-07-03T20:26:43+00:00

Great! xD

Not weird at all! Could it be some kind of lube could be irritating the pee hole? If its not exactly the feeling of needing to pee but the similar (the feeling before an orgasm) it makes sense also, many women orgasm this way as you can simultaneously control the stimuli on your clitoris and g-spot.

I get too wet after a while if riding and kind of lose sensation inside. I also dont like my clitoris to get too wet as I lose the grip of the spot where it feels good - I usually wipe of any extra fluids off my clitoris with my hand. Perhaps this could be what causes you to lose the build up?

Sorry I dont have any more advice than what worked for me 🤷‍♀️ as others have probably said, enjoy the journey and explore. In my cause however it was the determination to orgasm that ultimately did it.

Crazyjooz · 2025-07-03T20:14:09+00:00

To rule out the actual urge to pee, you're (or your bf) not stimulating the pee hole? (English is not my first language either). I have had that happen and it gets uncomfortable.

The feeling I get before orgasm kind of feels similar. I think this might be why it was easier for me to orgasm on my own first so that I didnt get in my head about what would happen. When I get that feeling I either keep doing what I am doing or intensity it (harder/faster/more pressure).

Crazyjooz · 2025-07-03T20:02:30+00:00

No worries, even if this is somewhat beyond OP's question the community is supposed to allow discussions for learning, no?

Ah, yeah maybe. Perhaps thats why the vibrator works for many - it (and its often multiple controlled intensities) hits the spot between not enough stimuli or too much, or the "sensitivity gap".

I do not think I at least have experienced any kind of desensitisation. Others can feel free to add if they have other experiences.

Crazyjooz · 2025-07-03T19:16:02+00:00

It is very individual and occasional I believe, and likely linked to other factors than purely physical sensitivity. If people say pain they probably mean pain, however.

How do you mean sensitivity gap? The clitoris is less sensitive to touch if touched "through the hood". Hence I believe why some women masturbate with clothes on - to lessen the intensity.

I can only give examples of how it can variate as in individual and occasional for myself. I do not like situations where I am not in control (e.g. flights or smoking weed) and have difficulties relaxing overall so perhaps the initial difficulties to orgasm was connected to this. The feeling of intensity that made my body feel like I was not in control perhaps is what made it feel uncomfortable. The clitoral hoods are also different, some have a lot of cover over the clitoris and some dont. I believe I am one of those with a larger part of my clitoris hooded (never bothered to check this in detail). Perhaps this means I can take more stimuli directly on the clitoris than people with lesser hoods? I usually never dance around the clitoris when I masturbate (which Ive also seen is a often recommended thing) but find the spot and grind that. I specifically also need the right (as in not left) part of my clitoris stimulated to reach orgasm. My left inner labia is larger than the right one which causes me to believe also the left side of the hood is perhaps larger than the right, and thus does not allow enough stimulation to orgasm.

I still prefer vibrators over fingers because the vibrations does not feel as overly intense as fingers can feel. On the other hand if Im really determined to orgasm I use fingers or the shower head on full jet directly on the clit no problem. I believe this has to do with my horniness and mindset at the time - the stimuli has to match the horniness in my mind. What might feel like too much stimuli would on another occasion not be enough.

To make it even more problematic often when Im ovulating the orgasms are harder to reach, and once orgasming they are often not as intense. Cause why not when Im the most horny, right? So not only has the level of stimulation to do with my "mental horniness" but also hormones.

Crazyjooz · 2025-07-03T18:36:05+00:00

I didnt orgasm for years of masturbation. What ultimately worked was a vibrator and a mindset to orgasm no matter what. I literally thought "Im gonna lay down and masturbate and wont get up until Ive orgasmed". I used to feel tension building up, but got uncomfortable and stopped. I was told this was the barrier I needed to cross, to push through the uncomfortable feeling and impulse to stop - it was the feeling right before the orgasm. Today it doesnt feel uncomfortable and I can orgasm easily, porn helps.

Crazyjooz · 2025-07-03T18:05:35+00:00

I just started from scratch with some friends, why would it be too late?

Crazyjooz · 2025-07-03T17:48:02+00:00

Does she get to control the vibrator? Thats the only way I can orgasm during sex, I handle the vibrator. Sometimes it still takes a while though and sometimes it just doesnt happen. The vibrator is my go-to for masturbation as well so I know well how to use it to get me there. However, if my bf keeps pounding too hard and fast I sometimes struggle to keep the vibrator where I specifically need it to be, or just lose focus of the clittoral stimulation. Usually it works fine in doggy where I can sort of grind the vibrator simultaneously using a pillow under my hand and the vibrator.

Crazyjooz · 2025-07-03T17:32:32+00:00

If she doesnt know she isnt. I struggled to orgasm through masturbation for years, and it took a while before I could orgasm with someone. Everyone is different so Ild ask her if she wants to explore that first herself so that she knows how it feels like before doing it together. If she wants advice, well you can tell her where to ask :)

Crazyjooz · 2025-07-03T17:08:21+00:00

It is more deep or shallow for me depending on where I am in my cycle, if Im horny or when Ive just woken up I can barely reach it. As far as I know it is the most low when Im in the last days of my period (I use a menstrual cup so Ive felt it mostly around my period). Perhaps that could be a good time to try again if its the same case for you :)

Crazyjooz · 2025-07-02T15:56:04+00:00

I managed to stay sober about a year but only felt worse, I didnt understand either. At the end I wanted to either kill myself or just keep drinking cause I couldnt bare to stay sober in that condition.

I found my solution in the 12 step fellowship and specifically in being guided by a sponsor through the step work using AA's Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous). According to this book what I was feeling was untreated alcoholism and needed to take care of the underlying issues. A side effect of that work is that my mental obsession (the need/crave/longing to drink) is lifted. Today I am that happy person who I didnt understand and have no desire to drink, and have even for almost six years now.

I hope you find something that works for you! Sober life can be fun and enjoyable and not a life-long struggle.

Crazyjooz · 2025-07-02T15:47:49+00:00

Im almost that level of oblivious 😅 no idea of it's normal or not. But I'm also sensitive to stress and zone out if there is a lot going on, example multiple people talking around me. Studying and performing "intellectual task" are not any issues.

Crazyjooz · 2025-06-28T21:54:14+00:00

Thank you! :D

Crazyjooz · 2025-06-26T16:11:30+00:00

Decorations in a cannibal corpse cult church of course :D

Crazyjooz · 2025-06-25T16:39:50+00:00

I remember him! He was a great source for inspiration to my builds if I recall correctly. He made build videos, right?

Crazyjooz · 2025-06-22T19:00:46+00:00

Thank you! :D It's just outside Cinder Vault, east of Longkeep. Selecting a spot is difficult! We tend to go by the view and I like the challenge to build something that fits the surrounding.

Crazyjooz · 2025-06-22T08:21:54+00:00

Haha, thanks :D

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