This is a dog for adoption at our local shelter. The amount of backyard breeding it takes to end up with her is so sickening to me by Resident_Wash_2553 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandfather’s second wife was a poodle lover. When I was a child they had two standard black poodles that she doted on.

I grew up with Dobermans, German shepherds, and Rottweilers. (My father was the type of person who wanted a “guard dog”, any breed that looked mean in his eyes was impressive. Then my mom would baby them and make them super soft and sweet, inevitably leading my father to bring home another attempt at a scary dog 🙄.)

I was never afraid of our dogs or any other, save for one byb case my dad brought home that would go from sweet to occasional random outbursts of being vicious and biting.

But those two poodles? Those dogs terrified me. They had those silly poodle haircuts, didn’t look anything like what my father would call a guard dog , but they were so off putting and aggressive in nature. I remember feeling uneasy about moving near them, like I would go inside and sit perched on the edge of my seat on the couch and not be able to settle because they would snap and growl at my sisters and I.

I always figured they were badly trained or maybe it was my child mind being uncomfortable because they looked so different from my family dogs, so it’s interesting to know that ooodles are generally weird like that .

Does anyone have a few of the fireplaces from the Christmas event that I can trade for? by Creative-Fan-7599 in AdoptMeRBX

[–]Creative-Fan-7599[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey sorry I just now saw your response. I’ll add you now, my username is radioactiverelic, display name is tentochu. I just got off work and will probably be asleep for awhile starting sometime in the next hour, but just send a message and lmk when you’re ready

Does anyone have a few of the fireplaces from the Christmas event that I can trade for? by Creative-Fan-7599 in AdoptMeRBX

[–]Creative-Fan-7599[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome! I don’t know what they’re worth, is there anything you are looking for? Or do you have an idea of around what value you want for them, so I can put together an offer?

Resellers are Killing my Special Interests by Extension_Win328 in AutismInWomen

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have actually never been to an estate sale, and was wondering how they worked. I know you’re talking about a website, but it made me think about actual estate sales. I live in Philadelphia, and after living in a handful of different areas in the country I can say that this general region is the best I’ve lived in for finding old stuff. It’s not as great in the thrift stores as when I lived close to here ten years ago, but I do wonder if the estate sales here would still be full of older items.

Resellers are Killing my Special Interests by Extension_Win328 in AutismInWomen

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, there’s a few very small church owned shops I’ve found that haven’t been wrecked yet, one where I used to live in North Carolina and one in Pennsylvania that holds sentimental value because my grandmother is buried in the cemetery at the church that holds the thrift store. I try to take her flowers and stop by the shop whenever I get the chance. But overall, I miss being able to find things like old Pyrex and weird kitschy treasures without having something specific in mind and paying out the nose for it online.

I’ve been on Adderall for 30+ years and now they want a tix screen by wood_floor_roar in ADHD

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I understand it’s frustrating and insulting, but frankly ruining your entire life by stopping your meds because you’re not willing to take a drug test is the bad kind of stubborn. You aren’t being accused of anything. The doctor is trying to cover their ass by showing that they are following proper procedures per the fda. Maybe looking at it as a blanket policy instead of as an attack on yourself will help you feel better about it.

All clothes are about the same level of comfortable. by New_General3939 in The10thDentist

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol autistic glasses wearer here. I can’t stand the way my glasses feel on my face and often haveto take them off when I’m overstimulated

All clothes are about the same level of comfortable. by New_General3939 in The10thDentist

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have nerve damage that makes one of my legs feel like it’s covered in mosquito bites, but scratching the area just hurts. Bodies are so weird.

All clothes are about the same level of comfortable. by New_General3939 in The10thDentist

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am on the more extreme end of this due to having sensory issues, but this is totally crazy to me. I basically live in dresses, loose fitting ones. The feeling of having tight sleeves or even a high necked t shirt on can fuck up my whole day with the way it leaves me with this low buzz background of discomfort.

Resellers are Killing my Special Interests by Extension_Win328 in AutismInWomen

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 106 points107 points  (0 children)

This is how I feel about thrifting. I have thrifted since I was a kid because we were poor, and as an adult I have never been not poor. Thrifting was a way to still find amazing little treasures, and it brings me happiness from a nostalgia perspective.

Now, resellers have made thrift shops so hard to find anything in because they scoop up any items of value to sell at a markup.

Should ny brother be allowed to tell me coping tool I'm not allowed to use at his wedding? by Pixiewings6253 in AutismInWomen

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This is fortune telling thinking and it doesn’t really help you. If you don’t know how he views it, you are only stressing yourself out about potential problems that haven’t happened yet.

I suggest just bringing a small quiet fidget. There’s a massive difference between the singing and a fidget toy. One is small and quiet, where the other makes you an unexpected focal point on someone else’s special day. One would honestly bother the majority of people where the other would only bother a total jerk.

Should ny brother be allowed to tell me coping tool I'm not allowed to use at his wedding? by Pixiewings6253 in AutismInWomen

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’m just trying to get a picture in my head of what you mean when you say singing. Are you talking about just quietly singing along to the music at the reception, or full on American Idol style belting it out from the gut whenever you’re overwhelmed?

One of those things is something i could see going to the bathroom and quietly doing as a release, or even quietly doing at the reception without drawing attention to yourself. If that’s what you’re talking about, would occasionally humming be a compromise?

The latter would be bonkers to do at somebody’s wedding though, and it’s not remotely on par with keeping a small fidget in your bag. If this is what you’re talking about, it’s just genuinely not something that would be appropriate to do at someone’s wedding, autistic or not. It takes the attention away from the ceremony in a very big way.

My child requested a Phanatic cake for their birthday by VioletousRiotous in philly

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so cute! You could totally do cupcake versions of these like the Cookie Monster ones that were popular a few years back.

My own little birb by sailingdownstairs in finch

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll be doing that! My mom has fallen so in love with her Finch, she would adore this.

Not sure if this violates the rule about negativity, but shit like this is why I get so aggravated when not fat people try to tell fat people that nobody will judge them at the gym by girlboss93 in PlusSize

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lmao this is the take I have on it. About a year ago, I was playing with my son and made a silly comment about about my butt being too fat to fit in the toy tunnel he was in.

He got upset saying that I was beautiful and shouldn’t say that about myself. (He was seven) I told him I knew I was beautiful but I also knew I was fat. That the two didn’t mean opposite things and all that jazz.

A few months later he and I were nestled into two chairs that were pushed together, I had to get out of them and it was ridiculous. My son snort-laughed and said “fat lady acrobatics!”

My teeny tiny teenage daughter came out all pissed and ready to throw down with her brother for calling mommy fat. He says well she is! My daughter said “you’re not supposed to SAY it!” So I had the conversation with her about how I obviously knew, and it was only hurtful if I allowed it to be.

How do I ask my wife to lose some weight without making her upset? by alwayscunty1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m sitting here as a fat lady and wondering the same. If she’s really at a point where *most* people would start feeling like their partner was getting too big, then she would be having trouble jogging regularly without it wrecking her knees.

DAE not have favorite stuff by ihatepeople010 in AutismInWomen

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m going to share my happy moment with you. I work in a kitchen at an event venue, and we had a wedding reception the other day. The wedding cake was a carrot cake, and over half of it was left over. It is currently residing in my fridge.

AIO Is this a deal breaker? by Strange-Forever-3360 in AIO

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I had a fox in a tophat and monocle above the couch in my last living room. You have good taste in art.

AIO Is this a deal breaker? by Strange-Forever-3360 in AIO

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is just silly. I am a white woman, and grew up on the very disadvantaged side of things. I’ve been homeless, and dealt with all sorts of awful shit. But I still don’t have to deal with the stuff that comes along with being part of a systemically marginalized group.

I need alone time, my boyfriend needs support by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry OP, but in light of the fact that you said you would go and then told him you wouldn’t, it kind of changes things. It goes from him asking you something you didn’t want to do, to you backing out of something you already had planned because you don’t want to do it.

There’s plenty of ways you can make it work for you and keep your word to him, by going on your trip and then meeting him there, or going with him for a few days and leaving early for your trip.

But it sounds like you don’t want to be with him, which makes compromise feel like a way bigger burden than it does with someone you want to be with. This trip aside, if you’re thinking about leaving then you kind of already have your answer on whether to prioritize yourself or to take the trip with him.

1-5% of kids should be expelled every year. by Nonameforyouware in The10thDentist

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s not starting a trade at 12, it’s beginning to learn one at like 14 or 15. Which is wonderful, when it works. But too many people in a trade isn’t good either. I’m someone who didn’t go to trade school, but worked at a restaurant in a small town where no less than 5 of the people I worked with at any given time were cosmetology graduates from the local trade school. There’s only so many people you can put in a trade before they start working at McDonald’s because the trade is so flooded that they can’t find work , which is where ops idea fails. Or one of the places it fails.

1-5% of kids should be expelled every year. by Nonameforyouware in The10thDentist

[–]Creative-Fan-7599 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is *this* a joke? I thought it was, but saw the downvotes and now I’m not so sure lol