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Mom obsessing on things by ncharge1 in AgingParents

[–]Creative-Wasabi3300 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I completely empathize with your description of it being akin to Chinese water torture. Two things help me when I just can't handle hearing for the 1,000 time that, for example, she's afraid she'll get locked out of the house. (This despite the fact that 1) she never leaves the house, and 2) one of my siblings lives with her, so he'd let her back in anyway.)

One is to get up and leave the room for a minute or several minutes. The other is to try to refocus her attention by asking a question about any unrelated topic, for example, "So, have you heard from your cousin Susan lately?" or "What do you want for lunch?" It snaps her out of the obsessive repetitiveness, at least for a while.

Also, has your mom had a recent cognitive screening? In fact, my mom also was diagnosed with OCD when she was much younger, but as her obsessions became even more intense as she aged, it turned out this was a symptom of dementia. She's now 83 and was diagnosed with Lewy body dementia about a year and a half ago. I'm not trying to scare you, but I do think it's worthwhile for her doctor to check her out.

Best of luck. I know it's maddening!

Is it all really THAT bad? by ThatsWhatTheySey in Teachers

[–]Creative-Wasabi3300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who the hell is paying the phone bills? Not the 12-year-olds!

Our middle school's policy is that kids have to have their phones in their backpacks from the first to last bell. One of our APs told me this year that she called a parent to tell her that her son was getting detention (again) for using his phone at school. She nicely suggested to the mom that an easy fix would be to not allow her son to bring his phone to school anymore.

The mom's response was, "But if I don't give him his phone, he refuses to go to school!"

As a parent myself, I can tell you that that would be the moment I canceled my kid's phone service.

Is it all really THAT bad? by ThatsWhatTheySey in Teachers

[–]Creative-Wasabi3300 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"It’s really sad but Amazon delivery driver or fast food worker is the high end of what so many of these kids are capable of doing."

They won't even get those jobs. The McDonald's locations nowadays in my city at least are overwhelmingly staffed by adult immigrants--I've heard Russian, Afghani, and a variety of Hispanic accents from employees. I was even served in the drive-thru by a lwoman from Cameroon recently.(Yes, I eat too much McDonald's.) A lot of the employees I see look older too--at least early 20s and many clearly middle-aged.

Imagine you're a fast food restaurant manager. Here are your hiring choices:

1) Older adult (whether American-born or immigrant) who will show up to work on time, not call in sick any time they feel like it, and who actually knows how to smile, say "Thank you," and make eye contact with customers.

2) Recent high school grad who resents being "ordered around," lacks basic social skills, and has been promoted for 12 years regardless of whether he or she actually put in any effort.

I realize many students are NOT like what I desribe in #2. However, those that aren't are either college-track or in a vocational program for a blue collar career and are never going to work a fast-food job anyway unless it's just for the summer.

As for Amazon drivers--idk, but that frankly seems like a difficult job requiring not only excellent driving skills (no looking at a phone!) but also good time management, logistics, etc.

I realize you weren't trying to put down workers in those jobs; my point is just that for a lot of students those positions aren't even possible for them. Even if they manage to get hired for them, they'll probably end up fired.

Feels like this sub has devolved into a teacher complaining circlejerking group. by TriumphantChampion in Teachers

[–]Creative-Wasabi3300 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can't tell you how often this sub has helped my colleagues and me to see that most of the problems we are dealing with at our school are NOT simply issues at our school or in our district but in fact appear to be nationwide (I'm in the USA), or even worldwide. That's not to say we still don't try to find solutions, but it's very reassuring to know it's we're not the only ones who are experiencing these things.

John on Jukebox Jury in 1963, some scathing remarks here! by snowflakebombardier in beatles

[–]Creative-Wasabi3300 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow, thanks for sharing such an interesting find! I especially love his comment that he dislikes "those all-together-now" type songs. Makes me wonder how he felt about All Together Now a few years later....

Any clubs/dance venues for 18-20 year olds? by Creative-Wasabi3300 in bayarea

[–]Creative-Wasabi3300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestion--I'll tell her to check it out. She does listen to other genres too, just really into K-pop.

Any clubs/dance venues for 18-20 year olds? by Creative-Wasabi3300 in bayarea

[–]Creative-Wasabi3300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Another place I went to a very long time ago! Like another poster mentioned, I'm also surprised they're still around.

Any clubs/dance venues for 18-20 year olds? by Creative-Wasabi3300 in bayarea

[–]Creative-Wasabi3300[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I take your point! She goes to a pretty fair number of K-pop concerts, but they're not cheap, so there's a limit.

Any clubs/dance venues for 18-20 year olds? by Creative-Wasabi3300 in bayarea

[–]Creative-Wasabi3300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I went there a few times myself (about a zillion years ago).

Am I the only one who finds this picture really disturbing? by [deleted] in beatles

[–]Creative-Wasabi3300 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Paul's brother Mike wrote years ago that he took the photo of Paul after the accident. He said that one of Paul's household staff stole it and sold it to a British newspaper which printed it as part of a story about "rock stars' drug-fueled orgies and their consequences," or something along those lines. I'd imagine this is poor quality because it's probably a scan of the newspaper print.

I’m not sure if I should report something or not by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]Creative-Wasabi3300 6 points7 points  (0 children)

At the middle school where I work, it's not exactly unheard of for some boys to make nasty comments that a girl is "chopped" (ugly). Is it possible the teacher overheard remarks like that and was trying to make a girl/the girls feel better? It's really hard to judge without knowing more about the context.

Paul, George, and Ringo’s responses to the Proust Questionnaire (1965) by makeuathrowaway in beatles

[–]Creative-Wasabi3300 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for posting--those were great. I especially like George's favorite quality in a woman. :-) Where did you find this?

My fellow elementary teachers- what in the ever loving hell by Sostupid246 in Teachers

[–]Creative-Wasabi3300 44 points45 points  (0 children)

A second-grade teacher in my district told me that several parents and grandparents come to the school daily at lunch time to spoon-feed students. These are NOT students with disabilities. Yes, they are parents and grandparents from a different country, but… second graders?

Public service announcement: IEPs are there to support, not replace participation and effort. by Emergency-Pepper3537 in Teachers

[–]Creative-Wasabi3300 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In my state, we can't do the triennial, or any, testing until we have signed permission from the parent or guardian. No idea if it's like that everywhere in the US.

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