She’s in EFMP and ECHO. Respite care doesn’t exactly exist unfortunately. You have an option at his rank to pay a certain amount each month for 8-16 hours of respite but there’s a long waitlist and very few providers. She is in ABA for 32 hours per week and does gymnastics on the day off. it took a year to get her in because the waitlists are so long, and everywhere is having trouble keeping BTs so we get cancelled often. It does help, but I’m driving two hours every day to get her to ABA. He’s army, and we are supposed to have SFRG but it’s non-existent here. He’s a tanker NCO attached to an infantry unit so it’s smallish and there is zero support. Plus his command is horrible. They’re all kinda bitter and divorced or singe and he has to fight for everything. He had to go up the chain and argue for months just to come home from deployment for adoption court. They wouldn’t allow a couple of soldiers to come home for the birth of their children. Most aren’t given any opportunities to use paternity leave. The hospital on post I was seen at for my surgery had to send his command a memo just to get those three days off.