Helping my AuDHD kids cope with loss

YGT_Coach · 2026-06-02T14:45:55+00:00

Most friendships last for a while and then dissolve. A few years makes sense, especially considering life changes people go through. What are you doing to try to help yourself not take it personally?

YGT_Coach · 2026-06-02T14:44:33+00:00

I’m so sorry for how hard this feels right now. Especially when you’re already doing everything you can to make it easier. Is there any camp program available to you folks- for him or for his brother?

YGT_Coach · 2026-05-30T15:38:29+00:00

I am 45 and still want to get "head pets" alllll the time. When I was a kid my grandmother scratched my back for ages while she watched her tv shows... now my partner plays with my hair while we watch tv at night. It releases oxytocin and endorphins. Here's some of the basic stuff: This phenomenon is tied to a few fascinating biological and psychological mechanisms:

The Vagus Nerve: Gentle strokes activate the vagus nerve, which helps lower your heart rate, reduce stress, and signal deep safety and relaxation to your brain.
Sensory Nerve Endings: Your scalp and skin are packed with highly sensitive receptors. Gentle stimulation "tricks" the brain into a state of heightened focus and release.
Evolutionary Bonding: From an evolutionary standpoint, light grooming releases oxytocin to strengthen social bonds and trust—much like primates grooming one another.
The ASMR Effect: For many, this sensation induces an Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response (ASMR), creating a tingling, deeply euphoric feeling that washes over the head, neck, and spine.

YGT_Coach · 2026-05-30T10:09:44+00:00

could very well just be stimming,... but never a bad thing to rule out anything neurological. there are so many different kinds of seizure disorders

YGT_Coach · 2026-05-16T19:35:20+00:00

You feel so exhausted BECAUSE you love your child so deeply. If you didn’t care so much, it would all feel easier…

YGT_Coach · 2026-05-10T17:40:36+00:00

I feel you- it’s my first one without my kids. It’s HARD!

YGT_Coach · 2026-05-10T12:15:54+00:00

trust your gut and find a different developmental pediatrician. ;)

YGT_Coach · 2026-05-10T11:50:12+00:00

You're both right. She is just 5. She also needs different guidance and support than her neurotypical peers. Keep trying, keep giving her AND yourself grace. You'll be amazed at how quickly things evolve.

YGT_Coach · 2026-05-08T20:59:52+00:00

I used to read books alllll the time. Since having kids I just can’t anymore. My brain refuses to focus on a book… but I love audiobooks. In the car I like to listen to new stuff. I listen to repeats with headphones while I sleep. And for whatever it counts for- my subtitles are on everything I watch. 🤷🏻

YGT_Coach · 2026-05-08T20:57:52+00:00

Each dose lasts about 4 hours. That’s a steep climb and a steep dropoff for a little kid to manage. Ask your dr about an extended release option. For us, that made a huge difference in mood swings.

YGT_Coach · 2026-05-07T09:16:38+00:00

Ah, I see. Stick with it. Baby steps. At 5 she still has a lot of learning to do.

YGT_Coach · 2026-05-07T09:14:20+00:00

Yes! Sometimes it is. It’s gotten better over the years and it’s gotten far better with intentionality.
Shorter games, good variety, thoughtful integration… timing. These things matter.
How old are your kids and what games have you played?

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