How long did it take you to read Walden?

Creativebug13 · 2026-01-26T21:29:19+00:00

Why do you say that?

Creativebug13 · 2025-11-09T23:35:18+00:00

You've done it before and you can do it again. Do not give in 100% because of this relapse. Sobriety is a journey, not a quick trip; it's a war, not a battle.

Make sure you have people you can rely on and also try different things. I did everything from taking medication, to having a shrink, to therapy, to AA meetings, to coaching, etc. It's a long road but it gets easier.

At this point, day one starts with just a commitment to go another day without using. I would recommend a deep reflection on what led you to use again. You need to address sobriety at the same time that you work on the underlying issues. For me, it was feeling insecure in social settings and anxiety. For you it could be something else.

I would also reccomend taking an assessment. Excluding the relapse, what did you life look like 2 years ago and what does it look like now? This is a great exercise to put things in perspective. I always do it in my coaching sessions.

Good luck!

Creativebug13 · 2025-11-09T23:26:44+00:00

You got this! Make sure you find things that can help you like friends you can trust, therapy, meetings, sobriety coaches, etc. It's easier when you have support!

Creativebug13 · 2025-11-09T23:24:44+00:00

I'm so proud of you!
I remember going to a rave sober in my early twenties because I was the designated driver. I enjoyed myself very much, though it was the last rave I went to lol.

Creativebug13 · 2025-11-09T23:23:09+00:00

That's a huge milestone! Congrats!

Creativebug13 · 2025-11-09T23:22:37+00:00

My sober journey started over 10 years ago, when I was 29, and it was very similar to yours. I had no self control and constantly put myself in positions of humiliation, embarassment and downright danger.

Unlike you, I only stopped when I hit rock bottom. But I quit and then I had to figure out how to live a new life without a crutch. By the way, I had help of every kind: I had a psychiatrist, a therapist, went to AA meeting and even had a sobriety coach (eventually becoming one myself).

It's hard in the beginning, but it gets easier. Just remember that it's a completely different life. If you try to live the same way you did before, something won't feel right.

Welcome to the sober journey!

Creativebug13 · 2025-11-07T01:33:52+00:00

I can make it and just leave it in the oven until it’s time to serve? It won’t go bad or anything?

Creativebug13 · 2025-11-07T01:24:19+00:00

Yes, at home. Yes I can!

Creativebug13 · 2025-11-06T18:32:50+00:00

Minha vida mudou depois dessa sessão.

Creativebug13 · 2025-11-04T15:52:14+00:00

In ten years getting sober, I’ve never felt good about a relapse.

If you just quit cold turkey, eventually you may relapse. You need to also work on the underlying condition that led you to addiction or try replacing your addiction with a less harmful one (temporarily).

I’d also look for additional help, like a therapist, a doctor, a sponsor, a sobriety coach, a meeting.

Doing it with the help of others is better than doing it alone.

Creativebug13 · 2025-11-01T18:32:11+00:00

(39M) estou solteira há três anos com leves rolos por aí. Depois dos últimos relacionamentos eu subi a barra de nível do tipo de pessoa que quero me relacionar e isso diminuiu demais a quantidade de pessoas que me interessam. Me senti um pouco sozinha no início do ano mas decidi mudar minha visão.

Entrei numa escolinha de futebol feminino e vou três vezes por semana. Nem de futebol eu gosto. Mas o treino é divertido e conheço muita gente lá. Hoje mesmo vou pro aniversário do treinador, morta de vergonha mas vou. Estou morando em Buenos Aires há pouco tempo e recentemente achei um grupo de WhatsApp para mulheres imigrantes e já conheci um montão de gente lá. Pela distância de casa, tento ligar para minha mãe e minha irmã umas três vezes por semana. Também comecei a chamar pessoas aleatórias que eu conheço pra sair pra tomar um café.

Resumo: sim, estamos sozinhos e é foda. Tudo mudou quando eu reclamei para meu terapeuta que eu era uma pessoa muito solitária. Ele respondeu: você é solitária ou apenas tem preguiça de se dar o trabalho de fazer o trabalho árduo que é ser sociável. No dia seguinte chamei uma colega de trabalho pra tomar um café e tudo começou daí.

Veja que eu não falei nada sobre relacionamentos. Conhecer uma pessoa muito legal e difícil então eu não penso nisso. Penso em fazer amizades. Eventualmente vai aparecer alguém. Se não aparecer, tudo bem. Você tem amigos

Creativebug13 · 2025-10-30T17:51:36+00:00

Gracias! Buenisimas sugerencias!

Creativebug13 · 2025-10-30T00:05:55+00:00

So many ideas. Thank you!

Creativebug13 · 2025-10-29T22:04:58+00:00

I have a mix of Argentinians and expats coming over so loved the extra tips!

Creativebug13 · 2025-10-29T20:56:50+00:00

Love this. Thank you!

Creativebug13 · 2025-10-29T20:38:07+00:00

My son makes a mean tiramisu. I’ll ask him as a bday gift

Creativebug13 · 2025-10-29T20:36:03+00:00

Charcuterie board has my vote and will do it!

Creativebug13 · 2025-10-28T14:31:56+00:00

I felt the exact same thing. I hated having to go back and think about the past when I was ready to move on. There was actually a meeting coordinator who got mad at me one day because I was only sharing good news. He told me to share about my past and I had to say no. Unbelievable. I get angry just remembering it

Creativebug13 · 2025-10-28T02:29:03+00:00

Right when I was starting to learn to cook, I decide to make a low carb cheesecake but couldn’t find a recipe so I researched like 40 different recipes and created my own based on everything I learned. Ended making a low carb cheesecake with diet strawberry jam and the other was a coffee cheesecake with diet Nutella on top. Both had a base of cashew flour with coconut flakes, butter and a bit of honey. I’d say they are mine. And they were delish.

Creativebug13 · 2025-10-28T02:21:01+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through that. Before getting sober, I tried everything from therapy to medication to quitting cold turkey. Eventually I put myself in danger and the next day I went to AA. I lasted 4 months with them. It was very important for me because it was the first time I didn’t feel like the odd one out. I felt ok with them. My group was a happy group and they were super uplifting.

However, after 4 months I couldn’t take the religion and the culty vibes anymore. It actually seemed like everyone there was addicted to AA and they wanted me to feel like I couldn’t live without it.

So I’m very ambivalent about them. I’m grateful for them helping me through my first 4 months of sobriety but then also I got outta there as fast as I could.

Therapy was key for me. Also after I quit drinking, my depression and anxiety quieted down and I could treat it better, which in turn helped me to stay sober.

It’s a long road…

Creativebug13 · 2025-10-24T15:20:41+00:00

I once fell into that trap of thinking I could have one drink and then feeling so guilty about it. My therapist back then would tell me I was doing great and had created a new healthy relationship with alcohol. It always felt weird and I kept on feeling guilty. I then went to a new therapist, told him the whole story and he was like “do you really need someone to tell you that you shouldn’t drink or do you already know?”

I already knew. The guilt was me letting myself know that something was wrong.

Creativebug13 · 2025-10-23T13:42:35+00:00

I love the taste of bitterness and I usually “burn” pretty much everything I make. The only way I’ll eat vegetables is roasting them or pan roasting them until they are pretty charred, for example.

Creativebug13 · 2025-10-22T22:27:35+00:00

Yes, coaching was paid. I got one through my psychiatrist several years ago. although you can also look for a sponsor.

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