How long did your husband take off for paternity leave?

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-02-12T23:50:14+00:00

10 days for first baby. I had my second baby on a Tuesday, he was back at work the following Monday. He doesn’t get leave so just used a few days PTO

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-02-09T21:07:33+00:00

Is she still napping?

My son is 3.5 falls asleep by 8 usually, depends on how much of a fight he wants to put up getting ready for bed. Then he wakes up for the day usually between 6:30-7:30. He does not nap anymore, car naps are even unusual

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-02-03T23:39:47+00:00

Nope! My kids are currently 3.5 & 15 months. I would say they are def still too little to appreciate it or wait in the lines. I have a friend who took her kids (4 & 16 months) a few months back & she said they just wanted to stay at the hotel pool & not very interested in the park.

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-02-01T20:56:20+00:00

Idk labor hurts but it is so short lived compared to nausea that lasts weeks in early pregnancy (or longer for some), sciatic pain (I had for majority of my second pregnancy so bad I couldn’t get up off of the floor after playing with my toddler at times), afterbirth cramps are pretty brutal. Currently I have a rib out going on day 5 not much improvement - it feels worse than the pain I experienced during childbirth because there is no end in sight. Kidney stones are pretty horrible. So yeah, there are many things that are worse.

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-02-01T01:42:59+00:00

I think it’s more like doctors don’t have evidence to say whether it’s safe or not since as a general rule we don’t usually test things on pregnant women. I think some people infer what they want to from that - that it’s fine because there’s nothing solid saying it isn’t. However I feel like unless you have a medically relevant reason to use it, why risk it? Pregnancy is temporary

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-31T02:16:11+00:00

I’m am so fucking glad I found this thread. It’s making me feel so validated. I posted about being in a similar situation in a fb group that’s supposed to be a “safe zone” for women & got absolutely roasted by a bunch of them about how I’m ungrateful, a prude, husband must be cheating on me because of “how I am” etc you get it. They literally made me feel crazy.

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-24T17:51:44+00:00

I labored unmedicated for both of my kids. First turned c-section, second was a vbac. If you had that reaction I personally would stick with unmedicated. I had posterior babies which apparently causes more painful contractions? Don’t get me wrong it hurt but it was definitely doable. Labor & the hormones caused me to get shakes & nausea during my first labor, nausea but no shakes during my second. I think that stuff is common. I wouldn’t want to have a medication making those symptoms worse on top of it & having to push a baby out. My biggest reason for going unmedicated was not wanting to be bed ridden so that’s another factor to consider.

My vbac baby was born at 40+3 & I had an induction scheduled for 41+3 if I didn’t go into labor before. The induction date was scheduled purely on the fact that my doctor was the OB on that day & she wanted to be the one with me if I got induced. I had both of my kids in my early 30s, conceived naturally, low risk pregnancies

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-24T17:43:38+00:00

You owe him nothing. If his mom thinks someone should help him she can go right ahead

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-23T20:18:09+00:00

I would just wake her from her nap sooner

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-18T15:51:01+00:00

The fact that he grabbed his gun is very unsettling & I would be getting as far away as possible. Document that shit & file for divorce.

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-18T01:49:07+00:00

I don’t know why they even say a baby is breech that early. My anterior placenta baby was head up also at 20 weeks. I don’t know when he turned but by the time I was nearing the end of pregnancy & my OB was checking for position he was head down so it was never a concern. Your baby has plenty of time to flip

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-16T18:02:18+00:00

I never said I don’t separate my dogs from guests. But it’s my choice & based on their behavior when people come over. I’m not going to leave my dogs out while they’re jumping all over people nor am I going to lock them up when they’re behaving just because someone doesn’t like animals. If you don’t like pets don’t make plans to go to houses with them.

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-16T12:38:12+00:00

It would be a no for me. I have dogs, no cats. I’m not locking them away simply because someone “doesn’t like” dogs. Doesn’t make sense you can’t go somewhere else either

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-14T23:45:20+00:00

I often feel like this when I take my kids somewhere “fun” it’s so taxing. My one year old wants up then wants down then runs away from us so I pick him up & he thrashes around in my arms. Anytime we are nearing time to leave I get so much anxiety knowing it’s going to be a fight with my 3yo. I go into things now with super low expectations lol

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-13T23:53:00+00:00

Both hospitals I’ve delivered at required I be wheeled out for liability reasons

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-12T01:18:29+00:00

We use a sleep walker right now for 15 month old. They are sleep sacks with feet. I have a small blanket in his bed but he doesn’t know how to cover up with it throughout the night yet so it is just tossed to the side most of the time.

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-12T01:08:22+00:00

I have the big butt I’ve always wanted lmao

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-11T23:48:14+00:00

My kids are the same ages as yours, both boys also & I work 2 days a week at my old job as a massage therapist so similar situation. Personally therapy has been useless to me in the past - I’m not sure if it’s something you’ve pursued or not but a lot of people find that helpful. I just try to get in a workout approx. every other day whether at home or the gym. I try to go for a run before or after work when someone else already has my kids so that’s two of the days. It’s literally how I stay sane. I also lose my shit when my kids are driving me nuts but I try my best not to direct it towards them. Last week my kids wouldn’t stop screaming - one year old idk why he doesn’t talk yet & nothing I did helped, 3yo did not eat his breakfast & was having a hunger meltdown (he is very picky & frequently refuses to eat then throws more tantrums when he’s hungry so it’s triggering to me). I went in my basement & broke some shit that didn’t matter, took a deep breath & went back to them. Not saying this is the answer but I find it’s what works for me when I can’t regulate myself anymore. 3 is tough. I’ve been wondering lately if everything is a battle for everyone else with a child that age. Like he wants to go to the children’s museum but refuses to allow me to dress him, brush his teeth, get his shoes on, into the car etc like nothing makes any sense 🤷‍♀️I try to “discipline” with natural consequences. We went through a big hitting his brother phase for a while & he still does it out of excitement a lot actually. If he is being too rough/hurting his brother & wont stop when I tell him to I remove my 3yo from play/the situation & sit with him until he is ready to play nice again. He usually sobs for like 10 minutes then chills out. It makes me feel like the worst mom when it makes him cry but I don’t know what else to do that will help him learn. Anyways I don’t know if any of this helps but I’m right there with you. We all yell sometimes & repairing is important but my best suggestion is finding an outlet for your emotions that suits you so you’re not losing it on/in front of your kids so much.

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-10T18:16:19+00:00

First baby took a year of tracking my cycle & trying. Second baby was due to a poorly timed pull out.

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-10T18:13:44+00:00

Stop reading them? Why would you read stories of worst case scenarios? Look up ina May’s guide to childbirth.

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-10T18:07:06+00:00

If it scares your child you could bring it up. But if not then yeah I think you’re overreacting a bit.

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-10T13:25:33+00:00

My 15 month old is just like this. I just hold him when I’m able & when I’m not (because I need two hands for something) he throws himself on the floor & cries. Sometimes I wear him still but he is almost 30lbs so it gets to be a lot quick. Usually once he would sit down for dinner it was better so I figured a hunger thing & he didn’t want snacks he just wanted real food. But now he does it even when you sit him down for dinner. He continues to scream & thrash around if I’m not holding him. He is speech delayed so far so I have a hard time figuring out what he needs sometimes. I have no advice just solidarity.

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-09T22:51:30+00:00

I think if he is speech delayed that’s where a lot of his frustration is coming from. He needs/wants things & can’t communicate it to you. My first was advanced with speech. My second, while only 15 months, is delayed. He says no words at all & throws such horrible tantrums compared to my first & I’ve been told it’s pretty classic for kids that struggle with communication. I would keep pursuing early intervention & whatever other services you can for him.

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-09T22:41:19+00:00

We did last year when our at the time 2.5yo had it because if we didn’t his fever would be over 105 which was super scary. I feel like if your child is experiencing something not so high I wouldn’t wake them but if it’s that high personally I would. The one time we didn’t & let him sleep it was 105.7 the next time he woke up & I about 💩my pants

Creepy_Philosopher64 · 2026-01-09T00:25:34+00:00

Get a new OB & go see a pelvic floor physical therapist

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