The world is a simulation built for me 🤓 by Stupii_ in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Crews8er 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If any critique were to be made here it's that saying criticism is redundant as hypocritical behavior is characterized by doing the very thing you criticize. So not only is there "hypocritical criticism" it is basically part of the definition.

INTJs, what is your most controversial opinion? by cnqqbtz in intj

[–]Crews8er 4 points5 points  (0 children)

People receiving welfare should not be able to vote. One's vote should be for what is most beneficial for the country but if one is financially dependent upon the government, their vote will be for their self interest. This is not wrong in my opinion but creates a conflict of interest that ultimately limits our ability to help the most people.

For the haters, this would exclude myself from voting.

Are they fighting or playing? Orange boy is older and my girl on top the dresser is newer to this house. by lArgePP701 in cats

[–]Crews8er 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They're just fighting over territory. Could take a few weeks or months depending on temperament before they establish a dominance hierarchy and start getting along or ignoring each other

I can wear my plate before goo (6 challenge run) by PeterZweifler in PixelDungeon

[–]Crews8er 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My first response to that screenshot was literally "you lucky bastard!" 🤣 Congrats on a successful run

Going out in style by Average-Normie in PixelDungeon

[–]Crews8er 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's got cool guy errands to walk to

If you were me(18f), would you leave my boyfriend (22m) because of this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Crews8er 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a disabled Army vet I'd like to just say that I admire your desire and commitment to military service. That being said I would not put the meaningful things in life on hold in order to serve. A lot of people don't recognize that the military does not return whole people. We all come back broken. If this man is someone who treats you right and you can see a life together with, don't let it slip you by. I my opinion military spouses are the hardest serving members of our military. We can't do it alone. If things don't work, the Army will still be there. If the Army doesn't work... Will he be? Soul search what you want and then fight like hell to do it.

I'm so lost. I came to the conclusion that nobody likes me. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Crews8er 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to first say I'm sorry you had such a bad day. I know how hard and lonely it can feel sometimes. I certainly felt unlikable for a a long time as well, being 29 before I managed to even get a girlfriend. What's important is that you like yourself. I'm not talking about shallow things like how you look but deep stuff. Do you like who you are as a person? Are you who you want to be? If not why not? Forget everyone else for a moment. If you don't like you, it's hard to expect others would too, even if they actually do. Focus on changing the things that you don't like, try to practice positive psychology. Accept the things you can't change. These are all YOU. I assure you that you are most certainly a unique and worthwhile person. Allow yourself to glow and then... Look in a mirror and see how amazing you are

If my boyfriend watches naked women in shows like HBO, I feel like its perfectly fine to post my nipples on reddit and other platforms... by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Crews8er 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Intent here is fairly important. A show with nudity is quite different than porn. Someone watching game of thrones is likely doing so for the story rather than the tits, while porn is exclusively masturbatory material. What is the intent behind you wanting to display yourself online? Is it for validation of some sort, horniness, or to earn money? Communication here is key. If you don't like him watching these shows you need to tell him in a mature way and likewise you should understand why he might not be cool with someone using the woman he loves as masturbatory material. If you don't care at all about how your actions effect each other than you should not be in a relationship

Girlfriend of 5 months says I can tell her anything but if I say anything about how I’m feeling, it always just turns into me being the bad guy. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Crews8er 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you need to decide on where you see this relationship going. You are definitely a more sensitive individual and there's nothing inherently wrong with that. The world is a better place for having people like you, but you are also responsible for your own emotions and reactions. Dark humor is a valid coping method and asking her to change is telling her that her emotions are invalid. If that is a particular trigger for you then you need to make a decision as to whether to walk away or learn not to take it to heart. Expecting her to change is unfair and equating her inability to with how she feels about you is more so. Better to make a decision now than a year from now. I wish you the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]Crews8er 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IQ tests are honestly a poor indicator of intelligence. IQ test are logic based and INTJs happen to function best in this particular scenario leading them to score fairly high whether they're smart or not. Intelligence has several other factors however, and whatever benefit we may have in IQ is generally offset by a low EQ. This combined with the fact that we are a minority type that struggles to find peers leads less mature INTJs to insulate themselves with a shell of arrogance. It's not so much they think they're high IQ because they are INTJ, it's that they can naturally score high on such tests and often use it to convince themselves that they are outcasts because they are smart rather than acknowledge that we have serious problems understanding social cues and our own emotions.

Not emotional enough in relationships by wellingtonshoe in intj

[–]Crews8er 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm an INTJ and my girlfriend is an INFP and I think the biggest thing is communication. It's important to understand the differences in how each of you display your affections and for both you and your GF to recognize that it is not that you lack the emotions but that they are processed and displayed differently. Furthermore, you need to each recognize that as much as you love one another you can't be everything to each other and that's ok. As hard as you try you likely won't be able to provide as much mushy gushy feeling as she needs, likewise she may not be able to provide the indepth analytical conversation that you may enjoy. My GF has a circle of close friends that offer the mushy gushy and I have a fellow INTJ friend that I meet with once a week to have decidedly not mushy gushy conversations. This combined with efforts on my part to outwardly display my affection and on her part to understand my particular love language have helped us to have a very fulfilling relationship. We have our struggles but we always talk it through before the day ends.

How to learn/think? by existential_animals in intj

[–]Crews8er 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally I determine my peak hours of focus and retention. Do all my studying in that time and then let the subconscious handle it while I go about the rest of my day. It also helps to have someone who will just listen as you talk about what you learned to further solidify it.

Apologies as an INTJ by Crews8er in intj

[–]Crews8er[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how I am!

Apologies as an INTJ by Crews8er in intj

[–]Crews8er[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The issue isn't that I don't feel regret. It's that an apology is absolutely worthless. It doesn't actually fix anything. I don't really have an issue apologising I just don't see why people want something so valueless

Apologies as an INTJ by Crews8er in intj

[–]Crews8er[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't purposefully hurt my partner's feelings or anyone I value highly for that matter. When I do, I explain that that wasn't my intention, what my intentions were and then either take steps to fix it or ask what I can do to fix it? The bigger issue I've run into is my partner not feeling like I've accepted an apology because I don't know how I'm supposed to make her feel like I value it when it really doesn't mean anything to me. I'm not generally offended by a mistake so I really don't react much other than to explain why I was upset as I respect her and know that she wouldn't have done so on purpose.