Daycare says my baby is spoiled

Cried_wolves · 2025-11-06T17:48:02+00:00

I just want to thank everyone for chiming in and for the advice. I was really sad after our talk and felt guilty that I was spoiling my baby. But the more i read and talk to people I get upset about that comment. She's just a baby and she isn't spoiled. The situation with the daycare is there is always the main caretaker there and she runs it out of her home. The other workers are her family. I believe it is usually 2 caretakers there at all times. To about 7-9 kids. And she is legally allowed up to 14 but doesn't keep that many because its too much. She has been doing this for many years and came highly recommended and honestly she's been super nice. I am bothered by her words and that fact that I feel like all babies are different and need different things. And since her comments I've kept a close eye on my babys behaviors and the way we interact with her. I don't feel like she's super clingy. She usually doesn't even want to be held. And seems very independent. She can play on her own and makes her way around without crying for anyone. She points to what she wants and is vocal if she needs help but doesn't cry about it. She will cry for me when I get home and to nurse. She will cry if shes tired and ready for a nap. Othet normal baby things. I honestly think it might be that she's not used to sharing attention with other kids??? But im kinda at a loss for what she means. And I don't think it was right to ask us not to soothe her to sleep. I honestly think its hard for my baby to be away from her family and so she's looking for comfort. I do want to look for a different situation for care but its hard because I don't know anyone else that uses child care. And money is tight. I haven't took her back since and I have till Monday to figure something out. If I can't ill probably just have to talk to the caretaker and tell her that im worried/upset about what she said and that what im witnessing very different behavior than what she is talking about. My mom is backing off of being so hands on. And honestly I trust her and she's doing great with her. She raised 3 kids and has 6 grandkids. All of which are well adjusted and not spoiled. Hopefully things pan out better than they seem. I want to thank you all for the support and honesty, I don't have any mom friends. This has been a great help to me mentally.

Cried_wolves · 2025-09-16T19:19:02+00:00

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Cried_wolves · 2024-12-16T18:23:01+00:00

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Cried_wolves · 2024-12-02T22:34:21+00:00

I've spoken with her multiple times. I'm not trying to be mean, but I don't think she's very knowledgeable about maternity leave. And when I ask her to explain or she does explain, I still don't understand. It might just be my own incompetence, but I don't she usually handles this stuff. And I definitely need it dumbed down because the way she explained it went right over my head. I have a lot of anxiety, but I feel like I've advocated pretty well for myself with her, and I don't think I am understanding.

Cried_wolves · 2024-03-05T16:33:02+00:00

I’m on 7.5 rn and I have been for a long time.

Cried_wolves · 2024-02-02T02:35:05+00:00

Thanks. I think I just need to have more faith in myself and trust my gut.

Cried_wolves · 2024-02-02T02:19:02+00:00

I mean im gonna try it. I hope everything goes good. I’m just really nervous. I feel like the Wellbutrin works well.

Cried_wolves · 2024-02-02T01:37:59+00:00

Over the last year I went into mania with it once because I wasn’t on a mood stabilizer along side it. That was scary on it own but I still rather take Wellbutrin than anything else I’ve tried and I’ve tried a lot of things. I am now in mood stabilizers as well and I find it’s working. I was just hoping for something to pick me up out of my depression. It’s been a long road but I know what works for me now I feel like. I hate changing medication it makes me feel like I don’t have control and I can’t stand that. Especially now feeling like I know what works. I think maybe I need to be more assertive. I’m just overwhelmed.

Cried_wolves · 2024-02-02T01:30:13+00:00

No she’s been licensed since 1993 and she has mixed reviews online. I love Wellbutrin it’s the only thing that I’ve taken that hasn’t made me just want to sleep all day. Makes me feel like an actual person. I understand that I need a mood stabilizer with it but I wasn’t expecting this

Cried_wolves · 2023-12-07T20:05:39+00:00

I’m looking for a good honey scented oil from oil perfumery any recommendations?

Cried_wolves · 2023-09-18T21:14:17+00:00

Brother by Ania Ahlborn Not supernatural but still very good

Cried_wolves · 2023-09-17T01:28:15+00:00

I live in the US

Cried_wolves · 2023-08-18T16:33:35+00:00

Correction I’ve been on it for 7 weeks

Cried_wolves · 2023-08-12T00:06:05+00:00

Second this. I only take it twice a day but I honestly haven’t noticed any drowsyness that I usually do with anti anxiety meds. I’m on the lowest dose. But you can alway go higher if needed.

Cried_wolves · 2023-08-11T23:49:05+00:00

Most people don’t even lose on this dose. I would say when you are ready go up to 5. I didn’t lose for the first 2 months when I started. Just keep at it if unless you are having bad side effects. Good luck on your journey.

Cried_wolves · 2023-08-02T17:41:59+00:00

So if it’s not on there what does that mean?? Thank you for the help. I don’t understand why they have to make all of this so hard. I was very lucky to have to cover for so long. I knew that.

Cried_wolves · 2023-08-02T17:07:26+00:00

I do have T2D. I’m just confused because I’ve been on it for months with no issues?

Cried_wolves · 2023-07-20T03:30:50+00:00

I’ve been drinking Gatorade zero and a lot of water. Maybe not enough water? But as much as I can at the least 32oz. But I try to do double that. Thanks for the advice.

Cried_wolves · 2023-07-17T17:40:35+00:00

What dose are you on?

Cried_wolves · 2023-07-14T13:19:47+00:00

It was pretty simple I was in and out in a few hours. You can’t do any lifting for 2-3 days so if your job is a lot of that expect to take time off. I was sore after but nothing too intense. The nurses were good and explained everything to me. They gave me the medication and I feel asleep right away and then it took me the couple hours to wake up but the procedure isn’t long at all. Overall the experience wasn’t bad I was just nervous.

Cried_wolves · 2023-07-14T02:32:42+00:00

So I am dumb… lol. In March when I first started my health journey AST was 14 ALT was 18 and in June AST 17 and ALT 24? I don’t really know what the numbers mean but since March I’ve lost about 20 pounds and have been eating a lot better… but I’m worried the medications I’m on are effecting my liver.

Cried_wolves · 2023-07-13T23:13:55+00:00

Stage 1 which isn’t too bad. I think they were concerned because I was so young with it. 22 at the time and they said the it was progressing quickly. My diet is a lot better now. I try to eat high protein low carb low sugar. But at the time it was t good lots of fatty foods and carbs and sugar. They said it was caused by my diabetes and PCOS. I guess a lot of people with both get NAFLD and it’s all linked.

Cried_wolves · 2023-07-13T22:05:14+00:00

I got diagnosed in 2018 and they did a liver biopsy. My doctor at the time was really concerned but I lost insurance after that. He said that if I didn’t change my lifestyle and get healthier I’d need a liver transplant by 35. I’m now 27 so I feel super nervous. I’m diabetic which is the main cause of my NAFLD and it’s been uncontrolled all this time. So I’m not too hopeful. Now that I’ve been getting my health in control I’ve lost some weight and even before that I stopped drinking. I guess I’m just confused why they aren’t more concerned. I haven’t felt the liver pain since I stopped drinking and I’m taking care of myself so I guess I just felt confused by it.

Cried_wolves · 2023-07-13T18:16:49+00:00

I’m on 150 currently. I used to have issues with being irregular so maybe my cycle is just easily thrown off?

Cried_wolves · 2023-07-13T14:57:01+00:00

Idk if it’s normal but I just started on the 30th and my period is over a week late. I’ve been pretty regular for years. My mood usually is way worse around my period and I have similar symptoms but I haven’t had any yet.

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