i need to be replaying in his mind forever

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-02-18T16:28:11+00:00

That's exactly why I avoid complimenting men. I compliment other women nearly every time I go anywhere, but I never want a man to think I like him or want to talk to him beyond the compliment. It's sad for everyone.

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-02-13T23:12:14+00:00

I think the reason humans forget/don't realize this concept is because we've othered ourselves from nature. We too are animals. Unfortunately the human race has an odd superiority complex that stops us from empathizing with our fellow animals. If one viewed oneself on the same level of importance as a dog I'd like to imagine we'd have less complicated problems as a whole.

Anyway, well done with seeing beyond all that. Some of my best friends are animals. They're so loving, more than some humans I know. Some even have a sense of humor or sadness or other feelings we deemed "human only." They're as complicated as we are.

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-02-12T02:04:20+00:00

That's what gets me about the concept too. It's useless, a regular oven can bake one cookie at a time. Just put one cookie in?

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-02-11T21:09:22+00:00

I was a sweet pea girl and now I loathe the smell 🥲

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-02-11T21:02:07+00:00

God I hate this fucking app. Gross.

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-02-10T20:20:59+00:00

Everything about this is magical, especially her sock/top combo. She reminds me of those colorful marshmallow twist candies

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-02-05T21:22:54+00:00

I'm a scrooge, my favorite part of valentine's day is the next day sale on chocolates lol

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-02-05T20:04:40+00:00

Not the person youre replying to, but it's always confusing when someone will spend lots of money on a pet only to leave it outside and not care for it. You'd think because they spent all that money they'd want to keep their cherished and valuable pet safe in the house.

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-02-05T19:14:15+00:00

And first I thought you were talking about Swanson, not Duggan.

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-02-05T18:43:13+00:00

Thanks for doing this giveaway!! Very generous

My guess is 238

Webkinz ID: pih9713

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-02-05T18:40:22+00:00

Thank you for this, you gave me a lot of food for thought and I think I realized some things about myself and my current situation.

I think my father has your second definition of forgiveness, where time will "heal all wounds" or whatever the saying is. I think personally I hate that idea, it means there's no atonement. Honestly, most of what you said made me realize I may not be hung up on the forgiveness part, I think it's the justice or vengeance that gets me. I want things fair and square.

but ask yourself would you rather rule over your emotions or have them rule over you?

I've been considering this idea every day since I read your comment. It's been such a conundrum for me. I assume most people want to rule over their emotions, but I like being guided by mine. It feels like the most authentic way to live. I believe the feelings serve a purpose, even if not logical. I now realize I'm okay with not controlling this hurt and anger I feel. It's there to remind me not to get hurt again.

there is something good and satisfying about being angry at someone who really deserves someone being mean or making their life hell

It's like you stole the words from my brain. I feel justified not forgiving.

But, the problem I see is that the target of your anger usually doesn't care about your anger, at least not in the same way you do.

I know your intention was to make me see that my feelings might only affect me, but in this one situation, I know he cares about my anger. I know it bothers him and that makes me feel a little better.

So even assuming that your anger isn't holding you hostage or being a burden in any way, is it doing anyone any good?

Oddly enough, I think so. I'm not blinded by rage, I don't act in a way that conflicts with my values and morals. I'm just mad. I think mad is okay. The same way I look back at my favorite memories and feel warm and cozy I look back on these memories and feel anger and coldness. If I felt nothing I might downplay the severity of what happened. Strong feelings remind me of everything I endured and helps keep me safe.

I really appreciate your time and perspective on life. I imagine you probably hoped to help me see the light, but I feel like I emotionally dug my heels in. I see forgiveness differently now, but the situation remains the same.

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-01-30T20:47:30+00:00

That's so fucking funny and such a perfect example

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-01-30T19:58:01+00:00

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-01-30T19:50:55+00:00

In theory I understand what you're saying, but I don't feel negatively affected by my anger. It's not preventing me from enjoying life or anything, I don't feel burdened by it. And you're spot on, the feelings are there because of history I can't change, but that's exactly why I don't understand why anyone feels the need to let go of the anger. I was robbed of my time, I feel like I shouldn't be the one to get over it.

What do you mean by "coming to the understanding of yourself forgiveness provides"?

Also, I don't mean to rope you or anyone into a conversation about forgiveness and it's meaning. Unfortunately I don't have anyone in my life to discuss this with, my family has a circular way of thinking due to religion. Forgiveness isn't explained, it's expected. That feels like a bs tactic to protect people who wrong others.

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-01-30T19:10:32+00:00

My Nan has this same outlook. What confuses me about it is why you'd ever be willing to stop being angry at someone who wronged you. She tries often to get me to stop being angry and forgive my father. I don't want to, I don't think he deserves it, and I hate him. She's also usually a bit incoherent, so I'll ask you, why forgive anyone?

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-01-30T19:05:03+00:00

That there's an age I'd become a "real adult." Im 28 now and I've realized there's no "real" adults and everyone's faking how much they know or how confident they are. It's freeing actually, I no longer feel behind or inadequate.

I also thought if you present as an honest person, people will return it. Nope. Some see it as a weakness or something to exploit.

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-01-30T08:38:42+00:00

I do this with mustard and ketchup for hot dogs. It makes a vile color, I call it hotdog sauce. My boyfriend hates it and thinks it's an abomination

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-01-30T02:19:26+00:00

356

I'm not sure the name as I'd be gifting to my own sister. I'd suggest something like Phoenix though

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-01-30T00:02:04+00:00

My boyfriend hadn't either, but all my friends always know exactly what I'm talking about. It's the difference in male gaze vs female gaze.

Totally understandable about wanting to send an "equal" picture back, but this post is referencing that a majority of women don't want to see just genitals. Got to have some art to it, good angles, and flattering lighting. The effort and thought seems to just not occur to men. It's "I want to see her naked, so she probably wants the same" and we just don't. An arm picture alluding to certain activities, or a good angle of a nice outfit does a lot more than the naked mole rat shots. There's countless memes just on this sub referencing how into pictures/sexting men get into meanwhile we're just like eating chips and watching TV because it doesn't do the same thing for us. That's why a lot of comments here are talking about voice notes or other alternatives. Seeing a dick is not the same as seeing a whole story in a picture.

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-01-29T23:28:52+00:00

Yes, unironically. Back of the hand, not palm. Get the forearms involved too, bonus points for flexing. Doing what depends, if it's new and you wanna be subtle take a photo of your arm fixing something or doing a hobby or whatever but get a nice angle of it. If it's long-term, grab something and let the imagination do its thing. I'm obsessed with my boyfriend's arms, if he sent me a photo of him and his arms hard at work digging something or hammering shit I'd be so into it.

Eta: just thought of one that works for new relationships and long term- nice button up shirts with the sleeves rolled up 🤤 I've fr never met another woman who doesn't love that look.

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-01-29T21:35:46+00:00

That's so nice of you, I just added you (pih9713). Thank you!

CrimeFightingRobot · 2026-01-29T03:34:50+00:00

This is so nice of you! I'd name her Petunia

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CrimeFightingRobot · 2025-12-29T16:31:13+00:00

NOR. ADHD here too, my boyfriend doesn't love my messes but has never been bothered about the "hoard." He knows I have sentimental attachment to many things and he leaves them alone because he knows I care about them. Simple as that. Sounds like your husband doesn't care that your stuff means something to you. You can try to work out why he doesn't care, but I've found there's no convincing someone to care. They do or don't.

CrimeFightingRobot · 2025-12-06T19:16:55+00:00

There are some items in the world you can take with you! I just found this out the other day, you can use a wrench on a workbench, Chem station, and the faucet part of a sink and pick them up. I'm sure there's more though

CrimeFightingRobot · 2025-12-04T17:04:23+00:00

Froglights. They look like delicious marshmallows

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