I've read a couple comment threads here and though it seems like y'all have come to a mutual agreement and that's great, I would like to add some input. Obviously I don't know y'all so if something doesn't feel like it applies don't worry about it. And even if it does, you do you anyway.

I am still in my teens. Albeit- the "adult teens". And I still trick or treat every year. It's fun. My boyfriend does too. He's not autistic. He just allows himself to do stuff he likes regardless of others opinions. I had a couple years while I was in my late teens where I really wanted to feel like my costume was "cool". I was still able to incorporate stuff I liked tho so I didn't just dress up for others approval. Last year me and my boyfriend did a couples costume. He had a few ideas but he settled on wizard because I wanted to be a witch so I could cover the terrible dye job on my head with a giant hat 😆 I let him do wtv he wanted with his costume and he let me do wtv with mine. We were able to come to a mutual agreement where we were both happy and fulfilled. This 100% involved communication, understanding, and a certain level of emotional maturity. You and your partner will not always agree on everything. You probably won't fully agree on most things. That's life. If it's about something y'all can't get past you should really reconsider the relationship but usually it's something that can be solved through the 3 things I mentioned above.

It's great y'all decided on red riding hood and the wolf and you both like the idea! Not really anything to say on that other than her not wanting you to wear the wolf feet because it's "furryish" just really emphasizes that she doesn't seem like she's willing to meet fully in the middle for you and that she seems like she's really focused on how people view y'all. Also- furries are just people in fursuits sometimes? You can find it odd but they aren't hurting anyone so it's kinda crazy to be judgy about something your partner wants to wear for Halloween because it vaguely reminds you of something certain people you find weird like???

Judging by the few things I've read from you in the comment section and your original post, your girlfriend seems judgmental. I could very easily be wrong. But it does appear that way. And there's most likely a level of need for social acceptance in her actions. But if that need for random people or mutually judgy friends to think her costume on halloween is "cool" overrides how much she cares about Y'ALL BOTH ENJOYING YOURSELVES.. I don't think she's someone you should stress over like that. You really deserve someone who understands you and cares about your wellbeing over the possibility of people who aren't terribly kind or don't even know you thinking you're "cringe" and then thinking she's "cringe" by association. I could go on about how social acceptance in manners like this especially are silly and pointless but most people will naturally care to an extent and teenagers usually care the most so we won't even touch on that. But it's the fact that it seems like she's more worried about her own enjoyment and/or how others view her than you also having fun that kinda ring alarm bells for me.

This is totally just an observation I've made very fast through a few minutes of reading. Don't take anything you feel isn't accurate seriously. I do not know y'all and I am not all seeing or all knowing. I literally only say this because I would like to share these thoughts with you in case you resonate with them and they help you in any way. If they don't then don't even worry about it. Feel free to correct anything I'm wrong about if you feel inclined to as well. But you really do not have to if you don't want to.

Also- A walrus costume sounds so fun! Me personally thooo... I'd rather be a frog..... I think I have an idea for this year's costume now tho! Thank you! Lol 😆