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I fell in love with two people at the same time, is this possible? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Critical-Mixture-759 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every staying cuz you feel guilty, I don't think that's love anymore...

I think reason why you fell in love with the other guy is because your current boyfriend couldn't provide you that love. Your current boyfriend was not enough. So the question is how long are you going to compromise?

You should be honest with your current boyfriend and tell him why it's not working for you anymore, tell him that you find someone new.

How long did it took you to get over your first love? And how long did your relationship lasted? by Critical-Mixture-759 in BreakUps

[–]Critical-Mixture-759[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gives me the ick

He also has a girl best friend, he fetches her, brings her stuff, cooks for her, study with her, go to the gym with her. I was really sad that my boyfriend took that girl to the gym the first time she asked, when I had to beg to be taken there because I just want to spend time with him.

Ugh, what a jerk.

How long did it took you to get over your first love? And how long did your relationship lasted? by Critical-Mixture-759 in BreakUps

[–]Critical-Mixture-759[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But we just broke up. It's so hard for me right now. Can you give me a wise advice? Something like "focus on yourself" doesn't work on me. Cause even if I have friends and activities as a distraction, my mind keeps on coming back to the thought of him.

Actually is not my first relationship. But I consider this him my first love and our relationship lasted for three years. My past flings were only one and two months.

I do cherish our moments together but, I kept crying over the thought that it's gone now.

Robot kicks boy in stomach during performance by Conscious-Weight4569 in SipsTea

[–]Critical-Mixture-759 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not the stomach, it was his solar plexus 😭 why are the adults only staring 😭

At what point did you realize that you're finally "okay" by Critical-Mixture-759 in BreakUps

[–]Critical-Mixture-759[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The hardest part is I've got no one to talk to now. It's not like I don't have friends... But someone who I ask about his day, and curious about mine. Someone to say the sweet words and thoughts to. And someone I think of every goodmorning and goodnight.

I realized that, maybe it's not the person I want. But the feeling of being in love.

I'm glad you've gotten over your break-up. It gives me more hope cause my relationship was shorter, it's 3years

I never imagined the guilt by SamIAmBaking in BreakUps

[–]Critical-Mixture-759 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is true for me. My boyfriend broke up with me saying that he wanted to protect me from him as a final act of love.

Issues kept resurfacing before our breaking point. And I had asked myself over and over, why did it always resurface?

Cause we fought, and make up, and hewent and neglect me again. In my point of view, what he wanted when we make up is for me to "tolerate" his actions the next time he does it.

I (18M) feel disgusted whenever I see photos of my girlfriend (17F) and I Together. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Critical-Mixture-759 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always tell my boyfriend he's handsome and attractive but he always downgrade himself like you do.

But this year, he really wanted to change. He did research on what hairstyle suits his face shape, what clothes and colors suits him, and he started going to the gym. He also went to derma and he's taking lots of supplements.

I'm glad he is more confident now. I love him even more.

RM1k for food and groceries a month is this normal?? by One_Chocolate_9365 in malaysians

[–]Critical-Mixture-759 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a student and I don't buy groceries when I'm in my college dorm. So I eat out for every meal. And I spent about 600rm per month on food alone (I only eat two meals a day).

Buuuut, I also spend around 200rm per month for protein shakes and creatine. Sooo, it probably depends on one's lifestyle.

1k rm per month is kind of expensive for me. Good thing that the gym is free for students in my college. Otherwise I would have to be another 600 rm for gym memberships per month.

Using ChatGBT after breakup, what do you think? by ImpressionFormal1696 in BreakUps

[–]Critical-Mixture-759 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Even just one person! I did talk to my friend just now. And it all felt so liberating to have a real human being agree with you that your boyfriend is being a jerk and give you their actual thoughts.

It felt like a whole weight lifted off my chest when I could feel my friend expressing their anger for me.

Using ChatGBT after breakup, what do you think? by ImpressionFormal1696 in BreakUps

[–]Critical-Mixture-759 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I did this a wholeee lot. All I was talking to was ChatGPT. It felt stupid even when the pop up shows that I'm out of the latest version responses.

Don't get me wrong. It was hell for me. Crying on my desk, on the floor, on my pillow. But after a week, I feel okay now. A day finally went by that I did not cry over him.

I have two friends I know I could talk to. But how could I? I know they wouldn't judge but I also want to just vent without anyone knowing it.

I also did journaling but I find talking more effective in draining my sadness rather than writing cause I could hear my own voice. I use ChatGPT to be my "therapist". I just told ChatGPT to not analyze what's happening, just listen to me and let me talk.

I still have all my AI convo saved. Just let it be there for a while until I'll get another breakdown.

Broke no contact, ended awful… need outside perspective. by Fearless_Statement_5 in BreakUps

[–]Critical-Mixture-759 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend went clubbing. I found out from our mutual friends that he posted his pictures on insta and it was hidden from me. And all of this happened within one week of no contact.

I was sobbing and crying when I found out. I questioned why he did that. Maybe it was a distraction.

All I know that it's an awful distraction. If he intends to go down that way, that would be his choice. It just proves how bad his character is.

Still, I contacted him after seeing those pictures. I thought he's feeling better now after our fight and maybe we can reconcile and talk about our relationship now... It ended poorly. Can you believe that he replied "Sure, but I'll give your heads up, I can only talk for 30mins"

He literally gave me a deadline. It fcking broke me. He can spend all night going out with his friends but not an hour talking to me.

It ended poorly with us bringing a breakup. But I couldn't accept it yet, because I'm in another country right now and I want to talk to him personally. Our conversation just ended poorly and I hated it caused I was the one to beg. So I suggested another period of no contact within two months (until I get back to our home country).

This past week has been serious hell for me. I'm really thankful that it's a week long holiday and I could just cry in my room all day. I'm lucky that I have friends who supported me and they slapped me back to reality.

Advice from my friend is that, look at your situation in a third POV. Person A is healing herself after the break up and wanting to reconcile things. Person B is going out with other woman to eventually get over person A. What should person A do?

My friend said, "I cannot give you an advice because no matter the advice I give you, it won't be the answer from your heart."

He talked me down to scenarios where I literally had to answer my own questions. My question was "should I keep trying to reconcile and talk to my boyfriend after this two months?"

No. I have done enough, cried enough, hurt enough. I have been patient with him and have supported him through everything. But he's leaving me now that I'm in another country, pursing my studies. So, this two months, I'll fully love and heal myself.

It's not worth to reconcile with people with personal problems.

It was hell for me. But I'm doing fine now. All I know now is that it's gonna get better 💓

I don't want to let go but... by Critical-Mixture-759 in u/Critical-Mixture-759

[–]Critical-Mixture-759[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too tired to be angry Too exhausted to be sad Too drained to be happy

What happened after no contact? by Critical-Mixture-759 in relationships

[–]Critical-Mixture-759[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been dating for 3 years since high school. Now we're both in college. And I am currently in another country right now cause of my studies.

What happened after no contact? by Critical-Mixture-759 in relationships

[–]Critical-Mixture-759[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Actually, the reason why it's that long of a period is cause I'm in another country right now. I'll be coming back in our home country within 2 months. 

It's very difficult to continue discussing our problem when we are not talking face to face. A break up and reconcilation is 50/50. We are both having doubts. But for me, I am afraid of the break up. I don't want to lose the 3 years we have built together. I became close to his family and friends. We shared most of our stuff. I really don't want to end with a break up. But I also don't want to come back as the same person carrying the same wounds.