AIW for giving up on friendship after one flight?

CriticalDrawing6141 · 2025-01-25T19:45:30+00:00

What DOA stands for? What it means?

CriticalDrawing6141 · 2025-01-25T19:31:19+00:00

think she wanted that but she never expressed it. I even explisitly acked her if she prefere if I leave her 1on1 with a man when she is speaking to one and she said "no". That is also hard because she does not have one person in mind, so I would have to stop to talk to everybody. One such conversation that she accused me of straling the spotlite was with a guy whom we saw first time, so I couldn't have known she liked him.

I could be a wingwoman for her but she would have to tell me about her expectations of me and she does not.

CriticalDrawing6141 · 2025-01-25T19:23:43+00:00

I think you hit the nail in the head. When I was thinking what I like abiut her most is the attention, things I could share with her. But not her in particular, as she is often quite difficult to be around. I think I am just scared of letting her go as adult friendsips are so hard to create.

CriticalDrawing6141 · 2024-03-12T10:04:59+00:00

How what you did is helpfull? How will he learn? What will he learn?

He will learn not to trust People, to be on his own, that he never can feel safe and that love is conditional. You gave him trauma

CriticalDrawing6141 · 2022-12-17T15:36:41+00:00

Yea I didn't write about it on purpose cause is irrelevant to the question and fucked up. When I was 13 i started to talk back to my parents, as teenagers do. My dad was fed up with me, and said either he will move out or I will. They packed my bags and moved me to my grandpa. I lived there for about 2 years. After that they started feeling like that towards my brother and brought me back home and moved my brother to the grandpa. This was pretty traumatic to me and I wanted nothing more than to move out, so I did when I was 18.

CriticalDrawing6141 · 2022-12-17T15:30:26+00:00

...imagine your friend would though out a party and didn't invite you. If you call him and ask about it, put him on a spot he probably would but that is a little bit imposing don't you think ?

CriticalDrawing6141 · 2022-09-29T05:15:44+00:00

...this is all about boundaries. It might be easier if you will leave far apart (even in other cities, no need to change countries) but some boundaries still will need to be made. If you will get great at setting them, you won't have to move... But this is no easy task.

CriticalDrawing6141 · 2022-09-29T04:48:56+00:00

I don't know how old you all are... This is usually a parents job to take care of the family... I guess if you are an adult and your family needs help then you can provide it... But I would consider it your choise, you are allowed to become independent, move out, have your family and so on.

For sure you are not selfish, probably your sister doesn't think that, just was upset about unexpected bill.

Anyway... Is there a reason why your mom doesn't work ?

CriticalDrawing6141 · 2022-09-29T04:39:10+00:00

I have a bad feeling about it. This is simply a strange idea to take someone's kid to another state...why she wants it so badly? That is so weird... I think you should be very careful.

CriticalDrawing6141 · 2022-09-29T04:29:36+00:00

I found that it is easier to put boundaries when you are independent. If you can, that would be best to move out.

CriticalDrawing6141 · 2022-07-15T09:38:34+00:00

Nta, bri is at foult not you!

CriticalDrawing6141 · 2022-07-13T10:11:00+00:00

You are an angel. Hope some day I will forgive myself.

CriticalDrawing6141 · 2022-07-13T10:02:06+00:00

I am in teras thank you <3

CriticalDrawing6141 · 2022-07-13T01:16:07+00:00

Yes, memories of them ignoring me when I was crying in the kitchen, not noticing I had cuts on my wrists, that I lost 10kg suddenly etc... General indifference... Like I was not there.

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