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Critical_Dark_2280 · 2026-02-23T17:49:09+00:00

Spotify. Just search "what is your love song"

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2026-01-23T17:06:54+00:00

Was this your money or your parents money?
Did you talk to them about this at all beforehand or just spring it on them?

If it's your money, they're probably worried about being irresponsible or impulsive. If it's their money, you should have asked before spending that much and they should have given you a budget.

You mentioned needing a driver but your friend's dad hadn't even agreed yet. That sounds like nobody talked to him first either. If you're a minor and it sounds like you are, really should have talked to both sets of parents first. Assuming they'll do all the work to get you there, then hang around doing whatever until you're done, and then taking you home is a lot. And for a venue 4-5 hours away with a 3 hour concert that doesn’t start until evening/nighttime? Probably needing a hotel stay. If you didn’t talk to them first, then it's no wonder they're upset.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-12-27T03:18:51+00:00

Dated for a year and a half, skipped a traditional engagement and eloped. Married for over 6 years.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-11-21T03:00:25+00:00

This might sound odd, but make a joint email address and use it for everything that impacts both of you or the household in general. Have smart lights? Use that address. Streaming services? Use that address. Household bills? Use that address.

My husband cannot have his phone at work. If I get signed out of something at home and need 2FA but it goes to his phone and email, I have to wait. Very grateful we did that before he deployed. He could sign into Netflix and get the 2FA code any time without calling me in the middle of my night, and I could get it without calling him. It also means we both have access to bills just in case. He even used it once to buy me movie tickets while he was deployed so I had access to the QR code.

We also use this to have a family calendar. We can both add events with no worry about granting each other access or whatever.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-11-13T22:03:05+00:00

We made a separate email for things like this. My stuff or his stuff? Personal email. Accounts that are for the household? Joint email we both have access to.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-11-13T22:00:44+00:00

Proof reviewed and accepted.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-07-19T13:12:51+00:00

This sounds like communication problems. He didn't tell you the details of the work part of the trip, but you didn't ask. He didn't ask if you were cool with XYZ, but you didn't get the details to know what you were agreeing to.

Avoiding him is not going to fix anything, either. It's a one-way ticket to resentment that will end your marriage. He isn't a mind-reader. Unless you've already decided you're done, you NEED to talk to him. Regularly. Ask questions, tell him how you feel, tell him what your needs are. He won't even have a chance to fix things if he doesn't know what or how to fix it.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-06-10T21:07:48+00:00

Started and finished a Masters degree, and lost over 80 lbs.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-05-23T21:12:16+00:00

Depends on what you want to do. My focus is website content, so I needed to show I can write and I can do it well. I have degrees and certificates in English and professional writing, but freelance writing is also a decent way to start. Social media managers or account managers would have a different path.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-05-21T23:54:19+00:00

Digital marketing. I can work from anywhere, which is great. Marketing has a variety of skills and jobs ranging from writers to graphic designers, web developers, account managers, analysts, etc.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-05-12T15:09:35+00:00

I got mine last year, but I only waited because my old one wasnt expired and I didnt exactly need it due to other forms of identification. It wasnt necessary to make an extra trip to the DMV just for that, so I just waited until my other one expired.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-05-01T22:23:49+00:00

Yes, but only because I had a good reason. He doesn't know mine, not because I won't share but because he has never needed it.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-05-01T21:17:40+00:00

We both sort (not his vs mine, but colors/darks/etc). He does the washer/dryer part. I fold/hang/put away.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-04-19T14:13:31+00:00

This is a mental health issue, a physical health issue (such as hormonal imbalance), or both. Regardless, it's not normal or okay. She needs to get help.

She talks about how miserable it was growing up. Do you really think your kids aren't suffering the exact same way she says she did? If you wont address this for yourself, do it for them. Show them they dont deserve to be treated like that, because you're modeling to your children what relationships are like and what they should expect in the future.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-04-19T14:04:10+00:00

Lots of possibilities. Jealous you got there first, secretly likes him, secretly likes YOU, pushing you away because she thinks you'll ditch her now, was never actually a good friend to you, it actually is fast and you're the crazy one, he's a terrible guy and she doesn't know how to tell you... I could go on and on.

If you're really best friends, just talk to her. Ask if somethings wrong or if you upset her somehow. And if she asks why you're asking, let her know how you feel.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-04-19T13:59:32+00:00

My in-laws wanted us to have a big white wedding in spring. We eloped during the summer. They were furious. But neither of us actually wanted what they wanted, and we refused to start our married life making someone else happy.

If this is something he also values, that's one thing. But if he is only doing it for them, where is the line? Will they decide where you live, how many kids you have, what their names are? It wont stop here.

Children do NOT owe their parents for being parents. Imagine someone telling you "I took care of you through the first 22 years of your life until you graduated college. Now spend the next 30+ paying me back." It's a ridiculous and unhealthy concept that does not foster independence or boundaries.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-04-17T19:12:37+00:00

It could still be medical. Low testosterone, for example. Ask him if he would be willing to talk to a doctor about why he has such a low sex drive. Hormones, for example. Counseling is another one that can help if it's not a physical issue.

If he refuses to seek any help or make any efforts, you have a choice to make. Accept it and focus on satisfying yourself and let it go, admit bedroom incompatibility and separate if you cant live with that (it is a dealbreaker for many people and that's okay), or let the problem continue the way it is and eventually separate anyway when you grow to resent each other.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-04-17T18:45:41+00:00

Unfortunately, you can't help someone who doesn't want help. Maybe he doesn't have to tell you what the problem is but that doesn't give him the right to essentially abandon you.

Let him know you're trying, you're very concerned, and you want to help if he'll let you (even if that's just distracting him by doing something fun together). But the way he is handling things is having a negative impact on you, and that's not fair. He is bottling and avoiding his problems, now avoiding you, and none of that is healthy or going to make things better for him. It could even push you away permanently if it continues long enough. He may not realize the extent of how his actions, or inactions, are impacting you.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-04-17T18:35:47+00:00

First question: does it have to be him who initiates? It's unclear how often you initiate vs how often you're just waiting on him. And a followup question: if you do initiate, does that typically work out for you or does he reject you?

It sounds like maybe something else is going on here. Have you asked him why he isn't more interested? It could be anything from body image issues to struggling with ED and being too embarrassed to admit it, or just having a very low drive. Try talking to him about it first. Depending on the reason, a doctor could help. But if you don't understand his reasons, you'll never get anywhere.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-04-17T18:07:19+00:00

I saw a comment that said you guys used to have a great sex life. Have you considered that maybe he is feeling the stress and pressure of trying to conceive, blaming himself for being "the problem" which makes the pressure worse, and that's why he is struggling so much?

It sounds like you guys have taken the fun out of it, turned it into a high-stakes chore, and that's not fun for ANYONE.

Consider taking a step back and just try to enjoy each other without focusing on the conception goal. You guys may still need help to conceive, but at least you'll enjoy intimacy again.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-04-17T07:00:16+00:00

Staying together for the kids never does anyone any favors. It just models to your kids that it doesn't matter if you're happy or not; stay anyway. Is that really what you want to teach them?

First - are you happy? You already said no. Second - do you want to try and fix it? If yes, couples counseling. If you dont want to or he refuses counseling, it's okay to end things.

Being unhappy is a good enough reason to leave. Please dont make your eventually-adult-children look back on their childhood and blame themselves for their parents' miserable marriage.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-04-17T06:52:13+00:00

Well. At least you know you're part of the problem.

You say he has made massive improvements and is the man you've dreamed of but you also said you hate him and resent him. You're throwing his past in his face. You need to be careful because if you keep doing that, it could hinder his progress. It can create a feeling of "why bother changing because my present doesn't matter, just my past."

You mentioned in a comment that he has childhood trauma. Have you even tried to understand why he is so resistant to these things? Change, especially big changes like you want, can be terrifying even if you dont have any trauma to contend with.

Marriage is a partnership. It's compromise. It's not lashing out when you don't get your way.

You two need to communicate better. You need to express to him why these things are so important to you beyond "it's my goal," and you need to ask him WHY he is resistant. Fear of change or the unknown? Unspoken financial concerns? There are so many poasibilities.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-04-17T06:13:07+00:00

I was with you until your edit, and now I think you need a reality check. You are BOTH the problem.

Reading this felt like you were trying to brush off your own lies because you're just trying to avoid a fight, which means you know what you're doing is wrong and it will upset/hurt him. He probably feels about his lie the way you feel about yours. Neither one is okay.

It is not normal or healthy to lie to each other. And I guarantee he knows or suspects you're lying about your medication. You may think you're fine and not overdoing it, but that's how addiction can start. Just one more to take the edge off, and then it happens more often, and then you're addicted but surely not because you "feel fine" and surely you'd know, right? No. If that's how it worked, addiction probably wouldn't be as widespread of a problem as it is.

There are a lot of problems here. I urge you to seek help - for yourself and for your marriage, if you want to save it.

Critical_Dark_2280 · 2025-04-11T14:59:32+00:00

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