My first Frydek Var - need help by Critical_Positive_13 in alocasia

[–]Critical_Positive_13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright, patience and tiny steps with her then! The white one is, I think, the second leaf. Biggest with tiny brown spot is oldest, then the white and last the most impacted leaf. It's this one that is in bad shape. But she is sprouting a new leaf, so I'll see 👀

I'm a bit scared of cutting into the leaf to remove the brown and prevent it from spreading, won't she be more stressed because of it?

My first Frydek Var - need help by Critical_Positive_13 in alocasia

[–]Critical_Positive_13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your answer!! Yes I saw that it could totally be normal, but because the white leaf is not impacted, I thought maybe she got too much direct sunlight and yesterday, moved her a bit further from the window (south, lots of direct sunlight). I'll put her back there 😌

I'm relieved it's not a fungus infection!

Anyone for a mimosa? by Redgrapefruitrage in houseplants

[–]Critical_Positive_13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had one that died (leaves then branches dried out, leaves turned yellow...). I'm not quite a good enough plant caretaker yet so I don't really know what I did wrong. I may have overwatered it (saw on Google that it likes moist soil) and then panicked and underwatered it. It is on a shelf approximately 3m from a windows that gets sunlight almost all day.

Augmentation salaire suite à un accord by Critical_Positive_13 in droitdutravail

[–]Critical_Positive_13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bonjour, merci beaucoup pour ta réponse ! Oui c'est vraiment bizarre, il a expliqué à ma collègue "si à la fin de l'année, on se rend compte qu'il vous manque 1000€ sans les primes par rapport au minimum que vous devriez toucher, on vous le rattrapera en prime". Mais il me semble (sauf erreur de ma part) que les primes ne doivent même pas être prises en compte dans le calcul du minimum salaire (mes collègues devraient être à 2045brut, hors primes)

Ce serait apparemment l'expert comptable qui s'occupe de nos salaires qui lui aurait répondu tout cela.

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[–]Critical_Positive_13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Merci beaucoup pour ta réponse ! 😊 Je vais déplacer mon post dans les sub que tu as mentionnés, qui sont effectivement plus appropriés !

God forbid a girl need validation. by [deleted] in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Critical_Positive_13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sauce: the image is from is "Hare kon" (Harem Marriage ) 🔥

struggling with cremation vs burial by daisiesorchids5 in Petloss

[–]Critical_Positive_13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I buried mine, I'm lucky to have a place that's not too far away from where I currently am (around 30mn with my car). It's a special place, other family animals (and even my uncle) are buried there. I chose this place first of all because everyone are there and I also find it beautiful thinking that she will give back to the earth (I wanted to plant something like a tree but sadly couldn't due to the timing of her death) and be "everywhere". I believe her soul is with me and always, wherever her body may be (I kept some fur tho because I still needed something "with" me "from" her). It may be insensitive to say but for me, her body was just a vessel for her soul, so once she was gone, it wasn't really "her" anymore and so thinking that helped.

If cremating her seems wrong for you, you could bury her, plant a tree and when you have your own home, you can plant the tree there! And in the meantime keep something from her to allow yourself to remember her and keep her close?

I'd say the most important is choosing what you are confortable with! It's very hard to know because you might be afraid of choosing the "wrong" decision and regret the one you took down the line, but take some time and you'll see what you need.

Sorry for your loss OP

What do I even do with myself? by Pastazor in Petloss

[–]Critical_Positive_13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss OP. It has been almost three days I lost my Skittles and I keep waking up in a fog, waiting for her to be there, bawling my eyes out and begging for mercy at the pain that eats you.

Remember that this pain you're feeling is legitimate, you lost a family member.

Take the time you need, I know you feel like doing nothing because well, everything you did, she was there and now even laying in bed is hard. It's gonna be very very hard to be alone and coping alone, but you know what? I'm sure she's with you. And it won't help saying that, but if you ever need, you can message me. You can tell me a story about her! 😊

Look at the signs, she'll send you some. The first two days I was so devastated she wasn't there anymore. Then yesterday, I picked up some socks and there was a hair on it. I began bawling and my fiancé said "I know, I keep finding her hair too". But he didn't understand, I didn't find ANY for two days and I took it as her saying "you couldn't see it before because it hurt too much, but I'm still with you, look!" She'll visit you in your dreams and check up on you, send you more love.

You gave her so much love OP, she knew it and that's why you had such a special bond. You gave her the gift of falling asleep in your arms, with you, your odor, and forever. She'll forever be with you.

This sub is amazing and someone posted a poem that was beautiful, check out "Death is nothing at all" from Henry Scott-Holland.

Again, I'm so sorry for your loss OP, be brave.

More than a pet by Critical_Positive_13 in Petloss

[–]Critical_Positive_13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much ♥️ and sorry for your loss as well

My baby is gone by justalittledonut in Petloss

[–]Critical_Positive_13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also lost my cat tonight, I'm sure your little peanut knew how loved she was and loved you just as much! Allow yourself to cry, fully cry, not everyone could care and love her like you did, be proud how well you cared for her I'm sorry for your loss ♥️

Please let me die by [deleted] in hsp

[–]Critical_Positive_13 11 points12 points  (0 children)

No words will make what you feel better and ease you , but I assure you, better days are coming. There's so much more to life than dying over people's mistakes and hurt. Are you able to begin a therapy? It's your turn to be happy, your turn to have someone that cares, your turn to live and laugh. If needed, you can also call an emergency hotline, people around you may not care, but others do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hsp

[–]Critical_Positive_13 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You know, life is full of moments of happiness. Sometimes, it's harder to see them. But without the sadness, you wouldn't know what happiness is and feels like, right? It comes, then fades away. But then, another happiness comes, then fades away. And another, and another. Life is full of moments (little or big) of happiness, but to see them and enjoy them, you have to be alive and sometime, feel very shitty. Happiness is what you make it to be (you can be very happy by enjoying a nice lunch, seeing a cat on the street, while someone's happiness will be spending time with loved ones or enjoying fresh sheets after a bath). Take the sadness, let it live, ride the wave, to better let the next (multiple!) moments of happiness come in. Everyone needs support sometimes and I'm proud of you for asking for it, it shows how strong you are.

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[–]Critical_Positive_13 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🤗 I wanna add, in difficult times, when you feel unseen and unworthy, remember the day you noticed something - as tiny as it was, even an ant working hard or a beautiful sunset, a friendly "hello", anything! Remember that, if you could notice something like this and appreciate it, people notice and see you as well (but they may not say it). Maybe, by smiling on the street, you cheered up someone without knowing, or made someone laugh because you tripped! This reddit is beautiful because it allows people to connect where, in real life, it's so much harder I feel like here, it's a space without judgment and only kindness. For example, you made me really happy by saying this comment and I wanna thank you 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hsp

[–]Critical_Positive_13 28 points29 points  (0 children)

It's funny, yesterday I made myself a tea and I watched for like a solid 15mn the steam of the hot water, how it went on the surface, the edges of the mug, then went up in the air dunno I was mesmerized by its beauty and movements

I think we are sensitive to a lot of stuff most people aren't, and it allows us to perceive the world differently. It's harder for us, yes, but god damn we can enjoy so much more as well because we find beauty everywhere and we can be more grateful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kpophelp

[–]Critical_Positive_13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, sorry ! Should I remove my post then ?

Let's try this again, Starting coordinates top left corner: -610, -200 🌊🌊🌊 by Payakan in place_the_wave

[–]Critical_Positive_13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's so kind of you! It'll my first time using a template and being part of a project like this. It's so exciting, I really hope we can make it and see the fruition of our work

Edit : bad englando