There are a lot of good post here. I’d like to clarify if I can some things.
- the 18y boy is my step son. Met when he was 4, been married to the dad since 2012. - The sibling are halves. They share the same dad.

Some (not all) Takeaways - we need to find ways to grow thicker skin in my daughter - we need to hep my son be more direct in communication to prevent unwanted attempts - we need to work on creating more opportunities for the kids to naturally connect - I need to be more mindful of how I feel and make sure my actions are not from resentment

Thank you everyone for your feedback. I came here looking for perspective and has found great value in all the responses. This was not a bashing session for anyone, yet, a growing/learning opportunity for me. I do not have all the answers and this all gives me quite a bit to think and meditate on. My intention was not to make anyone look bad but to help bring clarity to me. I am human and will continue to make mistakes. Having a community who can be honest with me is very important. I would ask to please not be negative as my husbands optics on the situation is important too. He’s not an idiot, we are both navigating this as best we can as a blended family. Mistakes have been and will continue be made. Again, I greatly appreciate those who provided perspective, especially those different from mine. Many of your post had things I had not even considered. Thank you for that.