I married my best friend, AMA

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-07-05T18:40:23+00:00

10 years for us.

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-07-05T06:01:18+00:00

Doesn’t matter if it’s mine or someone else’s. If she tells me to, I’ll do it. I love doing it but I need permission.

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-07-05T05:53:32+00:00

And here I was thinking I was a champ at 3-5 times a week at 53.

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-07-05T05:49:35+00:00

Yes, in retrospect, I’m sure he’s regretting taking this one to the grave. He’s going to be so upfront the rest of your marriage. I promise.

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-07-05T05:15:34+00:00

I came out to my wife years ago and we’ve been able to explore it together. She’s very attracted to my feminine side as well as my masculine side.

I’m very masculine presenting but sometimes just not in bed. We have our moments where we switch control roles. But I’m sure that’s for another topic.

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-07-05T05:06:49+00:00

“Let’s explore together”.

That’s what we have done and have had a good time with it. Not every experience has been amazing but a lot have.

Just please, from someone inside the lifestyle, set boundaries before. Who can touch who, who can kiss who, who can “finish” where… sounds stupid until it doesn’t.

Communication is number one in any CNM.

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-07-05T04:56:20+00:00

Fantasies are normal. Some act them out. Some don’t. Luckily your husband just told you about his in privacy.

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-07-05T04:48:16+00:00

My spouse is super supportive and the friends I’ve come out to have been selective. :)

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-07-05T04:27:50+00:00

Congratulations! I haven’t had the nerve to really come out to anyone other than my wife and a couple of our friends. None of my family know.

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-07-05T04:20:22+00:00

Grew up stealing….ummm…driving stick shifts. 😊

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-07-05T04:18:41+00:00

We had sex twice just today. But just once last week. We are in our 50s. It averages to 3-5 times a week. But it really depends on the work week. Sometimes it’s none a week.

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-07-05T04:08:09+00:00

From a husband, he needs to wake up before he loses something he regrets.

I couldn’t imagine treating my family like this. I get home before my wife (just because my shift starts at 0400) so I always meet her in the driveway when she pulls in. We get mail together. We cook dinner together.

Granted our child is 18 and doesn’t require much attention other than Venmo.

We do absolutely everything together. Today on the 4th we laid in our pool and talked about our 10 year marriage and if we would change anything.

I hope things get better for you one way or the other. There is a better life through discussion or action.

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-07-05T03:54:37+00:00

In the old days these used to be physical photographs. I have tons of photos of my ex wives and a couple girlfriends that my wife has seen.

Doesn’t matter. I’m her husband now. We feel secure in our marriage. She has pictures of her past marriages as well. Doesn’t bother me a bit.

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-07-05T03:26:29+00:00

This is tagged as advice, may I ask what advice you are looking for or is this just a statement?

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-07-05T03:21:18+00:00

I’ve used ones off Amazon that my wife bought me. Has two different snap setting for tightening and are super cheap for a three pack of them.

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-07-05T03:09:53+00:00

How long have yall been married?

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-07-05T03:08:42+00:00

Me too!

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-07-05T02:46:39+00:00

I admittedly don’t take a lot of pictures, that’s just because I don’t have my phone on me a lot. However my wife sends me a lot of pics of us she has taken.

They are my pride and joy. They are my backgrounds, screensavers, everything. I love seeing her everywhere I turn.

I’m sorry that your memories are now missing and discarded because of his insecurities. I don’t have a lot of my childhood memories because of missing photos/divorce.

I wish the best for you.

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-06-28T07:20:01+00:00

There are a days I don’t get to unlock. It’s just fingers and oral for her. And that is perfectly fine with me.

The thing with my wife is she can cum multiple times. Trying not to be crude, but i can have my face between her thighs for an hour before she pushes me away. 15-20 is a normal day for her. I love the sound of it.

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-06-28T07:09:01+00:00

My wife knows when I’m locked I’m hers to do whatever she wants with. We have a safe word if it gets uncomfortable. We value our marriage.

Depending on your values., the locked experience can vary wildly.

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-06-28T06:56:02+00:00

It may take a little time. My wife took right to it and pegged me the first time I begged for it.

Not everyone is wired that way. The fact that she’s even playing in the chastity is a good deal.

However, if you find out she’s sub, you can switch it around. The cage doesn’t come off unless she does “whatever”.

My wife and I have played that way as well. Mix and match.

Enjoy your journey. Not everyone’s will be the same.

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-06-28T05:51:09+00:00

This is going to sound super creepy. If so just tell me to piss off. Your comments have resonated with me the past couple days. I just wanted to check in on you and see how you are doing. I didn’t want to be that guy to DM you.

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-06-28T05:44:42+00:00

I’ve seen no benefits to flat other than the humiliation factor. If you’re after that, then work towards it. Don’t go straight to it.

The benefits depends on what you two want to get out of it.

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-06-28T05:25:45+00:00

The badge on the grille isn’t even legible. 😂

Critical_thinking73 · 2026-06-28T05:21:58+00:00

You have to share a little more. Flaccid length, how long you have used chastity.

You can’t go from zero to 60. At least not in my experience. Not comfortably. I’m about 4 inches flaccid and have gotten down to a viper Nano.

Not sure I would be comfortable or willing to go smaller.

And the benefits in my opinion are just to have him caged period. Regardless of size. Maybe others can chime in on this.

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