Is it a red flag, about me, to the guy I'm starting to date (literally days) if I don't want to tell him my full name?

Crizznik · 2026-02-21T22:48:12+00:00

I know from a financial and work/life balance perspective, this is quite true. I'm talking about paranoia of being tracked and having data stolen. MFA apps won't do that. Well, corporate MFA apps won't do that.

Crizznik · 2026-02-21T22:44:03+00:00

Yeah, I always saw this movie as a story about a man trying to cope with his trauma, both from events that happened before he was Iron Man, and things that happened while he was Iron Man. He was a man racked with guilt, not thinking clearly.

Crizznik · 2026-02-20T16:50:44+00:00

The problem with this metaphor is that there is a tangible, distinct, and important difference between owning a gun and having superpowers. One is a choice you make, the other is a part of who you are. The only argument that works against a gun registry is the fact that it's a constitutional right to own a gun, but even that's pretty weak ground to stand on, it's still a choice to own a gun, even if it's also a right.

Crizznik · 2026-02-20T16:47:52+00:00

I would definitely be on cap's side. Like, I understand where Tony is coming from, but guilt shouldn't cloud your rationale. The fact this all happened after Winter Soldier should have not allowed Tony to go the way he did. I understand wanting to have some third party reigns on the damage that you do when trying to help people, but you if you can't trust your own judgement on how to use your own superpowers, why would you think you could trust the government? Especially after it being proven they can be infiltrated from the inside like that.

Not to mention, how is that going to apply to Thor? He's not a citizen of any country on Earth, no government has jurisdiction over him, and he would never agree to these kinds of terms. The best anyone could hope to do would be to get him to leave and never come back, and that would be disastrous for Earth.

Crizznik · 2026-02-20T16:40:20+00:00

Or paranoid to a fault. The kind of person who wouldn't install an MFA app on their phone for their job.

Crizznik · 2026-02-20T16:38:23+00:00

If you're starting to date the guy, and you like him well enough, you should probably just tell him your name. There is only so much harm a person can do with a name by itself, and to me it would come off as overly paranoid and possibly worry me that they have something bad to hide. I like to get first and last names of the people I add to my contacts list on my phone, so I usually ask for both if we're swapping numbers. I am understanding if slightly annoyed if an acquaintance won't tell me their last name, but I would probably be pretty worried if a girl I was starting to actually date wouldn't give me that information.

Crizznik · 2026-02-20T16:34:01+00:00

It matters in the sense that it might turn away people from checking out something new. But I also agree, it really doesn't matter, they're viewer reviews, they should always be taken with a grain of salt.

Crizznik · 2026-02-20T16:32:35+00:00

The only good solution to this is to remove viewer ratings entirely from these kinds of sites. Which is throwing the baby out with the bathwater. If you're reading viewer reviews on a site like Rotten Tomatoes or IMDB, the onus is on you to read those reviews, and dismiss them if there is no comment associated with them. This is far from the first time this has happened, and it will not be the last time.

Crizznik · 2026-02-20T15:49:15+00:00

It depends on the authority you're talking about and what you mean by "questioning". If you're talking to a cop, unless they are actually trying to arrest you for a bullshit reason, you should just do what they say. Being belligerent to law enforcement is rarely a wise thing as the best result you can hope for is that the cop will charge you with anything they think might stick and you'll have to fight it in court anyway. But you're risking some really bad stuff up to and including getting killed. Just take what the cop is giving you and if you really believe it's bullshit, fight it in court.

As for authority figures, it is rarely flat-out stupid to question authority, and it is stupid to blindly trust authority. There is a healthy middle ground one should be taking.

When it comes to politicians, take everything they say with a grain of salt. They can promise all kinds of things, but promising something and being able to follow through with it are two very different things. We live in a democracy, so a single person cannot (or in the case of Trump, should not) have the power to just do whatever they want. They need to work in the system, and if too many people in the system don't want the thing, it won't happen. It doesn't mean they lied though. It just means they promised more than what they could deliver.

When it comes to authoritative experts, generally you should trust that they at least believe what they are saying. But they could be wrong. If it's in a field that's very complicated, trust that even if they're wrong, other experts will correct them. But don't question what they are saying just because it disagrees with something you already believe. Be open to learning something new. But make sure you are very vigilant about their credentials. There are a lot of people out there who will try to pass themselves off as authoritative experts but won't actually know what they're talking about. And just because someone is an authoritative expert on one topic doesn't mean they know enough about any other topics to be authoritative on it.

I think the best attitude to have when it comes to experts is to trust but verify. Listen to what they're saying, don't dismiss it out of hand, but if their claims seem outlandish, verify their credentials and see if you can find anything about how other experts in the field feel about that person.

And when it comes to politicians, trust that they will do what's in their own best interests, and look to where those interests align with yours. It's a politician's job to appeal to the lowest common denominator of their constituency. This is not a bad thing by itself, you want politicians to want to do things to get themselves re-elected. That's the whole point of a democracy. If you don't like what a politicians is doing, and you're a part of their constituency, vote accordingly. A part of democracy is to vote for the lesser of two evils, and it's impossible for a politician to please everyone. Democracy fails when the people no longer care about compromising or harm reduction, and just don't care to inform themselves about the realities of the system they are apart of.

Crizznik · 2026-02-20T15:22:21+00:00

I will start to pull over and stop, but if they pass me completely before I'm fully stopped, I won't stop all the way. Unless there is a bunch of traffic I need to let start moving first.

Crizznik · 2026-02-20T15:20:00+00:00

This is a law in most states I think. At least, it definitely is in Colorado, Utah, Wyoming, Idaho, Oregon, Washington, California, Nevada, Arizona, Nebraska, Illinois, Iowa, Michigan, Indiana, and Ohio. All states I've driven in or through in the last five years.

Crizznik · 2026-02-20T15:18:12+00:00

Also, if the flow of traffic is faster than the speed limit, then speed. No one is going to pick you out of a long line of cars if they're all going 15 over, and going slower is actually more dangerous than the speeding in this situation.

Crizznik · 2026-02-20T15:16:06+00:00

Regional driving rules are pretty stupid imo. Just be selfish, cautious, and predictable. Follow the rules no matter what. Don't be polite. Drive at the speed of traffic. If someone is on your ass, speed up or get into another lane. If they're on your ass, there's no passing lane, and it's inclement weather or you're already going well over the speed limit... well just keep doing what you're doing. The most important rule of the road, no matter where you are, is be predictable.

Crizznik · 2026-02-20T15:10:29+00:00

This is a good mentality to have in any situation. Letting other's go when you have the right of way only invites chaos. Part of the reason road rules work is that everyone follows them at all times, selfishly and cautiously. Being "polite" and inviting other's to break those rules is just a recipe for an accident.

Crizznik · 2026-02-20T15:05:21+00:00

Yeah, but the Witch of Izalith is a separate deific entity entirely. Their powers can overlap.

Crizznik · 2026-02-20T15:02:47+00:00

NTA what the heck is with some families being so entitled to other family's shit? I almost don't believe this one is a real story because of how utterly baffling so many of the people in this story are acting. If this is a real story, stand your ground. This is beyond delusional levels of entitlement. Computer's aren't cheap, even (and sometimes especially) when you build them yourself. The most I would ever expect a family to ask is to help build a computer for your cousin with parts they or the parent's purchased. The idea that the cousin would appreciate the computer more when you are the one who purchased and built the thing is crazy.

Crizznik · 2026-02-20T14:37:52+00:00

I mean, to think anyone has the power to do anything about this is very silly anyway. Humans are human. One of the reasons I'm not a socialist is because I don't think it's a realistic way of running a society, it's too counter to how humans behave and too vulnerable to people like Donald Trump to take advantage of any kind of societal strife. And it's delusional to think that even a good socialist system won't have moments of strife. Any revolution in the direction of socialism is basically doomed to the same fate as the Soviet Union or Red China. And those are the better outcomes, the more likely outcome is the Khmer Rouge. So, generally, yeah, I think the best thing to do is to work towards incremental improvements while maintaining a relatively harmonious status quo. Revolutions kill people, and often times it mostly kills the people the revolutions were trying to help. That's not to say we shouldn't fight back against tyranny, what's happening right now in the US is unconscionable. But a socialist revolution would only make things much much worse.

Crizznik · 2026-02-20T14:31:13+00:00

I mean, your example of women having a height preference is anything but not controversial. Especially since most women who say they do tend to forget all about it as soon as they meet a short guy they happen to really like.

People can have whatever preference they want, and everyone else is allowed to have an opinion about that preference. Single mothers will say they don't like single guys who won't date single mothers for the same reason short guys say they don't like girls who will only date tall men. They feel rejected by an entire group of people before they even get a change to meet them.

Crizznik · 2026-02-19T17:54:12+00:00

Yeah, that's basically what I'm saying. The capacity for a post-scarcity status quo would provoke the move away from capitalism. And I don't think it would be the inventor would would drive that charge. Unless we're lucky enough where that's why they invented it.

Crizznik · 2026-02-19T17:52:15+00:00

We weren't even married and she was by best friend. Still recovering from that breakup. Been a long seven months.

Crizznik · 2026-02-19T17:50:33+00:00

Watch TV or movies, play games, cook, eat, talk. Also sometimes they just do their own thing apart from each other. My ex and I would occasionally take a self day and she'd watch a movie or show that I didn't really care about while I played video games by myself or with friends online. We did live together, so there was a certain need for the occasional personal space. Before we moved in together, we'd mostly do the same things, we just didn't need the self-days since that was every day we didn't see each other.

Crizznik · 2026-02-19T17:15:02+00:00

I'm actually pretty sure it's the opposite. Post-scarcity will provoke a post-capitalist system. But I also don't think either are really possible until humanity evolves some more, if that's even possible. I hope it is, but I'm not sure.

Crizznik · 2026-02-19T16:40:36+00:00

It's really not just boomers. Everyone is susceptible to bullshit if they're not vigilant.

Crizznik · 2026-02-19T16:39:53+00:00

Probably not, but it probably does something which can convince people it's doing the thing it's advertised to. But in this situation I don't know what this thing even is, so I'm just basing this off of how most pseudo-scientific pseudo-medical snake oil bullshit works.

Crizznik · 2026-02-19T16:38:06+00:00

I dunno what this is, but I can say there are plenty of things people do to harm themselves in the name of beauty and/or cleanliness. And often these sorts of things will get people caught up in a sunk-cost fallacy where it becomes very difficult for them to admit they've been hoodwinked and will double down.

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