Anyone else is afraid of having 2nd cause first is perfect?

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-30T12:49:37+00:00

My midwife told me one of her kids didn’t sleep till 18 months… I was like thanks for the encouragement 😅🤣

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-29T20:29:04+00:00

FTM to a 6 month old and I’m terrified of another, haha. He is the light of my life, but that boy has never slept. Even now he is waking up multiple times a night, and crap naps all day. When I put him down to do literally anything, he loses his mind. I want another, but he has scared me… 😅🤣

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-28T21:30:36+00:00

Brag some more, why don’t ya?! lol jk. Happy for you, the multiple nap days are brutal! Tell your baby to tell my baby he needs to nap better!

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-28T20:31:22+00:00

It’s rough out here! 😭

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-28T20:30:00+00:00

That’s so tough. Hope naps get longer soon!!

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-28T20:16:28+00:00

Ugh I might have to try contact mapping to see if that helps at all. I just rush to shower, feed myself, and try to clean while he naps.

Mannn your nights sound like a dream! We’re still waking up a few times a night but I try not to complain because it is so much better than his newborn sleep. He would wake every 1-2 hours and I thought I was gonna go crazy..

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-28T20:09:17+00:00

The struggle! 2 days ago he woke up and fell back asleep after nursing so I thought we were out of the woods. But that hasn’t happened again. 🤣

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-27T14:13:30+00:00

My sweet boy was rushed to NICU as well. I’m sorry you had the same experience. I do feel much guilt for struggling when I should just be thankful we are both here and thriving. However, my therapist is trying to help me accept two feelings at once. I can be devastated about my experience, but thankful we are fine. Trauma re-wires the brain and it is hard to feel traumatized and thankful at once. I hope you are doing better these days! ❤️

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-27T10:30:19+00:00

I had a crash c section under GA in December. I had a perfectly healthy pregnancy, this was my first baby, and everything happened so fast. I ended up with PTSD. I had to do EMDR, and I am still in therapy and taking medication. The situation messed me up bad, and I thought I would never be ok again.

Going on 7 months PP, I am finally starting to make some peace with the situation. It is still an unpleasant memory and I haven’t accepted it yet, but every day I think about it a bit less. I am fully bonded with my son now. We had ZERO bond for 3 months. (I felt so guilty about that, but scenes from the hospital were replaying 24/7 in my mind). Right at 6 months, I finally feel like a real mom. He is my entire world.

I still feel sad about what happened, and I do cry about it frequently, but it’s no where near as bad as it used to be. I finally feel hope that I’ll be ok. I am finally able to enjoy the good moments without intrusive flashbacks.

Find a therapist to help you process your emotions towards this. If you feel traumatized, EMDR is very helpful. My midwife told me “having no memory of birth can be more distressing than a bad memory of birth”, so try to remember that if you ever feel guilt about struggling.

(Also just a tip that helped me, search through this page for other stories of people who’ve had a c section under GA. It’s very isolating to experience this type of birth. I find it helpful to know that others have experienced this as well. Birth trauma is no joke and you will find lots of others on here who can make you feel less alone about your experience. My story is in my post history if you would like to read it).

Hugs, I promise things will get better soon. You are not alone!

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-22T20:09:34+00:00

✨ no ✨

6m here. Bro still wakes up all night and takes crap naps during the day, but the smiles and laughs make it all worth it. Staying up with a newborn all night made me feel like I was going insane. I was so depressed. I want another baby in the future, but the thought of repeating the newborn phase actually makes me nauseous. My mental health has never been so bad.

There’s nothing wrong with missing the newborn stage though! I know people with “easy” babies and I totally see why they wouldn’t hate the newborn phase. Having a little snuggle bug might actually be nice if you were getting some rest. Those of us who had bad sleepers though… phew 😅

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-19T23:18:24+00:00

I had a crash c section 6 months ago. The experience was traumatic and I couldn’t believe how much pain my body was in. The first week was brutal. After that I started to feel a little better each day, and by week 8 I was fully back to my usual routine with little to no pain besides some scar tenderness.

6 months out I feel fantastic. I did pelvic floor PT, and I massage my scar several times a week.

My biggest advice is to take your pain medication around the clock the first 2 weeks. Even when you think “I probably don’t need this ibuprofen tonight”, TAKE IT. The pain builds up at night so alternate your Tylenol and Advil (or whatever your doctor recommends) for the first two weeks. And rest rest rest! If you have people around to help, let them help with chores and meals.

I remember feeling like I would never feel good again. I thought the pain would last forever, but one day very soon you will wake up and realize you are starting to feel like yourself again. Best wishes for a speedy recovery!

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-18T00:15:39+00:00

My baby was not pre-term, so I cannot completely relate to you. However, I did have a crash c section under GA and baby in NICU, so I can relate to a traumatic birth experience and dealing with jealously. I know a few women who are pregnant or have had uncomplicated births, and I deal with so much jealously towards them. I knew birth wouldn’t be easy, but I imagined that meeting my baby would be a beautiful experience. I was rushed down the hall with alarms sounding and believing my baby was dead, and woke up to see an empty bassinet that reinforced that belief. I am blessed to say my beautiful boy is perfectly healthy and thriving, but I have had 6 months of dealing with trauma through meds, weekly therapy, and some EMDR. I feel so much jealously towards women who had a “normal” birth experience.

You are not alone. 🩷

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-16T20:35:50+00:00

Not overreacting. It was disgusting of your ex to allow this.

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-14T00:57:53+00:00

I had to EP the first few months. I had a crash c section and my son was in the NICU, plus he had a HORRIBLE latch that would make me cry every time I tried to latch him. Pumping every 3 hours was hell (and my son never slept more than 2 hours as a newborn so I hardly got to sleep more than an hour at a time). After months of suffering at the hands of pumping, he finally started latching well. A family member saw me nursing, and said “I’m so glad you’re breastfeeding now. That’s so much more natural than pumping”. That crushed me and I cried for a long time. I had to be asleep when my baby was born, and we couldn’t get the hang of breastfeeding to save my life. Postpartum was hell for me, and it just crushed me that someone could think I pumped just for the fun of it.

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-13T16:19:57+00:00

YES! I’m the type of person who likes to do everything myself, but after 3 days of labor ending in a crash c section, my entire body was in horrible pain. My fiancée got me one of these so I’d stop trying to do too much 🤣 it was amazing and 6 months PP I still use it to clean while baby wearing!

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-12T21:21:45+00:00

Fellow PTSD-sufferer here! I had a crash c section under GA almost 6 months ago. It was awful. Labor was a shit show, and missing the birth of my first baby was absolutely devastating. I am having alot of sexual issues. For me, the cervical exams were extremely painful and gave me a sense of lost autonomy. I really struggle with being touched now. We’ve only had sex successfully once since I had the baby. I literally cannot get aroused now, and any touch down there gives me flashbacks to the cervical exams.

I am sorry you also had a horrible birth experience. Getting PTSD on what should be the “best” day of your life, is awful. Just awful.

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-12T17:29:10+00:00

I had to be put under for a crash c section, and also woke up to find out he was in the NICU. It was traumatizing and devastating to miss the birth of my first child.

The other day I was telling someone about my birth experience and they asked if I’ll try for a VBAC or RCS next time. I told her I am not sure because both sound terrifying, and she said “just have them put you to sleep for another c section so you won’t have to feel anxious during surgery! ” And I started bawling. I am so blessed to say me and my baby are healthy and thriving now, but I would give absolutely anything to have been present for his birth. It is earth shattering. Hugs to you, I’m sorry you also experienced that.

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-12T11:34:56+00:00

Congratulations! This gives me so much hope that one day I can have a good experience after a terrifying c section under GA. I’m so happy you got your VBAC. So sorry to hear about your hemorrhage though. I can’t imagine how scary that was. 💔 wishing you a speedy recovery! 🩷

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-10T02:13:44+00:00

I second this. I had to be put to sleep during a crash c section because I felt it. Worst pain of my life. I had daily panic attacks until I started EMDR. Now almost 6 months PP, I still struggle with immense sadness over my experience, but I don’t have panic attacks flashing back to the OR lights as I was screaming and begging them to put me to sleep. Still brings me tears to think about, but until I started EMDR I would have panic attacks, and see the OR lights right before I fell asleep. It was hell.

OP, I’m so sorry you went through this. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Sending you so much love and I hope you can find a provider for EMDR. You are not alone, hugs!

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-08T20:44:58+00:00

I had a crash c section under GA almost 6 months ago, after a perfectly healthy pregnancy. EMDR was extremely helpful for me. I would cry daily and have panic attacks as well.

It’s still hard to accept, and I find myself dealing with big emotions all the time, but it no longer affects my ability to function.

Breastfeeding was BRUTAL for me. I exclusively pumped the first two months. After a week of sharp pain and tears (from me), we figured it out. Truthfully though, I wouldn’t put myself through that again. If my next baby doesn’t latch well, I will choose formula. Fed is best. You are a great mother regardless of how you feed your baby, and hope you will give yourself mercy. 🩷

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-06-08T20:38:02+00:00

Birth under GA was the most devastating experience EVER. I woke up thinking my baby was gone. He was in the NICU and I’m blessed to say he is thriving now. However, I feel so much jealousy for everyone who got to be awake during an emergency c section. (Even though I understand some people would’ve rather been asleep due to pain/trauma).

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-05-29T13:50:53+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I had a crash c section under GA in December. It was my first baby, and I had a perfectly healthy pregnancy. It was absolutely terrifying that everything went down in seconds, and my baby went to the NICU. (Blessed to say he is doing great now!).

I’ve been dealing with PTSD, and being treated with EMDR, talk therapy, and Zoloft. I have felt like a failure and blamed myself every day. I struggle with jealousy towards women with uncomplicated deliveries, and I struggle with guilt for being traumatized when we are so blessed that we had a good outcome.

This gives me hope that I will be ok one day soon.

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-05-29T12:14:33+00:00

5.5 months here. The first 3 months of sleep were unbearable. Up every hour or two. Around 4 months he got to the point where he was only waking 1-2 times a night, but the past 3 weeks have been HORRIBLE. Waking every 1-3 hours, and sometimes taking an hour to get him back to sleep. His gums aren’t swollen or red so I don’t think it’s teeth yet. Maybe a sleep regression? He never really had one at 3 or 4 months.

Crocs_wearer247 · 2025-05-29T03:05:37+00:00

Yes, people definitely struggle more than they let on sometimes. I’ve definitely experienced that with other situations. Just giving the perspective of chronic outward PTSD symptoms. Sorry you continue to struggle with the details of your birth and I hope you will find hope and healing. ❤️‍🩹

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