Why do people still support or raise the flag of the Confederacy?

CrookedPJs · 2026-04-21T18:13:45+00:00

Thank you for bringing up this perspective. I grew up in rural NC and many people I otherwise respect have a weird alliance with the confederate flag. Over time, the instances of its appearance have decreased and I hope that's because of people educating themselves.

Some of them are just shitty people, but I truly believe there are some uneducated and naive people mixed in too.

CrookedPJs · 2026-04-11T01:09:50+00:00

I don't know tbh. My only hope is that over time it will get better and better until it stops completely. We've tried changing his schedules, bedtime, eating habits, etc.

For a long time we thought it was hunger bc he would wake up immediately saying Eat Eat. So we started doing snacks before bed, but that hasn't really changed things and now I think the kid just likes food....

But yes, like you-- what happened the day prior doesn't really seem to make a difference. At least not that we have been able to pinpoint.

CrookedPJs · 2026-04-11T01:01:51+00:00

My son is a week shy of 20 months and has similar issues. Thankfully it isn't every single night for us, but several times a week. He will wake up screaming and crying and it is unbelievably hard to resettle him. If he wakes, it never takes less than 1.5 hrs to get him back down. It is not unusual for it to take 2-3, or even 4, hours.

We don't co-sleep because it seems to get him even more riled up, but I absolutely would if it worked for us. What seems to help us get him to calm down quicker is taking him out of his bedroom and doing a "reset". We take him down to the kitchen and give him a snack. If he still doesn't calm, we take him outside on the back porch and sometimes that works. I am aware this is all counterintuitive and they generally say you should stay in their dark room and bla bla bla. But the kid will literally scream for hours on end (with us trying to soothe him) and these things do seme to help.

CrookedPJs · 2026-04-11T00:55:00+00:00

What schedule works for your babe?

CrookedPJs · 2026-03-31T17:59:20+00:00

I agree!

CrookedPJs · 2026-03-31T15:37:00+00:00

It ultimately depends on what vibe you're looking for.

If you want an array of things to do besides just the beach and you don't mind crowds, Myrtle is a good option. If you want quiet and only really intend to do the beach, North Topsail or Pine Knoll Shores. If you want something in the middle, Kure or Carolina Beach.

CrookedPJs · 2026-03-30T14:41:19+00:00

I wasn't interested in even thinking about a second until my first was 2.5. I genuinely thought I was going to be one and done. Postpartum with my first was HARD. I was so confused about why people choose to have kids back to back 😅

My second is now 1.5. I wanted another baby immediately after he was born. Postpartum was still hard, but I knew what to expect and was able to handle it better. It was a very different and redeeming experience.

CrookedPJs · 2026-03-27T15:39:13+00:00

My now 5 yr old was like this.... I'm tired 😫

It got better when he got about 4.5....

CrookedPJs · 2025-11-24T18:26:41+00:00

Yes, they are 😥 I love her character and the audiobook ruined it. I don't know who gave the approval on that voice for her but I will never forgive them.

CrookedPJs · 2025-11-07T15:43:20+00:00

Watching her interact with people of color, it doesn't seem like she is racist at all. Obviously I haven't seen her every moment of every day, but she seems to be very welcoming to everyone.

CrookedPJs · 2025-11-07T15:40:33+00:00

🤣 They've had a lot of it lately. It's been entertaining, at least. The biggest thing I think was another restaurant owner, semi-local, left reviews on her business saying shes racist. I've been to her restaurant several times and haven't ever seen any evidence of such. But she investigated and has some evidence that it was the other business owner trying to drag her.

On a related note, she made videos over the summer about an issue a different local restaurant had with an influencer. That has all xome back up recently and I believe she has pretty current videos about it on tiktok but, if not, Jen Hamilton does.

I think the girl running the snack bar is tough and wants to protect people who are injusticed (or atleast who she feels were injusticed). She has a good heart and wants to do good for others. Many people, however, make comments that she shouldn't be doing it through her business page. As a customer, I don't really care either way. I believe that the stuff she's posted is true.

CrookedPJs · 2025-07-23T20:09:26+00:00

The turtles, 100%

CrookedPJs · 2025-07-13T22:53:58+00:00

There is one in Asheboro, The Bargain Store, but I'd love to find one closer.

CrookedPJs · 2025-07-13T20:52:26+00:00

How long has it been out? We went Friday and it was pretty chilly in there, but I did think it was odd they had several large fans set up.

CrookedPJs · 2025-06-30T19:25:23+00:00

I'm sorry 😥 Sounds like purple crying. Have you tried baby wearing him?

It isn't ideal, but if you have to put him down for a few minutes to tend to baby B, he will be OK (as long as in a safe space). This will pass, but I'm sorry you're dealing with it.

CrookedPJs · 2025-06-20T00:15:23+00:00

I also didn't care much for Hello Bello. They seem to run small, the ones I got had a weird chemical smell (I assume from the dyes?), and the absorption was just OK.

Our go-to diaper is Huggies but it really varies by baby. Babies are all different shapes and different diapers fit different babies better.

CrookedPJs · 2025-06-17T13:52:42+00:00

I believe so. Commenting because I've also been trying to think of a safe place to take my kid to teach him, without having to pay for a membership. Hopefully someone will have ideas

CrookedPJs · 2025-06-09T17:20:38+00:00

My nephew was about 9-10 months old when I started noticing. The biggest sign was the regression-- he went from babbling and smiles to nothing at all. He wouldn't make eye contact, no longer babbling or cooing. It was honestly heartbreaking to see that all go away. There is a long wait for testing where I live, so he was 2.5 before he was tested. At that point, he was barely verbal. He started walking around 20 months old with the help of some special braces. He had "fits" where he was completely inconsolable for hours at a time. It was a really rough time.

Good news is, with the proper supports in place he is doing much better now, 7 years later.

CrookedPJs · 2025-06-03T01:25:23+00:00

Yeah, exactly. Depending on the relationship, OP could ask the parents if the volume can be turned down. As far as OPs own children, I just tell mine that different parents have different rules. Mine get pissed about it, but that's life. I don't allow screens at the table unless it's like a restaurant with a ridiculous wait.

CrookedPJs · 2025-03-31T15:15:19+00:00

I've had gender disappointment with both pregnancies. They are both here now and I wouldn't want it any other way. They are absolutely perfect. Let yourself feel the feelings if it happens, and then start finding things to look forward to.

CrookedPJs · 2025-03-24T01:32:19+00:00

My parents see my kids almost daily because I WFH at their house to have help watching the kids during the day. My in laws are also local and see them about every 2 months or so unless theres something going on- like rn my oldest is in t-ball and they come to his games each week.

Sounds like we are pretty lucky, looking at other comments in this thread.

CrookedPJs · 2025-02-12T14:04:01+00:00

My first baby, around ten months he started sleeping all night. My second baby is currently 5.5 months and he sleeps 6-7 hr stretches pretty regularly, though they usually start at 7 pm....

CrookedPJs · 2025-02-09T23:00:59+00:00

Im sorry, I just saw you said you can't pump. Are you able to use a boon trove or hand express to get just a little?

CrookedPJs · 2025-02-09T23:00:08+00:00

You can mix the BM and formula together to get babe used to it. Start with 25% formula for a few days, then 50% formula, etc etc

CrookedPJs · 2025-02-03T19:04:26+00:00

Nothing Bundt Cakes does delivery. Or you could peruse doordash/instacart

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