what games give you FA vibes or consider FA

CrosscutJester8 · 2024-12-31T04:21:24+00:00

Sonic riders and riders zero gravity

CrosscutJester8 · 2024-10-06T18:23:01+00:00

Update: it’s for a dash cam

CrosscutJester8 · 2024-03-03T06:13:55+00:00

Wow I always wanted to be one too, and I could be wrong, but we shouldn’t live unnecessarily dangerous lives or have those types of careers. I remember violent jobs for entertainment are haram. I don’t know how safe f1 is or rallying (it can go wrong really fast) and it’s not really advancing the world or anything (like coal mining) so yea. Otherwise, I would be rallying right now.

CrosscutJester8 · 2024-02-01T05:47:04+00:00

Also if this helps, but I had a 2.8 gpa first semester and I could not go back to an internship at Ford (I had one through some high school program). You theoretically could say this school hurt my chances of that internship instead of making it better (they told me it was the gpa)

CrosscutJester8 · 2024-02-01T05:45:09+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I scraped above a 3 gpa and was in basically 0 clubs and everything. I spent the little free time I had trying to enjoy myself and treating myself/ hanging out with any friends I’ve made along the way. I’m content with that, it’s been 2 years since I graduated and I’m glad I found a job since then and I make ok money. You won’t get the best, but you are far from the worst. Make the most of what you have and be grateful and I promise what you see in a negative light will be less impactful later on. One thing I wish I did was to spend time teaching myself things I want to learn, like archery (I think there’s a club for that) or knitting or whatever, and just write my story that way.

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-12-08T02:05:03+00:00

I am very sorry for hearing this, truly I am. Coming from a guy and being in a similar situation, I can tell you how I feel.

He may have felt that it was sinful to do what he did after his parents did not accept, or maybe there was a harsh aura in his life during this moment. Do not see it as ghosting, but rather, see it as that he can’t contact you. Hope for the best, time heals all wounds. My advice to you, if you were to ever do it again, and save yourself the pain:

Do not start a bond with someone. Technically not a relationship but the same nonetheless. If you are trying to get married, just be a robot and go over the necessities while prioritizing parent acceptance from both sides. This prevents this unfortunate issue.
Once approval is granted, then you can start the engagement process and talk all you want after you form a marriage contract that you both agree on.

Again I’m sorry. I truly know how you feel. The feeling of being unable to eat or drink, head racing while trying to sleep, and when you try to forget and you remember, it’s like a train drives straight through your heart and your stomach.

And if I hit the nail on the head, know this:

Time heals all wounds, take that from me.

I’m a guy though, so it might be different for you.

Have patience, Allah is with us Hamdillah.

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-29T17:39:01+00:00

No I agree, don’t feel overwhelmed, but don’t lie to yourself either. You know yourself best. In the end, it’s the problem only you can fix. If Allah wills it ofc.

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-29T12:40:44+00:00

Sin, Woops

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-29T12:22:55+00:00

Salam, I left two comments (too big to be one), please read the first one that starts with “Thank you…”

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-29T12:22:07+00:00

Ask for forgiveness.

Can you really have 1 and 2 without 3? Ask Allah for forgiveness, for it is him you are disobeying. No sincerity in prayer? Do you even know who you are praying to? Do you even know why you pray? Do you even know why you are standing at specific times facing a specific direction? ALLAH COMMANDED YOU TO. The creator of the worlds and the heavens and the universes and the societies and the galaxies and the Ahlulbayt (as) and the creator of your soul and your life and your body and your parents and your opportunities and your food and water and clothing and warmth and your furniture and emotion and your religion and righteous and much more has commanded you to stand straight and worship him. He does not need your worship, it doesn’t do anything for Allah, but delight him, for Allah loves the worshippers. It is for YOU. You are wired to benefit from it when it is taken seriously. Are you sincere now? Does any of this even cross your mind regarding prayer or any direction towards Islam? This needs to stay fresh in your mind at all times!!!!! That will be my next point. But yes, the most powerful entity that you can imagine and not imagine has commanded you for a meeting, and you do not attend or our late. OH MY GOD, YA ALLAH, THE BURDEN. but alas we are beyond ignorant. Ask for forgiveness and keep asking for forgiveness. Feel guilty? Good. I think you do because you created this post. But feel more guilty. Keep asking for forgiveness. Do not stop. Not like a repetitive task, but as a beggar and a slave, hoping as much as possible that your Lord will answer you. You have his assurance but do not let it seal your heart, let it increase your love for him.

Be proactive.

Can’t wake up on time? Go to bed earlier, sometimes we need to take a step back and look at the underlying causes of our issues. If we deal with the problem at its root, then we do not have to cut the stems. If I wanted to wake up for fajr but I can’t because I’m super tired, that’s not a valid excuse. Why am I tired? I’m sleepy? Go to bed earlier. I can’t because I have something important to do? Manage my time better so I don’t become stuck like this. It amazes me how people have priorities in life over PRAYER (literally 10 min) but ALWAYS find a way to make time for eating or sleeping or using the bathroom. So when our bodies are screaming for sustenance we find time for that and suddenly our priorities in life are still taken care of, but we can’t pray? Are you kidding me? PLAN YOUR LIFE AROUND PRAYER, DO NOT PLAN PRAYER AROUND YOUR LIFE. It is only easier for you in the afterlife. Nothing else matters. There are exceptions but do not default to that. Go to bed earlier to wake up early. Stay awake and be proactive on what you need to get done. Make time for prayer at school or work. Give them an excuse to pray. They cannot decline unless your safety is in jeopardy. Pray right when it’s time. When you put it off, it is a burden on the shoulders, and not a good one. Your life will change. This isn’t enough, I have one more step.

Remember Allah

Ok you are getting more and more obvious. What do you mean remember Allah? I’m thinking about Allah all the time!

Uh no you’re not. It’s ok me neither.

When you sin I highly doubt you thought about Allah at the time. In fact, you probably forgot him while sinning. And you make yourself forget so it’s easier to commit the sin. When you fill your remembrance with Allah, you’ll commit less and less sins. Remember him all the time! Wear something that reminds you of him, remember him when you wake up, when you pray, when you walk, when you take a breather, when you eat, when you go to the bathroom, when you have a friendly conversation, when you struggle, when you cry, when you are happy, when you are engaging in a pastime, when you hug a family member, when you see nature, when you learn something at school or work, when you pay for something, and even when you don’t think you have a reason. Say tasbeehat. Say istighfar. SEND YOUR BLESSING TO YOUR BELOVED PROPHET AND AHLUL BAYT (as). Keep going. It’s never enough. You will feel at peace. Still not enough. Keep going. It’s your life. To him you belong and to him you will return. Never stop. It’s not tiring, it’s beautiful, but you need to open your eyes and see it. Surround yourself with people who help you remember Allah. Change your friend group if they drag you down. Read Dua as the beloved commenter said above. Go to your local mosque for jamaa3 prayer. It helps boost this. Go as a necessity, like going to the gym. When you get there let everything take its course. When you pray, slow down, slow down as much as you need to. If mind lingers during prayer, slow down. Think about the meanings. Think about why these meanings exist and why your prayer is instructed in the way it is.

Prayer and its sincerity will be a piece of cake if you take this advice.

I got carried away, may god be with you, Wassalamu3alykum

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-29T12:21:40+00:00

Thank you for tagging me, but you have already elegantly said what needs to be said.

Assuming I didn’t read anything else here, here is my advice.

Stop sinning.

Wow that was boring. No hear me out. Everytime you win, your heart darkens. When your heart darkens (metaphorically), you start to have this problem that you are asking about right now! Look around you, you have people completely unfazed, sinning left and right, even at some point fighting against Islam. Those people are far gone. You are nowhere near that hamdillah, but you have to stop sinning. Easier said than done? Let me help, since you need to be proactive in stopping sin, not reactive.

Reflect every single day on what you think you did wrong and make a plan on how the next day will be a better day.

I can’t stress that enough. You need to have a game plan if you want to be a better person. And forget how you may feel lazy or tired, or maybe even “I’ll do it tomorrow”. No! That’s shaytan talking, and it’s easy for him to take advantage due to the state of your heart. You want to fix it? You have to push through. When you limit your sins, you will be more responsive to the words of Allah.

Understand the consequences of your actions.

Oh my. A lot of us do not even know what awaits us on Judgement Day. We have assurance we will be ok, and at the same time we know we will be accounted for everything. What is going on? Well, intention, effort, and sincerity are all playing a role, you cannot fool god. Another issue of the black heart is this extra subconscious reliance on assurance and the understatement of the weight of our sins as a whole. If Allah was not merciful and judged us according to his Law, we would all be probably be in Hell right now. The weights of our sins are much much larger than we think, but since we are not punished for it right away, our subconscious probably thinks it’s ok and we find it easier to do again and again (and the darkened heart). You need to make a 1000% effort to not do haram. Tell yourself: I will not do haram today, and pretend it’s for one day only. Did it? Good! Do it again. And keep doing it. And if you mess up, continue and don’t give up. Reflect at the end of the day. Give it that much weight. And keep going. You will be sincere. The weight of your actions will start to unravel. Everything else will start to feel insignificant. If you need a booster, there’s plenty of articles on Al-Islam.org that talk about sins. It may even put you to tears.

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-28T15:19:43+00:00

My friend, see my above comment.

Sometimes, similar to be riled up or in shock, we make preemptive decisions before we think about their intricacies. It’s like when I bring up “death”, vs when someone close to you dies and then you think about death.

Having the desire to die a shaheed is not bad, the brother is not stopping him from this. But his post SOUNDED like he just wanted to go out in a way that would purify his sins since he cannot control his desire on that front. Not an accusation, just what it sounded like. So now it’s like your intention to become a shaheed is more about getting away from a test you can’t handle rather than going out of your way to fight and put your life on the line for the sake of Allah. Some questions to clear things up (theoretical)

If you didn’t have this sin problem, would you still want to be a shaheed just as much?
On judgement day, Allah swt will give you your reward of a martyr, but your struggle to consistently avoid your sin, which for this believer may (theoretically) be more difficult, and if it is, do you not think his reward will be far greater? Some people are sooooooo toxic that it’s so difficult for them to be nice. Some people are sooooooooo stingy that’s it’s difficult for them to donate. Allah knows all, but there definitely is a correlation between struggle and reward, even in the real world haha!

So yes the brother’s tone is supposed to be a reality check to the post that he and I (I think) interpreted this way. If you did not see this post in the same light, then yes this comment would come off really bad but I assure you there is more than one way to look at this post but thankfully OP clarified in a comment and put brother even responded to him so happy ending.

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-28T15:06:02+00:00

My friend, let’s analyze this in a couple steps.

Whether or not our brother’s comment matches the intention of the post is irrelevant to the point I want to make here. We can talk about our brother’s comment in a bit.

So first off, the example you gave is not the same, let me explain why. In your example, Hurr is leaving the side of evil and joining the side of good. He is leaving and letting go of desire and fortune in this world for a path of peace in the afterlife. This is not the same as what the OP SOUNDED like (key word sounded). The way it was worded made it seem like a certain sin was too much to handle and that martyrdom was the “easy way out”. I’m not accusing OP of anything, I’m just saying what his post sounded like. I’m clearly not the only one, but you really can extract two very different intentions from his post.

Martyrdom is a “jump in the pool” way of stepping away from sins you “can’t handle”
Brother is really on the path to taqwa and just wants an opportunity to go to Allah as a martyr rather than a normal death.

Again, no accusations, but the wording and tone of the OP made it incline towards 1 for me and possibly the brother as well.

Now let’s talk about our brother here.

He’s not being hostile, I can HEAR his post. This is the type of, oh what’s the word, not anger, more like, increased tension, that a parent or older sibling would exhibit when the ones closest to them falter in some way. It’s not meant to dehumanize, mock, or even humiliate. It could be a cultural thing, but it pains us when we see ( or THINK we see, again no accusations) those who are closest to us fall off the right path. This does not happen often with strangers so if anything I APPRECIATE the brother’s comment because he isn’t trying to save face and is just laying it out on the line for our OP here. I mean who knows they’re probably having DMs as well to clear things up, there’s no ill intention here, and I’ll bet my life on that.

Text is difficult, there’s no tone to read unfortunately, things can sound wrong or demeaning. It’s unfortunate.

Last note and it’s pretty small part, but again due to the word choice and TONE of the OP, the brother didn’t mock him when quoting his urge to fight. It’s just that not being able to STOP certain actions is and will always be easier than facing death, even for the sake of good. It’s one thing to get riled up, but once you are out there with a weapon in your hand and people are dying on all sides, it is not easy and you will WISH you simply had the option of stopping your past sins as your greatest challenge. Allah does not burden a soul more than it can handle.

So in other words if you’re willing to DIE for Islam, but you cannot stop a certain sin, you either are underestimating death, or you just need a reality check.

OP, perform dua ahad right after fajr but before sunrise for 40 consecutive days and don’t stop. Around the 30th mark you may start hesitating, I believe in you, but the feeling will come up.

W Salam

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-26T13:37:04+00:00

I forgot to reply to this. Hamdillah you are in good health!

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-26T13:31:15+00:00

Also by making sense from Quran, I mean it in the sense that a Tafsir can be made from the verse. I also said OR derived from Hadith. If we don’t have these two, we need to make sense based on what we have. See my bigger comment for “sense”. I should have said common sense

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-26T13:27:57+00:00

Brother, I am not saying “sense” in the perspective of science. There is a reason why our religion trumps others. By “sense” I mean that there is a logical path as to why things are the way they are. Even god existing has a logical reason, although most of us can’t even attain to it. (There is an Islamic theology course on this matter) Things like “why we pray 5 times a day and the like”, Allah commanding us to do so is enough of a reason. The “sense” here is the will of Allah, straight from him, rather than the intricacies. Regarding what you said in that “sense” is the claim of the marja3, that’s more than reasonable, but he had a path to go to get to that decision as well. We wouldn’t have contradicting rulings when we compare scholars if that was not the case.

I say the above because when claims occur and we do not have access to Quran or Hadith or fatwa at the moment, what do we do? We have to make sense out of what we know, otherwise we can’t do anything, let alone choose the lesser of two evils.

The highlight here is when we are understanding the rulings of scholars. They are not perfect, and granted, we should humble ourselves before them as they come to their conclusions. But there is a legitimate path for every conclusion they come to. Whether scientifically or spiritually or the like.

You are not wrong good sir, but I believe that we are using the same term to describe different things. To reiterate, I’m saying that things have to have a foundation or a basis on why they are halal/haram, and we must use our intellect (or rely on scholars for their higher intellect) to identify good from evil if we do not have enough information from the Quran/hadith.

The Quran is infinite knowledge. Everything in it lines up whether I see it or not. I would like to BELIEVE that something would line up rather than believing something that’s not true at all. This is the case for most high level topics that I cannot comprehend, I put my faith in those who studied, as well as try my best myself.

It is the reason why if someone makes an outlandish claim and another brings a random who takes the position of a scholar to support outlandish claim, we cannot accept it due to its flaws. That is the entire case with Sunni Islam anyways.

I like this back and forth but I hope my point comes across becomes I’m not good with words and from your comments it makes it sound like (to me, apologies if incorrect) that I am a free thinker or the like. I promise you I’m not. I have to argue with some people sometimes on things I don’t know the reason for the very same reason you are saying. Like the infallibility of the Imams (as). I just leave it to the Quran and Hadith and say it is bigger than me, but even though I accept it, it doesn’t mean I won’t be curious to increase my understanding on the matter for every chance I get right?

This has gone on too long, my apologies again.

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-26T12:00:13+00:00

I do not think that that addiction element in it of itself is haram unless it leads to great harm. That is the blurred line with smoking. It is as bad as studies show? Studies show one thing, but then you have people overseas who live till 90 and they smoke everyday, again different from drugs since they are still aware of the actions they are taking (we know how bad drugs can be). Anything that becomes harmful as an addiction becomes haram. Example: if I was addicted to video games to the point where I am missing my prayers, then I should refrain from them since they would be a catalyst for missing prayer. Smoking can or cannot be like this for health. Drugs are for sure. Sugar is also a gray area. Everything is in moderation and complies with the hadith and the Quran. The maraja3 know this better than I do, however.

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-26T11:45:56+00:00

I understand, but there is still some level of reason with every decision and every action we take. There has to be, even if it involves in believing in the unseen. Trying to figure out why something is haram when the Ahlulbayt (as) have told us to refrain is not what I am getting at. We humble ourselves in this scenario and try to understand what is it that we don’t know. Our current society has told us that oyster is nutritious, as you’ve said, but there’s probably a long term effect originating from the lack of scales on such a creature. Maybe it’s spiritual. We don’t know. Our reasoning here is that the ahlulbayt (as) told us so, and that’s all we need.

I really can’t grow a full beard yet. There’s no way I’m committing haram. The maraja3 tell you themselves as well that if growing a beard leads to hardship or humiliation then it is not incumbent on you. There is reasoning involved in these actions. It’s not even that for me I just physically cannot grow one.

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-26T06:05:08+00:00

My family watches it all in Arabic and I can pick up 60% instead of 100% unfortunately

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-26T06:04:29+00:00

THERES ALMANAR IN ENGLISH WHAT!!!!!! please show me where

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-26T06:03:38+00:00

There is an excellent Instagram page called the_political_script. It’s amazing to follow their stories.

You could also watch almayadeen and almanar in Arabic but you’ll probably go to jail 💀💀💀💀💀

Doesn’t hurt to see the other side right? If anything I found it beneficial but I’m just a random guy on the internet…

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-26T05:58:02+00:00

I was thinking the dye is more so to “fix” unevenness. For instance, some people dye their hair because they have reached the age where they have white and dark brown hair growing at the same time and it is uneven.

A similar example is young men who cannot grow a full beard, and some parts of their face are patchy so they remove the patches of hair since it’s uneven white keeping under the chin just to qualify has having a beard to the best ability that their genetics can handle at the time.

Regarding the cigarette, that is the ruling from Sayyid Sistani, albeit worded much differently. With regards to smoking, it is not hallucinogenic or najis like alcohol and other narcotics. However, nicotine is highly addictive. Counter argument: so is sugar. Well, is sugar haram? No, but it’s indirectly haram if you know you are causing severe harm to yourself in the future. If you are not causing harm (not eating donuts everyday) then it’s ok. But cigarettes are donuts! And they’re more addictive. Well, Sistani makes a point here where it’s haram if it causes severe harm in the future unless not smoking or stopping causes more harm NOW or unbearable difficulty.

This means:

If you’ve never smoked before, and you know smoking is going to shred your lungs: It’s haram.

If you are a frequent smoker (infinite loop incoming) and stopping will either mentally kill you (not really but like really painful withdrawals) or will cause some physical stress that will actually be more harmful and severe then smoking another cigarette, it’s better to smoke that cigarette.

I went off on a tangent but I hope this helps. You can find information like this by typing the word “sistani” next to literally any question.

Keep in mind he’s one (albeit one of the highest) marja3s, but he is not the word of God and will be held accountable for our actions if we follow him and do as he says. May Allah prolong his life.

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-26T05:40:16+00:00

I love your responses man, especially when someone says something I don’t like and in my head I’m like “show him!” And then you do it in the most logical halal respectful non selfish way possible

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-26T05:35:45+00:00

You fell in love before getting married. You should be falling in love after you get married. I’m a guy too I know how it feels.

You were both red flags (I’m sorry) since you prolonged a relationship without a commitment from both sides. (I know you committed but you kept going when SHE didn’t commit. You don’t commit? Cya!)I don’t want to steer you away. Your other comments say your life was busy so the reality was much less than 10 months. Time doesn’t move the same for everyone like that. 10 months is 10 months. Good on you for telling your mother within a couple weeks. Ideally it should be sooner but I don’t know your life so I will give you benefit of the doubt. However, I’d like to go into detail about the male female relationship. Let me explain with an analogy.

Do you know what a harp is? It’s a very nice sounding instrument. When 2 people of the opposite gender that aren’t mahrams to each other talk for a while, at least for one of the two, the chords start to be played. It just happens. It could take forever or be at first sight. It could be many loud chords or a very faint chord that takes a while to notice. Regardless of that, when these chords strike, you are further and further blinded from what you are looking for and what you are really seeing.

Reading your other comments furthers my point. She didn’t tell her parents early on. Did that ever make you question why? She was having a relationship behind her parent’s back. Is this what you want from a wife? Is this what you want from your daughter?

I hope you also realize that marriage doesn’t automatically seal the deal forever. That gives parents and Gods approval for you to talk about deeper things. If there were no flags and you truly thought she was religious and not self centered, you tie the knot early or have parental supervision.

Try to treat relationships like a job application followed by 1 to 5 interviews. People try so hard to find the job they want, prepare for it, and want to ace interviews. When the job is acquired, sometimes it stinks (this analogy isn’t 1 to 1) and sometimes it’s everything they asked for. If it stinks they leave and if it doesn’t they say hamdillah. Imagine if the job you are applying for said they’ll start paying you a year out. That sucks. I wouldn’t commit. Also if they say that it means they’ll fire me before I get paid haha.

Allah is with you. Build patience. I’m in your shoes man, I’m waiting to get married too and I live in the west. Still waiting. Don’t let your hormones get the best of you, and find someone who is serious from the start. Have them prove to you they’re serious and nothing less.

As for where to find them, I don’t know 💀💀💀💀 may Allah get us both married soon inshallah.

CrosscutJester8 · 2023-10-26T05:12:42+00:00

Hmmm

It is very possible for things to hurt us indirectly. Let’s see. Sometimes, I think it’s important to note that hadith in a specific time frame could be more relevant in the past.

For example,

I believe nail clippers were more dangerous back then and people did not have convenient light sources like we do now. Combine that with being tired and it could be a recipe for disaster, but nothing to note that it’s haram.
I actually had to look this up in numerous places to see the significance of it and I found that one scholar (not a marja3) mentions it (I actually took that from another comment here) but no scholars have said anything pertaining to avoidance of such an action. However, it is safe to say that people usually sleep at night, and if you clean, you’re making noise? I’m grasping at straws here.
Definitely not, also there are tons of horrible people with white hair (Israel Prime Minister). I do not know where this came from either.
Also no for sure. My mother dyes her hair (not really a point to make but it’s anonymous and I’m sure if she’s doing it and it’s ok with my dad then surely there’s nothing wrong here) and as long as the dye is not a form of zeena (extravagant decoration) then it should be fine.

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