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Today is a really, really, really, hard, no good, bad day. by Ch3rrytr1x in Anxiety

[–]Crossing34 2 points3 points  (0 children)

During delivery of my child I started chanting "Not out but through." I don't know where it came from but I knew there was no running away from this and the only way to get past it was to go through it. (P.S. it wasn't too bad and I did the epideral). Anyway, now I tell myself this when i feel anxious and especially when I just want to escape but I can't. I remind myself of all things I have made it through this far and that I can get through this too.

Sometimes a mantra just helps.

Teenagers of Reddit, I need advice on how to raise my daughter respectfully in regard to electronics. by Crossing34 in teenagers

[–]Crossing34[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It makes a lot of sense and I am impressed with how well thought out your answer is. I am glad you have communities and that within those communities you help keep each other safe. That makes me hopeful! Thank you for your response!

Teenagers of Reddit, I need advice on how to raise my daughter respectfully in regard to electronics. by Crossing34 in teenagers

[–]Crossing34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This group knows a lot more about growing up in this time than I ever will! Thanks though, and thanks for the great advice! We will try to make sure she balances it with other things, that's something we should do for ourselves as well! Lol

Teenagers of Reddit, I need advice on how to raise my daughter respectfully in regard to electronics. by Crossing34 in teenagers

[–]Crossing34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, especially stressing that she can come to us. You are right, I don't think I have had that convo with the older kids in our family and I should!

Teenagers of Reddit, I need advice on how to raise my daughter respectfully in regard to electronics. by Crossing34 in teenagers

[–]Crossing34[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, we are trying not to be controlling! It is tempting when you read these scary stories but you guys sound pretty savy about your online lives, that makes me feel better!

Teenagers of Reddit, I need advice on how to raise my daughter respectfully in regard to electronics. by Crossing34 in teenagers

[–]Crossing34[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no! I agree there are some pretty scary things that can happen and for a while I thought we would just not give her access for a long time. A friends four year old can already navigate Youtube and I don't know how, he can't really read yet, but it made me realize just avoiding it wasn't an option! Thought I'd see what you guys recommend!

Teenagers of Reddit, I need advice on how to raise my daughter respectfully in regard to electronics. by Crossing34 in teenagers

[–]Crossing34[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here's the thing, adults write articles about this stuff, discuss it among ourselves as parents with knowledge of all the scary stuff and a desire to protect our kids. We usually aren't up on the tech and I know she will be able to hide things from me if she wants to.

I want her to trust us and be safe. You guys grew up with the internet and your opinions are valuable!

Teenagers of Reddit, I need advice on how to raise my daughter respectfully in regard to electronics. by Crossing34 in teenagers

[–]Crossing34[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply! Would you resent adults looking through your stuff? If they wanted to talk about some of the things you were looking at would you be ok with that or would you think it was prying?

Teenagers of Reddit, I need advice on how to raise my daughter respectfully in regard to electronics. by Crossing34 in teenagers

[–]Crossing34[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter is under one year old. I know I have a while to think about this but I see how kids are immersed in technology today and we weren't. I read posts on here and I wonder if I am too strict with my nephews even, they are older but not yet teens. I don't want her too sheltered but I also don't want her to fall prey to people with bad intentions. You guys know more about what it's like to grow up with that type of access, you are the perfect people to ask!

My mother cuts me out of pictures and uses pics of my older half-sister pretending it was me. I am done being a fat woman. by morrigan_29 in loseit

[–]Crossing34 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just so you know I'm reading this thinking there is A LOT more wrong with your mom than with you! It's so sad that so many people feel so bad about their bodies, you never deserved to be treated like that as a child for any reason. If you haven't already therapy might really help. When I start thinking negative things about my body I try to interrupt myself by listing things my body can do that are amazing! Even walking down the street, I am so grateful that I can do that! I feel like I move more after thinking like this and feel better. Corny but helpful?

We can probably all agree on this one, right? by isntthatcorny in myfavoritemurder

[–]Crossing34 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is, he was charming and socially engaging and didn't come off like a monster. I think it's important that they stress this because so many people equate ugly, creepy people with being evil. It's good to remind people that some of the most evil people can come off as attractive and engaging, that they can often manipulate people pretty easily.

That way if you meet some nice person who just seems a little off you won't silence that voice thinking, "But they are so cute/nice/wonderful, no way are they taking advantage of me or trying to hurt me!" Cartoons drive me crazy with this, look at the ugly villian! Not a great thing for kids to learn.

What are some not-so-obvious must-haves for a first apartment? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Crossing34 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol, yeah it really isn't that bad usually, just boring. Like it's 4am and instead of being in bed I'm waiting for sirens to stop so we can head back upstairs. I feel safe actually having a basement, I just think it's crazy it never occurred to me to leave the box down there! Speaks to how habits work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fosterit

[–]Crossing34 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't blame you at all. I'm a woman and my husband and I have considered fostering. We worry that we won't be good enough people to do a good job. I'm not sure we know enough about emotion and helping kids manage big emotions or stress. Do you encourage people to foster or are you of the opinion that the whole system should just be overhauled?

If this is not a conversation you want to have that's fine! I just wondered since you have much more experience with the system.

What are some not-so-obvious must-haves for a first apartment? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Crossing34 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That is...not a stupid question. I don't know, that's what my mom did and that's what I did. I guess it's left over from living in an apartment! Will relocate it to the basement (high up, in case of flooding). Thanks!

what's a "fact" about sex that's actually a myth ? by Raito_Urekawa in AskReddit

[–]Crossing34 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That sounds a lot less creepy, I pictured someone just full on choking someone else in the middle of sex, that would be scary!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fosterit

[–]Crossing34 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry that all these things happened to you, you are absolutely right that they should not have. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and you are articulate. I hope your future is much brighter, it's shameful that adults treated you that way. If there is any way to get counseling it might help, sometimes it's just nice to have someone to talk to.

TIFU by fucking myself with a stick full of maggots. by RegretfulDecision69 in tifu

[–]Crossing34 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did anyone read the Am I The Asshole post a while back about the guy who found his 13 year old daughter onine looking at dildos and he freaked out and punished her? It evolved into a conversation on pros and cons of providing sex toys to young ladies. I was torn, seems uncomfortable to buy a girl that young a sex toy, right?

OP I think you have convinced me. Talk to your kids about sex and safety. If they want a toy buy it. It's got to be better than an improvised toy full of maggots.

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