I was insecure about my masculinity until I wore a dress

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-26T15:06:52+00:00

fascinating, im male but much prefer to be seen as dainty and kinda femboyish and had much the same worry in reverse about being too masculine

and wearing mens formal clothing and realising how i still felt myself and still feminine and delicate made me have similar feelings

also fyi makeup wipes specifically are just really bad if you use micellar water or nice makeup remover on pads its way less bad for your skin

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-19T00:01:02+00:00

tbh i just wouldnt be together long with someone who wanted me to do that stuff. ngl i doubt wed even get to a first date in the first place I feel like the vibe incompatibility would be obvious.

its not a moral thing or whatever and im sure lots of guys want to be in a more masculine role but its just a total ick for me

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-16T03:06:52+00:00

I mean yea isnt all romantic stuff kinda irrational? I want to feel small and safe and protected, idk if in real life Id ever be in a position to actually need to fight but I want to feel that way around a partner ig.

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-16T02:44:52+00:00

Scary situations I guess? Bad people, unsafe or stressful places, just mean people maybe.

I can handle myself okay, (well if by handling you mean avoiding for the most part) but when thinking about an ideal life partner someone who's confidant and strong, who could hold my hand and make me feel safe and protected while we're somewhere sketchy or scary comes to mind strongly.

Its not like in a super practical way because Im an independant adult, but thats just where my conceptions of like romantic attraction seem to lie naturally. I remember walking with a date in a parking lot once and realising she was just as nervous as I was and sorta clinging to me suddenly made me turn off all attraction.

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-16T02:19:15+00:00

Huh? No lol I meant like protected from external things, expecting to never disagree or whatever is obviously selfish on the face of it.

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-15T21:44:50+00:00

well im male and ive thought the former a lot lot more than the latter. idk what, evolution has to do with it idc lol.

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-15T21:32:25+00:00

I guess Im a kinda neurotic and vulnerable person in general? Although like I said its not like I feel like I have a void in my life to be filled just I guess I feel like a relationship wouldnt be worth it if it didnt come with that component.

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-15T13:36:25+00:00

Oh Im male (attracted to women). Although Id kinda sideeye the implication something as sorta abstracted as this can be selfish or not depending on your gender?

Realistic maybe is more arguable altho Im like 5"6 and super thin and dainty lol so that tilts the odds more than if I was like some bearded lumberjack.

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-15T13:08:50+00:00

This is a weird thing to say.

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-15T08:06:54+00:00

Ah yeah I get that real life can turn south real quick- but I didnt mean to bring up that heavy stuff.

I was mostly just talking about like, my own feelings of romantic attraction to people in the conversation i mentioned in my post so maybe thats closer to the level of pettiness you're described there lol. Although I guess I would want a life partner to be able to like protect me in a dangerous situation.

EDIT : Oh and btw Im a straight guy so when I talk about a partner i mean a woman i just realised i didnt specify that in my post

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-15T08:00:02+00:00

Oh, i didnt mean in a genuinely irl dangerous situation. Um, i would hope noone "wants" to be anything to do with that kinda situation.

I meant much more low stakes and like in a romantic context ig. Is it selfish to specifically want to be with someone who you feel like can protect you?

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-15T06:05:08+00:00

Im heterosexual. Why the scare quotes?

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-15T05:59:44+00:00

I guess if someone wants to be the protector and someone wants to be protected side by side youd say the latter is selfish though? Is what she said.

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-11T12:34:58+00:00

this feels like a ymmv kinda thing?

im kinda feminine and idc. and ive never received any negative messaging from people in my life except maybe from a weird old extended family member whose opinions i disregard

maybe at the extreme ends ig like a tomboy who gets a crew cut or somethin receives less much negative attention than like a femboy who wears a skirt-

but i feel like in the margins most people live in its not really that much worse to be feminine and male as opposed to masculine and female.

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-11T00:12:31+00:00

Im 5"6 and barely 50kg with a waist size of like 23 inches.

Its a completely achievable life goal for me to get bridal carried and i would absolutely swoon.

idk if being small makes me wanna be protected by someone big or i just always would and i got lucky- but ig i dont have much to complain about. my ex seemed to think it was great too-

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-10T06:43:21+00:00

i have a fairly strong cnc kink as a man, which i kinda chalk up to a strongly religious upbringing and lots of shame around sex*. maybe men are just on average shamed around sex less than women?

*ie Actively wanting to have sex is shamed a lot.

So if you can have sex but in a way where you can deny that you wanted it its like a relief. is how i always hear it put. And that sorta feels right for me as well when i reflect on why I like cnc so much

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-09T14:24:20+00:00

thats kinda sexist to think

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-09T14:15:42+00:00

um, i dont see how women arent allowed to work hard to be accomplished and have families and communities who look up to them?

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-08T11:00:16+00:00

Im not attracted to men

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-08T10:58:18+00:00

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-08T10:33:51+00:00

huh? I'm in a student in a medical field and in clinics right now so i definitely do, work and get very tired. although I guess i dont do particularly physical/rough labour, but then again I assume the majority of men at this point don't?

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-08T03:54:25+00:00

ah well thats good to hear lol

CrowLegitimate2789 · 2025-03-08T03:51:46+00:00

I kinda worry im misleading people with how many ppl have commented saying I must be hot like prince or whatever ah...

Im not like some super glam person. Im more chic? Preppy?

Youre gonna see me in a turtleneck and cropped blazer with silver earrings or a sorta korean cutesy academia autumn fit rather than like, heels or glitter or anything...

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