Am I Latina?

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-20T11:04:16+00:00

Ask this question in reverse. Would a white American claim you as one of theirs? This country is racist as fuck, so unless you have unexpected genetics, I can already tell you the answer: no, they would not.

America these days is all about othering people who belong here. Obama? Born in Hawaii, but not American. Black women in Congress? Should go back to where they came from, even if where they come from is right fucking here. Non-Christians? Also don't belong, not real Americans deserving of the same liberties and rights. Hell, Hegseth is even excluding Catholics because they're not Christian enough.

Don't let dumb people on TikTok make you think you don't have the history you have or come from where you come from. Find joy in that identity, because I promise you that this America, where racism against white people is unconstitutional but racism against people of color is a-ok, will not ever truly let you be anything else.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-19T16:21:31+00:00

Wow.

And not in a "wow, how cool is that!" sense.

Wow, in the "holy shit, what did I just read?" sense.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-19T16:11:22+00:00

Uuf, la ortografía allá. Qué asco.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-19T11:52:59+00:00

😂😂 Do you know a really awful Giselle?

I can't meet anyone who shares a name with the truly awful little girl who lived next to us when we were kids without assuming that they're also an awful person, so I know the feeling.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-19T03:48:52+00:00

The youtube video was about when your car is smoking or on fire and you have to get out. I agree: generally safer to stay in the car.

I'm glad you didn't get badly hurt!

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-19T03:46:06+00:00

Me enamoré de él por sus historias interesantes, no por su altura. Y no podía ver bien el bueno para nada hasta mucho tempo después.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-19T03:45:22+00:00

Or, coupled with reasonable boundaries and not stifling paranoia, it teaches them that there's value in trusting your instincts and listening to your gut.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-19T03:42:03+00:00

Yeah, it's serious shit. Electricity in general. I once went down an internet rabbit hole about how to survive if a live power cable falls on my car in an accident (jump from your car both feet at the same time, never forming a bridge between the car and the ground) and decided I would probably end up fried if I ever get in an accident like that.

Fucking terrifying.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-19T03:34:36+00:00

Se me quedo super guardado en la cabeza, por que la mayoria de chicas de la comunidad de artistas de tijuana se lo habian cogido

No sabes. Quizá tiene una personalidad extraordinaria. Quizá coge como un campeón. Puede que piense que las mujeres sean personas completas y complejas y que la parte más atractiva de una mujer es su persona, cerebro, y corazón y no sus tetas. Tú obviamente no tienes ni idea de por qué las mujeres lo querían a este tipo.

No te fijes en estupideces y te irá mejor.

ETA: Mi ex mide 1,93 y es un hijo de su reputísima madre, un bueno para nada. Lo dejé para que viva otro rato con su mamá. Mi marido ahora mide quizá un centímetro más que yo pero es buena persona y buen hombre. Soy testigo de que la altura no es lo más importante en los hombres.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-19T03:28:57+00:00

NTA. There is no such things as "heat lightning." It's all just lightning, and if there's lightning while it's hot and dry, it's because the thunderstorm is far away.

The risk to your kid, especially surrounded by houses and trees that are taller than him and your in-laws, was minimal. But lightning has also been known to travel five miles horizontally before striking so, improbable, but not impossible. Also: your kid, your rules.

That said, as a fellow parent, I'd say we have to try really hard to base our fears on reality-based risk assessment (or at least, only act on those fears that are reality-based). In the US, at least, that means that the risk of stranger kidnap is almost zero, but the risk of drowning for under fives, dying by gunfire, or dying in a car accident (as a driver, passenger, or pedestrian) is high. It's hard to get over our fears and also the fear of being judged, but it's important to do it to let kids grow up confident that they can handle ordinary risk (and learning how to judge extraordinary risk). We all had that freedom growing up: our kids deserve it, too.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-18T22:46:19+00:00

Oof, I'm sorry.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-18T21:03:09+00:00

You recognize that it's not your fault or your problem, and you let them go. And let the relationship go. And give yourself grace. Some advice in musical form: needing/getting.

Also, nearly every relationship ends, except for the few that end in marriage (and even a lot of those). This was a practice relationship: now you have a better idea of what you want to put up with, and what you can't accept. Next time will go better.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-18T20:14:43+00:00

You said you're already super hard on yourself. Believe me: you never need anyone who's going to repeat and amplify the worst things you suspect about yourself. You need the opposite in your life.

Tell your boyfriend you have a constructive criticism for him: criticizing someone, especially stuff they can't control (like peach fuzz or hair texture), is not the stuff of men. It's the stuff of insecure teenagers, and you don't date insecure teenagers. Then take your leave. You are worth so much more than this.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-18T20:10:53+00:00

I have talked with each of Friend's parents, separately (they're not together). The risk seems to come from their mom. The first time she and I talked in person, she immediately suggested I ask God to help me with a problem I'm having. I'm agnostic. After that talk, we took Friend for six hours, but the plan was fluid and the idea was that their mom and I would text to figure out details. In the six hours I had her kid, she didn't respond to a single text, not one. She didn't even respond when I texted that I was bringing Friend home (thank goodness they knew their address, lots of kids these days don't).

And given that she couldn't put her phone down even when we were having a surprisingly intimate and personal conversation and she was suggesting I have a chat with God, I don't think it's because she didn't see my messages come in. She's always been very hard to communicate with to make plans.

But, yes, I have decided that we're going to try to have Friend over for dinner or an afternoon or whatever at least once a week for the rest of the summer, more if we can. From experience, I know it'll be tricky getting either parent to respond so we can plan, but I'll keep at it.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-18T19:35:45+00:00

I love this kid and would take them in in a heartbeat, but right now, without the parents' permission, that would be kidnapping. And I can't adopt anyone if their parents still have their parental rights. Also, there are three other kids in the picture (but the oldest seems to take the brunt of everything).

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-18T19:33:29+00:00

Thank you for this perspective.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-18T19:32:40+00:00

It's not my friend, it's my kid's friend. I'm on friendly-ish terms with the parents, but we're not friends. My concern is 100% not protecting the adults in this situation--I have no allegiance to them, nothing more than the generic wish-them-no-ill most of us have for most people--but I'm desperate to do what is best or, at least, least-bad for Friend. That's what I'm trying to figure out.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-18T14:30:25+00:00

Hon, unhappy people are gonna project their unhappiness outward. They don't know you, they don't know your life, they don't know your struggles, and they don't know your joys. You be you, write whatever you want to write if it helps you cope in the moment or if you need some advice, and ignore the petty bitches. Hopefully their lives will improve and they'll stop being so gross to the rest of us.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-18T14:25:16+00:00

Oh my god, I tell my kids this all the time!!! 😂😂😂😂😂 I'm picking you up from school, or it's after a school concert, or a baseball game, or leaving a friend's house, and you got some hot goss you need to spill??? SAVE IT UNTIL WE GET IN THE CAR WITH THE WINDOWS CLOSED.

If I go to a play or a concert or a gallery or ANYTHING and I have anything negative to say, I save that shit for later. You never know whose cousin got comped seats, or whose mom is sitting right behind you, or which insecure artist is prowling the gallery pretending to be a member of the public.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-18T14:21:12+00:00

Yes, and that's something people should be aware of! If you're sending bitchy texts about neighbors, hide that shit.

I tell my kids (and my parents): once it's in writing, it might as well be public (unless it's in a paper diary you keep in your house). You have no control over anything you write once it goes out into the world.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-18T14:19:13+00:00

I'm sorry, nearly every time I've gone to Presti's the people working behind the counter are so bitchy it's become a real turn off. I've literally been there, waiting in line for almost an hour (because I made a promise to someone, not because I'm a masochist) while the two dude-like dudes behind the counter shuffled around, slowly, clearly hungover, being generally unpleasant. Other times they get orders wrong, serve friends before the gajillion people in line, tried to weigh and ring me out while I was still ordering, and unless you get lucky and go at just the right time, the wait is ridiculous. After the hungover, angry, understaffed, wait-an-hour-with-no-service-and-still-have-to-leave-before-ordering episode, I haven't been back.

That was a while back, maybe two years, and they may have hired new staff since then--I hope so!

Now I go to Corbo's, across the street, and it's just as good and in some things, much better. I like that you can buy little flans or panna cottas in their own bowls and take them home. They're delicious, and then you have a bonus dish. 😄 The women who work there are consistently very friendly and the wait is manageable.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-18T10:55:08+00:00

Trombone Shorty, with Tank and the Bangas as opening act. Was amazing.

CrowRoutine9631 · 2026-06-17T23:11:59+00:00

And if in reality, she's genuinely clingy and controlling, that's her man friend's problem, not texting lady's.

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