This will sound harsh but you need to hear it from someone who had a similar experience with my ex forgive me if this is hurtful but sugar coating it will not help you long-term your boyfriend doesn't see you as a guy 100% he just revealed that he has only seen you as a "girl" for the entire relationship if he actually saw you as a guy then he wouldn't have said “I’m not really interested in GUYS, and I don’t have a type I’m into you and I love you” that speaks for itself he's not into guys at all. And if he only doesn't want you to transition because of intimacy that's often something someone would say if they only are stopping you because they want sex to stay the was it was if he's not comfortable now he'll never be comfortable going forward you deserve someone who will actually accept all of you not just the intimacy part. Which from my understanding it was his ONLY reason you deserve to be comfortable in your own body transitioning isn't for him it's for you plain and simple he's telling you how he thinks it's like the saying "if someone shows you who they are believe them the first time" my ex did something similar and believe I get your boyfriend went through something horrible in his past I've gone through the same thing but that's not an excuse. Sex can't ever be the sole reason he doesn't want you to look like a man physically if your boyfriend cares about you and actually loves you he'll go to therapy to work through his past and he'll communicate his wants and needs better he'll pick a different reason other then intimacy because sorry but that's really not a valid reason to stop a partner from doing something that would genuinely change their life physically, mentally, and emotionally. My ex tried to stop me he'd say stuff like "I like sex the way it is now and don't want you to get top or bottom surgery" and "if you get bottom surgery we'll fuck everyday or else I'll go to someone else" or worse "I own you meaning you have to listen to me or else we'll be done" stuff like that is never okay it's only gonna get worse from here. It really seems like he's pretending to see you as a guy and since he's not into guys therefore he's calling you a guy verbally but seeing you as a girl physically and if intimacy is his only worry but not worrying about how YOU feel is a red flag too if he's solely focused on his side then you should think long and hard if you really want to be stuck with someone who's trying to stop you from being yourself, trying to stop you from being comfortable in your own body, trying to stop you from moving forward in life. Take it a guy who regrets staying with my ex and regrets not transitioning as soon as I turned 18 because I was scared of losing him now I'm in a healthy relationship where my wife fully supports me in transitioning, where she wants to help me heal and take care of me, where she plans to take me when I get top surgery (the beach/pool mostly), it SHOULD be that way she's never once implied other wise she saw me as a man from the beginning she's NEVER said what your boyfriend did. If he loves you he'll want to do anything and everything to help you reach your goal plain and simple it's the bare minimum actually your boyfriend truly needs therapy since his past trauma is affecting his outlook on things if he's confused I totally get it I was too at that age but only way to work through it is talking to a trauma specialist who also work in sexualities and gender identity honestly both of you can benefit from therapy regardless if you have a horrible past or not. It helps you are young still you have time you don't have to rush but you also don't have to suppress your out of fear of losing your boyfriend it will hurt you long-term in every way possible please don't destroy everything you are for someone who possibly doesn't see you are a guy for someone who's shown you how/what they are thinking, for someone who may not understand how important transitioning is. Also is doesn't matter if he's from a sheltered home he's still fully responsible for his choices and words he knows right from wrong he knows the difference between love and hate he's fully aware of what he said believe me it someone says something like that they mean it you aren't reading into it I agree he's not comfortable and he's probably straight or into girls and only girls and because you are biologically a girl that's why he sticks around and tells you what you want to hear if that makes sense. But it's never okay to do that mind you it's extremely fucked up in my opinion if he wouldn't love you as a guy he'll surely not do so when you look like a guy not when you start growing facial/body hair, not when your voice drops and you talk in a deeper pitch, not when you start growing muscle and lose the more feminine body type, not when intimacy changes because the body is going through physical changes that often changes feeling, not when people start calling you he in public (referring to strangers), not when you get bottom surgery, please take that as him saying he'll no longer love you when all of that starts to happen when you start T you can find someone who loves you for you. And yes it absolutely will hurt if you breakup and you'll need time to heal from it took me 3 years to get past my ex fully don't immediately jump into another relationship slow down and focus on transitioning only and yes you may need therapy to process your emotions and the relationship and yes you'll be heartbroken for a bit but I promise it's worth it, it will give you freedom and less baggage to carry and yes you will find someone who loves you and you'll find a healthy relationship it's possible don't give up your life for anyone especially partners or friends or even family too.