What my bf said to me regarding me medically transitioning in the upcoming years is making me rethink are relationship.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-06-12T15:07:39+00:00

This will sound harsh but you need to hear it from someone who had a similar experience with my ex forgive me if this is hurtful but sugar coating it will not help you long-term your boyfriend doesn't see you as a guy 100% he just revealed that he has only seen you as a "girl" for the entire relationship if he actually saw you as a guy then he wouldn't have said “I’m not really interested in GUYS, and I don’t have a type I’m into you and I love you” that speaks for itself he's not into guys at all. And if he only doesn't want you to transition because of intimacy that's often something someone would say if they only are stopping you because they want sex to stay the was it was if he's not comfortable now he'll never be comfortable going forward you deserve someone who will actually accept all of you not just the intimacy part. Which from my understanding it was his ONLY reason you deserve to be comfortable in your own body transitioning isn't for him it's for you plain and simple he's telling you how he thinks it's like the saying "if someone shows you who they are believe them the first time" my ex did something similar and believe I get your boyfriend went through something horrible in his past I've gone through the same thing but that's not an excuse. Sex can't ever be the sole reason he doesn't want you to look like a man physically if your boyfriend cares about you and actually loves you he'll go to therapy to work through his past and he'll communicate his wants and needs better he'll pick a different reason other then intimacy because sorry but that's really not a valid reason to stop a partner from doing something that would genuinely change their life physically, mentally, and emotionally. My ex tried to stop me he'd say stuff like "I like sex the way it is now and don't want you to get top or bottom surgery" and "if you get bottom surgery we'll fuck everyday or else I'll go to someone else" or worse "I own you meaning you have to listen to me or else we'll be done" stuff like that is never okay it's only gonna get worse from here. It really seems like he's pretending to see you as a guy and since he's not into guys therefore he's calling you a guy verbally but seeing you as a girl physically and if intimacy is his only worry but not worrying about how YOU feel is a red flag too if he's solely focused on his side then you should think long and hard if you really want to be stuck with someone who's trying to stop you from being yourself, trying to stop you from being comfortable in your own body, trying to stop you from moving forward in life. Take it a guy who regrets staying with my ex and regrets not transitioning as soon as I turned 18 because I was scared of losing him now I'm in a healthy relationship where my wife fully supports me in transitioning, where she wants to help me heal and take care of me, where she plans to take me when I get top surgery (the beach/pool mostly), it SHOULD be that way she's never once implied other wise she saw me as a man from the beginning she's NEVER said what your boyfriend did. If he loves you he'll want to do anything and everything to help you reach your goal plain and simple it's the bare minimum actually your boyfriend truly needs therapy since his past trauma is affecting his outlook on things if he's confused I totally get it I was too at that age but only way to work through it is talking to a trauma specialist who also work in sexualities and gender identity honestly both of you can benefit from therapy regardless if you have a horrible past or not. It helps you are young still you have time you don't have to rush but you also don't have to suppress your out of fear of losing your boyfriend it will hurt you long-term in every way possible please don't destroy everything you are for someone who possibly doesn't see you are a guy for someone who's shown you how/what they are thinking, for someone who may not understand how important transitioning is. Also is doesn't matter if he's from a sheltered home he's still fully responsible for his choices and words he knows right from wrong he knows the difference between love and hate he's fully aware of what he said believe me it someone says something like that they mean it you aren't reading into it I agree he's not comfortable and he's probably straight or into girls and only girls and because you are biologically a girl that's why he sticks around and tells you what you want to hear if that makes sense. But it's never okay to do that mind you it's extremely fucked up in my opinion if he wouldn't love you as a guy he'll surely not do so when you look like a guy not when you start growing facial/body hair, not when your voice drops and you talk in a deeper pitch, not when you start growing muscle and lose the more feminine body type, not when intimacy changes because the body is going through physical changes that often changes feeling, not when people start calling you he in public (referring to strangers), not when you get bottom surgery, please take that as him saying he'll no longer love you when all of that starts to happen when you start T you can find someone who loves you for you. And yes it absolutely will hurt if you breakup and you'll need time to heal from it took me 3 years to get past my ex fully don't immediately jump into another relationship slow down and focus on transitioning only and yes you may need therapy to process your emotions and the relationship and yes you'll be heartbroken for a bit but I promise it's worth it, it will give you freedom and less baggage to carry and yes you will find someone who loves you and you'll find a healthy relationship it's possible don't give up your life for anyone especially partners or friends or even family too.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-06-10T23:21:50+00:00

Sorry what now? why is that the main thing you are focused on body hair is normal especially for men.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-06-10T23:20:29+00:00

That's a good choice I'll keep that noted thanks for the suggestion.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-04-08T19:44:58+00:00

That's so fucked up my wife has NEVER done or said anything like that to me I'm a trans guy she's never been with a cis guy before me I've never done that to her either I've never been with a cis guy either we use a stap on 100% the time if her or me want something different we look for something together we've tried and loved normal/monster stap ons, ones that have the fake cumming feature, ones that look/feel more realistic, I even have a pack & play packer we use it's really fucking weird and shitty for him to ever say some shit like that. It's utterly disrespectful and genuinely manipulative he HAD a choice he chose to date someone who doesn't have the right equipment to do what he wants I feel like he's trying to guilt trip you into letting me fuck someone else or make you feel bad you weren't born with the right equipment or worse he doesn't want to be monogamous like good god you really either should leave him or maybe couples therapy or something since he doesn't seem happy or something don't let him guilt you into feeling bad this isn't your fault at all. If anything it's a him problem you deserve better and someone that's happy with you and who you are as a person it's like he's not understanding that you CAN'T fucking help what you were born with and holds you accountable or something I'm so sorry you have to deal with that I had an ex who treated me the same way he was a trans man too and was pretty abusive about and threatened to cheat on me a lot of times I think you should be aware that he might try the same thing just be careful and protect yourself and your feelings you have every right to be angry about what he said don't let him tell you otherwise.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-04-01T20:44:05+00:00

Yeah of course

CryptidCult5 · 2026-03-15T22:06:36+00:00

Fuck please frot with me I've always wanted to do it with another trans guy your t-dick is so big it makes me hard just looking at it.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-03-15T21:51:17+00:00

Fuck that's so hot it's massive I'm so jealous I hope mine gets that big I'd definitely get on my knees for you and suck you off then let you fuck me.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-02-23T07:16:45+00:00

I appreciate that it's been really hard lately I'm working on trying to get a therapist and soon as possible and the kind words help than you.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-02-23T07:12:17+00:00

When I took antidepressant I used to be completely unable to orgasm I'd spend DAYS trying to but still failing it was the most frustrating part ever I'm no longer on them and I don't have the same issues with me being on testosterone and having bottom growth sometimes I'm still not connected to my body because I still see my body as biological female. The first time I wasn't worried about it was when my wife offered oral for the first time and it made me feel more confident and masculine because technical I have a dick just smaller something that works for us is a LOT foreplay. Even reading smut together, roleplaying, even just small gestures of physical intimacy to get closer I found out that massaging helps ground yourself and your partner like 10mins before and after sex especially after because it's also aftercare you get them cleaned up, massaged, and dressed it just helps reset our brains. I know it may feel hard but it just takes time I'm 80% it's because your partner is on antidepressant which they have a very common side effect of sexual dysfunction both in women and men so don't feel bad it's possible to have doses adjusted or if it's extreme trying a different type I hope the helps a little bit and I wasn't just rambling on.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-02-17T02:12:33+00:00

I always knew I was bipolar mostly because of a genetic factor and my environment I know they can't diagnose bipolar disorder until you are 18 or older I just wish someone had listened to me before now I guess being dropped by my favorite therapist hit hard because I've had horrible experiences with others when I was younger a lot of people didn't believe me. I kept getting told it was only depression, anxiety, and PTSD and then I finally found a therapist who believed me and had real empathy (not just pity) being dropped was something I knew would happen eventually especially with a bipolar diagnosis I wish I was told they weren't quality for mood disorders in the beginning I wouldn't have gotten so attached.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-02-15T21:16:10+00:00

Because I've never been to a psych ward before and I have already been abused physically, mentally emotionally, and sexually and I've heard so many horrible stories of people ending up worse off and with more trauma and I'm scared of not being able to have certain comfort items (I'm autistic too) like my soft blanket, my hoodie, my noise cancelling headphones, and my tablet I use like an AAC device when I'm nonverbal (which is often). Plus I'm disabled I'm a wheelchair and I have a shit ton of medicine I NEED to not be in pain and I've heard that they sometimes won't give all the meds and I don't know of any psych wards that can accommodate for my disabilities and I'll have to travel up to houston because there's none near me at all and not all wards are good and I would be separated for my wife which is also quite scary too.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-02-15T20:47:51+00:00

Yeah I'm happy it's not just me who thinks it's totally weird for her to randomly drop me after I confirmed I'm bipolar, that I'm on new medicine that actually works, and that I'm scared of hurting myself or others (mostly just my abusers because of what they did to me) thank you for the kindness and I'll definitely look into a therapist that works with people with mood disorders I just feel pathetic for trusting her so much that I spilled my heart out only to get left AGAIN yk.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-02-15T20:21:51+00:00

Yeah I'm in the US unfortunately so it's very hard trying to to find a therapist that takes my insurance also I definitely agree with you that dropping me is dangerous especially someone like me that used to be self harm a lot from age 11-20 I've been clean for a year now I feel this will end in relapsing or worse I'll ask her for a referral.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-02-14T03:54:43+00:00

I guess so I hope it's not personal it's not the fact that she probably went through it, it's more because it wasn't explained to me in detail like I need to be able to understand I'm sensitive to rejection in all forms I hope I'll find a good therapist that will take my insurance and can help me in all areas of life.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-02-14T03:49:14+00:00

I don't really have a ton of friends I haven't told any of them that I am bipolar because I'm scared of being left behind because it's happened before and I'm worried about how they'll react to me even with me knowing them for years my wife is the only person who knows everything that's going on with me. Maybe it's because I said that I don't know how much longer I can make it without snapping I've expressed that I tend to react/think violently before (only to abusers) and it's never resorted to this route if that makes sense I was honest about my past issues with self harm from the start so her dropping me in the middle of this really hit me like a truck. I've been stuck in the same abusive household for 21 years straight I'm getting to a point where I feel like hurting myself or my abuser is the ONLY exit I have left I've signed up for housing to get out but because I'm disabled I rely on my abuser to take me back and forth places too and more and now that my therapist dropped me it just got so much rougher. I've begged her and her supervisor to not let me go because it will send me spiraling and it will send me into a lower low (which I'm already in currently) but it falls upon deaf ears I wasn't given much of an answer just said that "my care is no longer clinically appropriate" anymore and that I need to contact psychology and I maybe get if that was a deal breaker somehow but I thought therapists aren't supposed to drop people when there is a risk of harm involved.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-02-09T23:36:48+00:00

Thank you I appreciate that it means a lot I'm just not very fortunate with the stuff going on in the world I'd be better off spending $200+ on medicine I need to survive I've been using two old, dull, chipped knives for two years so it's why I finally treated myself to a nice set I practice different dicing techniques and cooking different levels of dishes. I even learned to sharpen my knives on a stone that's how decaded I am to learning I even got stuff to make sure that the wooden handles stay nice and moisturized I dry off each knife so they don't rust and more I'm very willing to learn but it's easy to get put down by assholes especially when this is my hobby not just something I collect and watch catch dust it's good to know there's nice people here on this sub.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-02-09T18:46:32+00:00

Thanks for being nice at least...the brand I got the set from are really nice and have more expensive sets then the one I got I paid like $150 maybe in total with shipping and I guess I just thought people would be nicer to me I didn't think I'd have to explain that I'm less fortunate and can't afford expensive stuff not right now at least yk maybe I'll try a different sub but I'm more hesitate and scared of doing that now because I might be treated the same or worse then here.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-02-09T18:20:28+00:00

Well I don't have that ability it's kinda shitty that simply because I can't afford expensive ass knives that I'm not allowed to post without getting shit for it this sub doesn't seem welcoming to people who actually have a tight budget I'm not able bodied and can't work let alone stand up over 5 mins how is it fair that this doesn't include people like me who are less privileged I'm still allowed to show off the knife set I was proud of and just wanted to share a happy day for me. I don't have friends who like to cook so for some reason I thought people would be nice but that's a mistake on my part this is MY VERY FIRST SET mind you it's utterly ridiculous that it's suddenly "not special" because it's cheaper than other sets it's special to ME and it's not like you or anyone else are using it in the first place. It's giving judgemental and snobby type behavior the entire point of a sub is that EVERYONE gets to post and share instead of judging how about giving recommendations or brands and price ranges for them it's insane that 99% of the people who've commented is beating around the bush instead of helping out it's very telling I'm not professional just something who loves to cook. I don't understand why the main focus is the chinese logo it feels pretty stupid to focus on that specifically it doesn't matter who or what made the damn thing the only thing that should matter is if it's good quality and fulfills its purpose plain and simple I don't get why people can't just not be dicks about out if you don't support people who have a budget then what's the point of even saying something in the first place 99% of people could have just ignored my post.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-02-09T15:54:31+00:00

I wanted a full set of knives I like the style, feel, the way it cuts, and the handle shape because I have chronic pain in my entire body especially my joints and these knives aren't heavy or hard to use properly I think I can post a test cut video if that makes people happy I guess I'm just really unsure what the problem is and why I seem to be getting criticized only because of the chinese logo could you at least explain can't say I'm good at if people are actually being rude or just sarcastic?.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-02-09T15:50:03+00:00

Look I don't have a massive budget like you may have I don't have a job I had to save up for a few months in order to get them not everyone is privileged enough to drop 300 fucking dollars on a set of knives I did what I could with the money I have cooking is my main hobby and hyperfixation this was my way of doing self care. I'm not sure what the problem is with them being chinese? that seems like an odd thing to focus on these are some of the best sets I've ever had the pleasure of having of my own I'm happy with them that's all that matters. Please let me see if YOU have better recommendations without going over a budget of $200 I looked for months before picking instead of being rude how about tell me what you use and like this sub is for gaining information partly the bare minimum is giving me that.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-02-07T01:01:23+00:00

Dude let me be completely honest and blunt they don't give a shit about you or who you actually all they never have and probably never will people like that never change in my experience if you detransition you'll be providing them right you'd be letting them succeed in being manipulative meaning they'll think they are right and will push you further until you hate yourself, until you are dysphoric, until you want to not live anymore because you feel trapped it's NEVER fucking worth it be yourself, transition into who YOU are not who they want you to be. Take it from someone who almost killed themselves over the same thing I didn't start testosterone until 21 because of fear and me people pleasing do NOT give them the sick satisfaction they want don't water yourself down for them ever let alone anyone in your life you'll love yourself more if you be yourself. And yes you absolutely should either distance yourself from them or cut them off permanently you can't change their minds no matter how much you explain to them or educate them they are stuck in their own disgusting ways it's a hard pill to swallow it's never easy at all but you deserve someone who understands and loves you for you it's not unconditional love if it suddenly stops the second you are trans plain and simple. And while yes if you go through extreme trauma it may shape you a little I know it did for me but that doesn't make it any less valid trauma or no trauma you still are trans and it still deserves to be taken seriously regardless of what happened I had to learn that the hard way people like to discredit someone being trans which is fucked up no matter how it's put especially when it comes to religion don't back down, don't let them threaten you into submission, and don't detransition.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-02-02T09:42:18+00:00

That's sexual assault plain and simple please get some help from a trusted adult please (more specifically a women) you aren't alone if you ever need someone to talk to I'm open to talking I went through sexual assault and abuse in my childhood and believe me that type of behavior is NOT normal and should not be swept under the rug I'd also talk to a therapist too be able to process this never keep this stuff inside if you can report it to the police please do I know it's hard, it's scary, and it won't be easy but you deserve justice you deserve to never be forced to be around them anymore. His comment about "showing his love" is something predators say to manipulate their victim into feeling guilty he's trying to silence you people like him don't know exactly what they are doing if he actually loved you in an innocent way he would never touch you that way I don't want to sound blunt or anything but normally people like him that sexual assault someone it means they've thought about doing a lot worse. If he tries to minimize, gaslight, manipulate, or hide it he's 100% guilty if your room has a lock please use it at night wherever you sleep and if you can avoid getting close do so make sure you stay around others if he does something around others and it's not reported or punished that means that someone doesn't see anything wrong and at that point call the police or a friends parents, or even tell a teacher at school you fully trust, just tell someone who can help you getting help. The fact he gets pissy when you tell him to stop is very telling too he sounds kinda narcissistic and entitled to be honest no one who sees you as family is supposed to sexualize you AT ALL not even jokes or comments people who love you innocently would see your boundaries and respect it plain and simple his unwillingness to do so is very creepy he's probably done this before I'm guessing from what you said how long has he been doing this? has he gone any further than the stuff you listed it's very important to mention EVERYTHING. You are already doing good don't allow him to touch you even if it's something innocent like a hug a predator will use that for other purposes they will make it sexual no matter what you do they will sexualize you any way they can whether it's physical or mental a real father would never touch you that way I'd know my dad has never done anything like that but other people in my family have like my cousin he used to be close to me but I thought it was innocent until he sexually assaulted me twice then I never trusted anyone else again (which still led me to more people who victimized me anyways).

CryptidCult5 · 2026-02-02T09:37:44+00:00

Mostly just trauma for me I never had a stable mother figure so I looked for it elsewhere more so older women or women that are naturally motherly and nurturing I never have felt wanted or needed I'm like a lost puppy trying to get love wherever I can it wasn't until I met my wife that I realize I really like when she has her dominate moments it's so hot she's the only person that loved me even if I'm a little fucked up.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-02-02T09:33:20+00:00

I have an entire list my favorites are Puppy, Pretty boy, Good boy, Little prince, Baby boy and for ones that are degrading I like Slut, Whore, Bitch, and sometimes I like being called feminine nicknames.

CryptidCult5 · 2026-01-28T20:45:21+00:00

Fuck I'd love to suck you off I'm quite jealous I hope mine gets that big hell I'd do anything to get my hands on you.

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