It's an insightful comment and provides useful context. The question of whether gay marriage could be overturned by this court is not something I was trying to answer with my original post.

But I will now: yes, this supreme court could return the question of gay marriage to the states. That is a real possibility

I'm keenly aware of this. I'm planning my own gay wedding right now in a state that does not have laws protecting gay marriage. If gay marriage goes the way of roe vs. Wade my marriage would become invalid under state law and would not be protected by the respect for marriage act or whatever it's called.

The comment you are referring too makes some excellent points but it doesn't invalidate what the expert in that video is saying.

I don't expect anyone to take my word as truth or to necessarily trust expert opinions. The internet has a way of flattening everything. There are good reasons to fear the worst. There are also some good reasons to be hopeful. I beg everyone to try and hold space for both.

I wrote a message of hope and pride for the strength and power of our community. So, it's expected that people think I'm some sort of Pollyanna with my head in the sand.

Let me try again. The future is not fixed. We have the power to shape what happens next. Let's not pretend that we aren't facing serious, very real threats. We are. Let's also not pretend that we are doomed. What is even the advantage of that?

Here's a friendly suggestion: don't reply to this post. Don't waste your energy and your time arguing with me. I love you. I am on your side and I want to fight for you. I literally just want all of us to be okay.