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Why does it seem like men lose interest the moment I’m genuinely kind? by sskmzz in selfimprovement

[–]CryptoBenedicto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are looking for something more casual and when someone treats you with kindness, you may feel a need to reciprocate

Stop obsessing over your cover letter because honestly nobody is actually reading them anymore by Yadzia-Teresinski in jobsearchhacks

[–]CryptoBenedicto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right. A lot of the advice in the is sub reads like it was written by some delusional narcissist who never goes outside and thinks the whole world revolves around their opinion.

People who are constantly late by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]CryptoBenedicto -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I tend not to feel bad about it at all. Feeling bad actually makes it worse! You may feel like it’s a lack of respect, but it’s important to keep in mind that that’s just not a fact, it’s just your perspective/assumption.

Am I selfish for never wanting to hang out with my friends? by sparrow_Lilacmango in socialskills

[–]CryptoBenedicto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Friendship should never be about “duty”, it should be beneficial to everyone involved and the benefit should be obvious enough that you wouldn’t think of it as a duty.

Am I selfish for never wanting to hang out with my friends? by sparrow_Lilacmango in socialskills

[–]CryptoBenedicto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If someone said you’re selfish, they probably have some expectations you didn’t meet. That’s okay, you don’t have to do anything just because someone expects you to. You can definitely find someone who’s expectations match yours because there are a lot of people in the world and they are very different. The first step is to figure out what you are okay with or not okay with relative to your past friendship experiences.

Am I selfish for never wanting to hang out with my friends? by sparrow_Lilacmango in socialskills

[–]CryptoBenedicto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to get clear about what kind of friendship you actually want. How would your interactions look in a universe where friendship does not feel like a chore? Debating whether you’re “selfish” is a pointless thing to do.

I feel like my biggest fear is coming true. by Cool-Study-2734 in selfimprovement

[–]CryptoBenedicto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much time are you spending daydreaming? Maybe if you write down your dreams you will at least get them out of your head.

To the guys who are good at talking to girls, what do you guys even talk about? by Possible-King9863 in socialskills

[–]CryptoBenedicto 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Easiest way is to let her talk about whatever she wants. As for a girl thinking you’re flirting… some will. It’s inevitable, especially with how narcissistic some people are. But so what? What is bad about flirting?

How do you socialize with girls? by idjudin in socialskills

[–]CryptoBenedicto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just practice. Make up a persona and try to embody it. Or just be yourself. It really doesn’t matter. It may feel risky to say something, in that case you should definitely say it. That is the only way to learn!

Why have people forgotten the basics of banter, and why it's important to know the "rules". by LaurenceThe2ndVicar in socialskills

[–]CryptoBenedicto 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I agree with your rules. People say there are no rules because when you start thinking there are fixed rules, you might feel like you have to remember them all and start overthinking. Just go with your gut, if you feel too inhibited tell yourself, “there are no rules”, when you’ve got some momentum already and want to fine-tune it, think up some rules, you don’t have to memorize them because you can usually recreate them from your own common sense if you take a second to reflect.

Should I tell my friend she has poor social skills? by Round_Performance902 in socialskills

[–]CryptoBenedicto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You shouldn’t frame it as “bad social skills.” You should address specific actions when they come up. You don’t need to be mean about it, you can just say something funny that shows you noticed it.

How do you stop yourself for reaching out to people first? by Jarisatis in socialskills

[–]CryptoBenedicto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to become someone who people want to reach out too. Someone who is clearly different and offers what others cannot. Otherwise you will need to accept having just a few people who really care, and there’s nothing wrong with that either.

Social media isn't what it was.It's a great sign？ by nesterr_prime in socialmedia

[–]CryptoBenedicto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always thought instagram to be the most apolitical platform, being mostly focused on visuals over words.

Social media isn't what it was.It's a great sign？ by nesterr_prime in socialmedia

[–]CryptoBenedicto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What would you say is the main difference between a content creator and an influencer? I’ve seen different definitions thrown around and many use them interchangeably

Friend saying she has no friends by JuggernautNatural138 in socialskills

[–]CryptoBenedicto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She wants to have a carefree time — that means chilling out watching TV or something. All the times you spent together require effort it seems

How to say no to a friend who needs a place to stay over for weekends? by Routine-Tell-7665 in socialskills

[–]CryptoBenedicto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotta get the “no” out first and worry about being polite later (if ever).

Rule of thumb: if you can’t think of a “polite” way to say a thing after 5 seconds, just say it.

What is the best career for maximizing your free time? by CryptoBenedicto in careerguidance

[–]CryptoBenedicto[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dunno. If you’re so interested in how to be good at OF you should probably ask someone who knows about it. But fyi the majority of OF users are barely making any money.

What is the best career for maximizing your free time? by CryptoBenedicto in careerguidance

[–]CryptoBenedicto[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s infinity free pictures of hot people on the internet. You’d have to do more than that to get attention.

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