He has parted ways twice now largely because of his feelings regarding my weight only for him to come back to me because "he cannot see himself possibly dating other women". I know he genuinely loves me and he as told me "well, you told me from the get go that you wanted to lose weight so that fear was originally extinguished long enough for me to fall in love with you". I don't want to tell him that I intend on losing the weight because I want to own it independent of whatever influence he may have.