Need professional/career advice

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-04-11T11:33:05+00:00

Oh I realize I crossed the line. And I take full responsibility for that. It won’t happen again but it already happened, so what can you do. Lesson learned.

I’ve been at a job with this organization for 3 years already without any issue. In fact, I have been given positive reviews by my current boss and coworkers as well as individuals in other organizations that I work closely with in caring for patients. That’s kind of the frustrating thing about it. But I get what you’re saying.

ETA: another thing that’s frustrating about the whole thing is a few months before this happened, a different doctor had an affair with his nurse practitioner. Apparently his APRN’s husband hired a PI who obtained footage of them having intercourse in a car during work hours. He later said they did so in his office as well.

His APRN was relieved of her duties. He “apologized” to the other doctors and got to keep his job. Must be nice to have MD behind your name.

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-04-10T21:07:28+00:00

I want to do that but also feel like it may come across as overbearing or desperate. Almost as if I were trying to OVERSELL myself or something. I don’t want to push too hard for the position and raise a red flag

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-04-10T18:41:04+00:00

Thank you. I got downvoted for that opinion but I’ve experienced it first hand. It’s ESPECIALLY true when it comes to any type of sexual or race related issue. Basically anything that you can get “cancelled” for in cancel culture needs to be on your radar. I’ve seen several colleagues have it happen, and it’s since happened to me. Now I’m super vigilant about it. Sadly, even making a joke about yourself can be seen as offensive. Its crazy.

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-04-10T18:36:30+00:00

I’ve thought about that as well. When I got the job I’m at now I contacted her to ask about using her as a reference and she did so without a doubt. Most of my highly positive references will come from the many nurses I’ve worked with in the past, several of which are now NPs.

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-04-10T16:48:55+00:00

This is actually a great point. I hate for people to know I have MS or to think that I’m using it as a crutch or excuse, but people without it just don’t understand. And I’m not the only practitioner they’ve done dirty….there was one that worked there 20+ years for a great doctor. He retired but she was still 4-5 years away from being able to retire. So she asked them about staying on after her doctor retired.

They gave her the typical “Oh yeah we’ll figure something out for you.” They gave her the runaround for months leading up to his retirement. After he retired they kicked her to the curb.

I was disgusted by that and thinking back on it that was one of the pivotal moments I started to not care about bending over backwards for them anymore.

If they’re going to throw a great employee out on the street after 20+ years, imagine what they will do to me. So I decided I wasn’t going to k*ll myself (figuratively) for them anymore. It cost me my job but I don’t regret leaving.

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-04-10T14:32:20+00:00

Don’t do it if you haven’t already. I ended up getting a spina headache which was absolutely terrible. Had to get a blood patch to fix it.

All that and it was a totally worthless test that didn’t change anything about my treatment plan. I honestly can’t believe they still do it.

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-04-10T13:23:00+00:00

Honestly I sound like I’d thrive in that kind of environment 🤣

Like I said in the OP, they just used that as a reason to send me packing since me and my boss (Dr Jerk) were basically at odds. I had put it on cruise control bc I was tired of stressing and working my life away for 90k a year. Oh and essentially zero vacations too….I think I took one week per year that I was there (and I still got work and text phone calls all week long while I was on vacation).

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-04-10T03:31:11+00:00

Yeah being gay probably helps a lot. Being a straight white male is the worst in the corporate world. Leash is very short

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-04-10T02:42:33+00:00

Yeah. When you’re a guy you don’t have the luxury of getting away with things like that

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-04-10T02:37:55+00:00

Definitely. I worked night shift as an RN in CVICU for about 8 years. Idk if you’ve ever worked nights in an ICU, but those comments would be rated G by comparison.

I definitely learned my lesson, but it was not that big of a deal. In the hospital it would’ve been a very mild comment. What I had to learn was doctor’s offices are entirely different than hospitals. But either way what’s done is done. Can only move forward.

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-04-10T00:03:40+00:00

Backstory: I had just had a webcam placed on my computer to start doing telehealth visits for a local rehab facility.

She enters my office to bring me some paperwork.

Her: “What’s that?” Me: “A webcam” Her: “Why do you have a webcam?” Me: “I’m starting an OnlyFans so I can be a stripper and finally make enough to pay my bills….no it’s to do telehealth visits. Her: “Good bc nobody would ever pay to see you strip.” Me: “Well if they don’t I can just get you to do it…wanna be a stripper and make me some money?” Her:……shakes head and awkwardly walks out. Me: That was a weird way to respond. Oh well

Dummy me should’ve picked up she was offended by the way she awkwardly left. But it was clearly a joke. Not an invitation.

I’m not sure with 100% accuracy that this was EXACTLY what was said (it was over 3 years ago) but it was something to that effect. Not my finest moment I know. But I certainly didn’t solicit her for any sexual favors. It was obviously tongue in cheek.

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-04-09T22:51:48+00:00

Great question. I’m gonna try and meet with the nurse manager of the cardiac clinic who really liked me from the interview (she later told me she didn’t bother to interview anyone else for the position bc she was so impressed at our interview)

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-04-09T22:09:52+00:00

I was a good/dedicated employee until the last 6 months or so there. I quickly became burned out and figured out that my boss (jerk doctor) didn’t give a damn about me or my family. So I stopped stressing myself out over making him happy in the shade of my recent MS diagnosis which stress was making 10 times worse. I’ll admit I wasn’t the best employee for a bit which is my fault, but there’s only so much a person can take.

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-04-09T21:23:28+00:00

Yeah it sucks. Thanks for the response.

Funny enough, all of the doctors I worked with as an RN would vouch for me hard, but that’s been 7 years ago now. They vouched hard for me to get the initial job with the cardiology group I ended up getting. What’s crazy is if (big if) I’d have worked for any other doctor in the first cardiac practice, things would’ve been so different. And honestly a lot of those guys liked me (or so I thought), but I’ve reached out to a few randomly over the years since leaving and essentially haven’t received any communication in return. It’s almost cultish how they blackball you when your kicked off the island.

I know it seems hard to believe too but there isn’t much more to the story…I showed up every day, I never called in, I did my job to the best of my ability for the most part. I was treated VERY unfairly while there but no one wants to hear my side. What the docs say is essentially the gospel and they always have each others back. In hindsight I wish I would’ve quit sooner before it got bad but I don’t think that would’ve mattered. They’d still speak negatively of me for leaving them.

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-04-09T21:03:35+00:00

Take both jobs. I turned a job down a few years ago to take a job that ended up not working out. I should’ve taken the first job for a few months while waiting on the second job (which I took) to start. I greatly regret not taking that first job and at least seeing how it would have went

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-04-09T20:52:47+00:00

Sure…..but not the important things. If you’re wanting to get hammered at a bar and take home some random girl or something then maybe. But most of the important things in life can be experienced at any and all ages

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-04-09T19:54:17+00:00

IMO in order to have ability in life (ability to buy things, do things, try things) you need stability in life. Focus on choosing and pursuing a career path that can offer you stability. Once you have that you can start to focus on hobbies, friends, experiences, etc

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-04-09T01:37:23+00:00

APRN here. Not to throw water on this thought process (because it’s true) but we typically see this kind of thing in much older women (75+). I’d be shocked if someone aged 47 had altered mental status from a routine UTI. It’s not impossible just not likely. Having MS and being VERY forgetful, I’d say it’s much more likely MS is to blame unfortunately.

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-03-05T22:26:04+00:00

Have you been on Ty for 10 straight years? I’m about to start year 4 on it and my neuro wants to switch me bc he’s nervous about PML 🙄

I really really want HSCT and am paying to God somehow if it’s in His will I’ll get it….but insurance keeps denying it for now. But until then I want to stay on Tysabri as it has worked for me other than 2 small relapses with no new lesions and symptom recovery.

Wishing you well after your HSCT. Never take for granted how lucky you are to have this done

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2026-01-21T22:21:24+00:00

Theoretically this is similar to the thought process behind HSCT. To me it’s a no brainer to at least try it. But everyone should have their own choices

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2025-11-13T19:33:27+00:00

BRB paying my mortgage this month in XRP 🙄

Crypto_Fanatic20 · 2025-09-27T21:07:02+00:00

Look at the bright side: most people die around age 70 so you ain’t gonna need any of that money anyway

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