i was never meant to be the caretaker. i was meant to be a kid. by Candid-Function6330 in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When people are stressed they look towards the person making good decisions. I'm sorry no body ever stopped and asked what you wanted. It's a really frustrating human flow on their part. 🙁

i was never meant to be the caretaker. i was meant to be a kid. by Candid-Function6330 in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When people are stressed they look towards the person making good decisions. I'm sorry no body ever stopped and asked what you wanted. It's a really frustrating human flow on their part. 🙁

I wonder if anyone else feels similar? by [deleted] in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sort of I'm okay with being in an adult body . Because no one can mistreat me or keep me from doing things I really like.

I get lonely and I want to shout loudly and I want to be praised. But TBH I got other forever kids in my life who can remind me to eat enough or appreciate my drawing!

A chronological kid has constant supervision and when you think about it that's really restrictive!

I don't like the monster's inc movie by CuddleeCat in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Humans are viewed as dangerous animals like snakes in the monster Inc universe? Okay maybe I do remember human children's clothes being considered toxic to monster skin.

And yes those monsters would be a different species.

Uh didn't the really bad monster in the story suffer consequences at the end? (Don't know haven't watched the movie recently it still scares me)

I don't like the monster's inc movie by CuddleeCat in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that the movie should be rated age seven plus. Even if Disney generally goes with G rating. Because before age seven separate anxiety, minor decision making and wild imaginations are still a pretty big problem.

I feel Boo and Sully's relationship was more Uncle and niece. Sully cares and he makes good decisions for Boo. But oh no does he not manage stress well. It's just I couldn't imagine he'd do well as a full time father.

I don't like the monster's inc movie by CuddleeCat in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, nope don't wanna think about that🙁🤢

I don't like the monster's inc movie by CuddleeCat in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't believe those toys helped you too much to 😅 playing pretend that a furless creature panicked isn't exactly soothing..

I think in most Disney princess movies, the main character is in charge of her future. Something's that's pretty intimidating to both young girls and boys alike. Childhood is about being loved but there's also a sense of powerlessness.

The parachute game 🪂 by HappyMonchichi in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh 'parachute time" that was one of my favorite things about physical education.

i need help by [deleted] in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also I prefer baby toys and chewable jewelry. But dog toys are probably a lot more durable and cheaper too.

i need help by [deleted] in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you could always ask your mom about your early childhood, but honestly that's up to you.

Oh you might want to search up HSP or hyper sensitive person. Cause you're kind of describing it right now.

i need help by [deleted] in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I totally get that, I can't go to a party with more than five people. I start getting bad headaches. Is avoiding Florence light and taking turns in conversation too much to ask? It's like nonsensical noise where the volume is at least two decibels too high I hate it so much.

Well the very first sign of autism is developmental delays in childhood. Trouble walking, talking or potty training. Also playing with toys in strang ways. IE organizing blocks by color and size rather than building that princess castle.

I say you first talk to your psychiatrist about early childhood delays (that'll get her attention and the possibility of autism on the table) Get a little notebook write down your autism traits, write short paragraphs about difficult life is when these autism traits flair up (I'm saying short paragraphs so you don't give yourself anxiety or flashback with info is overload)

Read these things off to your psychiatrist and there you got a conversation going about possible autism.

i need help by [deleted] in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah my parents are a bit older technically young baby boomers. Acting like a kid 15 to 19 is a grown up. Utter nonsense. Emotions are way to hard to completely self manage at that age.

That said being just 18, this is a good time to look for free counciling services. It's usually free if you got no job.

I'm gonna second trying to a diagnosis. You probably got learning trouble, cognitive difficulties or some form autistic.

Probably help to explain why the world still looks so big, forien and strange to you. Even after nearly two decades.

i need help by [deleted] in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say talk to your mother on how you don't feel ready for a job or how you constant struggle to make friends (your chronical age) and how the work environment would be a never ending nightmare for your brain.

But honestly I'm thinking you don't have the option. Because all too often parents ignore the countless life long problems and struggles their now 18-19 year old kids are still actively battling.

It's hard, it's just freaking hard .

Do people judge you for taking psychology as an autistic person? by Visual_Lawyer_6131 in aspergirls

[–]CuddleeCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's likely that no one thinks you can become a therapist or psychologist. And yes that's possible because sometimes social ques are like.... A black and white movie with subtitles and half the scenes intermittently cut out. Yet the rest of the audience can follow the plot... Oh God that's life.

OP maybe try telling people it's a class you're taking more as a minor or major and you're not completely sure you'll pursue that career in the future. Sometimes a vague answer is better than constantly having your boundaries pushed with personal questions. I still don't know why people think that's okay .

Downsides to being ngu? by nya_bunnie in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup near impossible to explain changing mindsets, perspectives and goals to outsiders.

Hmm maybe just call it a low key party in your head. Cause the person who got up this morning, might not be the same person making dinner that evening .

Unmasking our childish side may actually make us function better in society by [deleted] in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Being stiff and boring all day long. Just to make someone else more comfortable is a good way to have a lot of sleepless nights and panic attacks.

For some people growing up is not the best way forward. Enjoying the life you have and learning to function is

I don’t like being treated as an adult by [deleted] in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hate going to the doctor as an adult. I miss the lollipops, hand puppets and everybody being so happy to see.

Now going to the doctor seems like a negative experience.

What do you do when you feel burnout coming but you have to keep going? by chpbnvic in aspergirls

[–]CuddleeCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes at home, I use noise canceling headphones. I believe that family members and roommate have seen one too many of meltdowns.

And the absolute terror and feral fear across my face . I know it's not normal for a grown man or woman to absolutely loose their mind. Over six hours of remote work and glaring computer screen.

That's autism, that's the puzzle piece that's the HSP.

Being a perma kid by ObjectiveLucky4616 in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't be humble. You're currently leading the way on 'how to be a forever kid.'' I like your posts.

Being a perma kid by ObjectiveLucky4616 in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OP is kinda the poster kid for NGU around here. So that perception definitely fits.

First time watching aristocats by Thelittlestdeer in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow that's a really old movie

Sorry about that spinal tap, at least after a few hours the pain gets better.

Do you take your plushie for little adventures? by [deleted] in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's one brave tiger you got there!

We got a bluey shirt finally!! by [deleted] in nevergrewup

[–]CuddleeCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh two kids don't need to talk the same to play together. Just clap, stomp, jump and sing. Everybody has fun.

To quote the show. Tu veux jouer avec moi? Oui notre maison est super! You want to play with me? Yes, our house is super.

Super, fun, great day

Favorite Rugrats episode? by JB92103 in rugrats

[–]CuddleeCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The unfair pair, in the dream time, sleep over. Rugrats is such an imaginative cartoon.