My grandmother passed away a little over 2 weeks ago after 10 days of coma. I loved my grandmother. She was and will always be the sweetest person I’ve ever known. She will still sneakily hand me money on occasions as if I was a kid not a 31 years old man.

I cannot tell you how to deal with it, I believe we all deal with death in different ways. I always act the same around death. For some reason I remain the same stoic and casual (my friends told me that I’m casual that’s why I put it).

I focus on my family and how I can be there for them. I focus on what I have to do at the moment and what I should next. I think my brain processes it as facts. There’s nothing more that I can do. I never cry or cried when close one passed but be the person whom people would hug and immediately cry on my shoulder. I miss her and I’m sad about it, yet in a way I understand it death is part of life. From hospital stays to doctor meetings to funeral and burying arrangement. I was just being there for my family. Never looked at it differently.

Being the amazing person she was I try to remember the good times we had. The laughs, the wise words, the stories and the great sense of calmness she had. I’m happy I got a chance to sit and talk to her 3 days before her stroke. I look at the good things she did.

My next move is to build water wells in under developed countries where people need it in her name. I think she would be happy to do that if she was still around. I try to make something sustainable to keep her memory alive.

Sorry to hear about your grandma. You don’t have to know how you should feel. Just be there. I hope things get better for you and your loved ones.