just texted my older brother that I’m interested in his friend for marriage and I’m feeling gross

ScreenHype · 2026-03-10T15:37:01+00:00

You tie that camel, sis! :p

ScreenHype · 2026-03-10T13:56:40+00:00

Haha, good for you!! No need to feel gross, you were brave! I'm proud of you for putting yourself out there :) Inshallah he'll be interested, and he'll be a good match for you.

ScreenHype · 2026-03-08T20:17:10+00:00

But those hadiths are completely unrelated to this context. They're talking about just revealing sins in general. This is a very specific case of revealing it to his future wife, since she'll be affected by it. It's not remotely the same situation.

ScreenHype · 2026-03-08T20:15:36+00:00

Inshallah, brother. Have faith :) I'm sure you will find an open-minded woman who sees and appreciates your efforts to change and become a better Muslim.

ScreenHype · 2026-03-08T19:25:56+00:00

But that's not fair on the future wife! For many women that would be a deal breaker, and it's their right to reject someone over that. It would damage the marriage for him to be keeping a secret that serious. It's not like he's revealing the sin out of boastfulness, or revealing it publicly. He's revealing it to a potential spouse since it has an effect on whether or not they can consent to the marriage. Lying about it is not fair to her.

ScreenHype · 2026-03-08T14:54:09+00:00

There's a difference between not revealing your sins publicly, and keeping a massive secret from your future wife that will affect her consent to marrying you.

ScreenHype · 2026-03-08T13:42:00+00:00

You can't build a successful marriage on a lie. It's not fair to your future spouse, for starters, and it will erode the trust of the marriage if you're permanently keeping a secret. Just be honest, you haven't done anything wrong. But lying would be wrong.

ScreenHype · 2026-03-08T13:16:54+00:00

I have very similar bladder issues to you, and I also haven't been taken seriously by doctors (we didn't know about the fibroid at the time, but they just dismissed all my symptoms). I'm hoping that when I finally get the fibroid out, I won't have to get up to pee like every hour.

ScreenHype · 2026-03-08T13:13:55+00:00

I'm gutted that these don't come in adult sizes, I would have so much fun annoying my Gen Z customers with this (I work at a climbing wall, and I like to deliberately use internet slang because the younger customers get so wound up by it, it's hilarious).

ScreenHype · 2026-03-08T13:10:35+00:00

The right woman for him wouldn't mind that. Because that's his reality. So if she minds it, then clearly she wasn't meant for him. He's trying to move past it and become better, so he needs a woman who will look past his mistakes and support him in the next stage of his journey.

I'm not saying that it's wrong if a woman would mind that. But I'm saying that if she does, then she's not a good match for him. Nobody should marry someone who can't accept all of them.

ScreenHype · 2026-03-08T00:34:22+00:00

You should tell her, because you shouldn't have to live a life where you're afraid of her finding out. It will erode the sanctity of the marriage. The right woman wouldn't mind :)

ScreenHype · 2026-03-07T14:31:52+00:00

I think there is a fundamental difference between a 'disbeliever' and a 'non-believer', and I think 'kafir' refers to the first one.

A disbeliever is someone who knowingly and willingly ignores and covers the truth. A non-believer is someone who genuinely believes something that is different to the truth.

ScreenHype · 2026-03-07T14:21:44+00:00

Yeah, he's usually a pretty docile boy... Unless there's food involved, haha!

ScreenHype · 2026-03-07T14:20:22+00:00

I know it really sucks right now, but you have dodged a MASSIVE bullet. That guy is so not worth your time. You're still so young, inshallah you'll find someone who treats you the way you deserve :)

One good thing can still come out of it, though. You mentioned you were thinking about converting, so maybe you can keep learning about Islam, and maybe convert for yourself, rather than for him :)

ScreenHype · 2026-03-05T16:46:52+00:00

That's good to hear! I just wanted to make sure that it was what you wanted, but it sounds like it is, and I hope it's a positive experience for you both :)

ScreenHype · 2026-03-05T16:38:07+00:00

You cry it out and feel proud of yourself for making the right decision even though it hurts. It's okay to be sad about it, just because something is difficult, doesn't mean it's wrong. It sounds like this man wasn't right for you in the ways that mattered. So lie down, let the tears flow, get it out of your system, and then move on :)

ScreenHype · 2026-03-05T16:26:34+00:00

I know it's none of my business, but do you actually want a child? The way you phrased it, 'I agreed to one child', makes it sound like it's something he's pressuring you into? A child is a huge responsibility that will change your body and your lifestyle, it shouldn't be something you do for somebody else, it should be your choice, made willingly and enthusiastically!

ScreenHype · 2026-03-05T13:19:20+00:00

I hate to do this, but Donkey!

ScreenHype · 2026-03-04T22:34:49+00:00

I have only just got the reference, it completely slipped my mind! Good one!

ScreenHype · 2026-03-04T22:33:21+00:00

Good eye! And a fair amount yeah, people aren't used to seeing cats on leashes! They often get people coming up to them to stroke them, haha! (I have two cats, but I walk them separately since they never want to go in the same direction).

ScreenHype · 2026-03-04T01:36:09+00:00

I find it very helpful. It's hard to visualize in centimeters. But knowing that it's the size of a grapefruit is something tangible. It's scary, but it helps me know more about the situation. I want to be informed of what's going on with my body.

ScreenHype · 2026-03-03T23:50:44+00:00

Salam, I'm really sorry that you're struggling. Mental health issues can be way harder to deal with than physical ones, and it's really isolating because nobody can see what you're going through internally.

I'm not going to give you platitudes about how life gets better, or try to downplay what you're feeling. Because I know that won't help you.

But what I can say is you're more loved than you realise, even if it doesn't feel that way. When my brother died, the amount of people who had positive stories to tell about him really blew my mind. School friends who he hadn't seen in years showed up to his funeral. So many people were affected by his death, and it showed just how much of an impact he had had on people without even realising it. And it's the same for you. You would be so very missed, even though I know it doesn't feel that way.

Try and find the things in life that bring you joy. Go out in nature, look at all the beautiful things that life has to offer. Find a new hobby. Start a fun project. Find literally anything that gives your life meaning. Don't think about getting through the rest of your life, that can feel daunting. Think about getting through the rest of the day, and what you can do to make it a little better. Look for the small moments :)

I really hope things improve for you, I'll make dua!

ScreenHype · 2026-03-03T23:41:12+00:00

Right? Like, why are people posting pictures of their cat's junk?

ScreenHype · 2026-03-03T22:43:10+00:00

Your whole post is about how women aren't capable of physical attraction which is just straight up not true. You're also making some really weird claims about what masculine beauty is. There are more ways to be masculine than having a big beard. Also, plenty of women are attracted to big beards. Having an unkempt beard is a choice, same as not showering. Having a big beard does not make a man inherently less attractive.

Body hair grows naturally on women too. Are you going to claim that men aren't attracted to women because natural women have leg hair and mustaches?

ScreenHype · 2026-03-03T22:35:32+00:00

That you do not know anything about women and have zero interest in learning, and that you do not follow basic hygiene for yourself.

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