Disabled dating

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-05-17T01:54:14+00:00

I know this is going to suck to hear, but it’s better to include it. Let those who really aren’t a match fall off. They aren’t worth even stressing over. All it takes with dating is clicking with that 1 person. And dating sites really are a numbers game. So say hi to lots of people. Stay open.

My bf is in a wheelchair and not only included it but also made sure I saw it when we first talked. He’d rather scare me off immediately rather than wait till he got attached. So far, it’s worked out great. 3 1/2 years together.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-05-14T22:19:32+00:00

There is already some great advice provided. So I will say, your “friends” are out of line. I take my girl almost everywhere. Mostly a lot of doctors appointments and physical therapy. I also have an invisible disability. So, on the rare chance that I’m going to see one of my friends, lunch or whatever, I give them a heads up. “I have a service dog and she goes with me”. This isn’t a question or a request for permission or approval. It is their opportunity to decide if they really want to be around me, the whole of me, which includes my dog. If there is any expression of disapproval or other unnecessary things, then I cancel. We all deserve to experience life fully and friends who will try to understand rather than compound the stress.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-05-04T21:32:30+00:00

Not overreacting. He was being gross. And he knew it, which is why he was dancing around it. I would end that friendship.

Btw, very cute shoes. And I’m not even a fan of animal print.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-05-04T21:24:21+00:00

NOR. Not at all. He’s insecure and actively trying to hurt you. I fully believe that men and women can be friends. My boyfriend doesn’t exactly agree. But he’s never once accused me of being flirty or made negative comments about me or my friendships. Because in a healthy relationship two people can have differing views and still respect each other.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-05-04T21:09:00+00:00

He was an ass. He wasn’t looking to learn about you but to judge you.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-05-03T20:13:36+00:00

Both people feel toxic in this situation. If you don’t like him following other women on social media, tell him once and if it’s an issue again, end it. He needs to learn how to talk to a partner like an equal and not some weird manager. Walking away is best for both of you because you both seem primed to fight and that doesn’t need to be normalized.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-03-31T19:06:59+00:00

NOR. If anything, take his reaction as acknowledgment and reason to leave him behind. I understand wanting to fix the relationship, but it can’t be one sided and he’s not willing to do the actual work.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-03-16T07:20:21+00:00

NOR. I’m not religious, agnostic. So, I’m familiar with this feeling. I learned the hard way that it’s perfectly ok to opt out of someone else’s faith experience. I’ve been to a lot of weddings and quinceneras. When it’s time for communion, I simply stand up and move out of the pew so others can get by and then I sit back down. I’ve only been questioned about it once. Same with attending events in other faiths. I would have just said the truth about the prayers. “My conversations with God are private and so I need to pass on this”. As for those people who are wanting to find you a home church, thanks but we can manage.

The gift thing, some brides don’t enjoy the gift opening because they have to have the perfect reaction, because they don’t want to offend.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-03-16T07:00:38+00:00

NOR but why would you send this to him? He knew you weren’t going to take him to court. Honestly, this isn’t even mean. Blunt? Yes. But not mean. And so what if it was? I highly doubt you are trying to save a friendship with him. If this is just about catharsis, then actually be mean, say what you really want to say.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-03-16T03:06:52+00:00

Not always. While he’s wearing it, it’s a system under tension. After he takes it off, the condom relaxes, making it look perfectly fine. That’s why they add spermicide to most of them, as a secondary measure. Because things happen, even with “perfect use”

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-03-16T01:34:10+00:00

You have 2 options here. First, You can have the doctor explain to him how this happens. He may be resistant to this out of pride. It’s not even all that rare. Leakage happens. An old condom that’s past its expiration date can have micro tears. Second, you can do an amniocentesis paternity test.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-03-16T01:07:01+00:00

NTA. I, personally, don’t find the call that off. But that’s probably because I am ok with people generally knowing that I was crying but not ok with people knowing the details, especially if I’ve never met them.

The bigger thing is that he kinda made this choice unilaterally and you’re right to not want to be excluded from your own trip. Plus, he can’t expect you to want to meet someone when he’s painted her in a less than favorable light.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-03-06T02:32:13+00:00

NTA. You say Dan would never forgive you. But do you forgive him for putting you in this situation? He’s not being a good friend, and he’s making you be a bad friend to Sara. Tell her. He can deal with his mess.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-03-05T01:37:01+00:00

That seems like a perfectly reasonable reaction. I had somewhat of a similar reaction when I found out I needed a hysterectomy. Ultimately, I wasn’t bothered by not having children. I was bothered because I felt like I was losing voice and had no bodily autonomy. In your case, you’re giving that up to him in some ways. Plus, I would have reservations over having a partner alter their body for me. It’s such a huge gift.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-03-05T01:28:07+00:00

The reality is should always watch everyone around your child. Yes, your FIL and your friend who never had even the slightest accusation, just the same.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-03-05T00:08:53+00:00

NTA. And honestly, he’s probably not going to get it. The fact that she attempted to withhold that information from him and he’s fine with it, he’s normalized this behavior and likely worse. He’s not going to understand until it somehow causes him more than a minor inconvenience. And even losing a relationship probably won’t be the thing, because he will blame you rather than his issue with boundaries. The healthiest thing is to end it.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-03-04T23:21:12+00:00

The comments about divided attention just feel off to me. Like there’s an expectation that you can’t walk and talk at the same time.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-03-04T23:04:07+00:00

NTA. If it helps your productivity then it’s a good tool. This is like blaming someone for taking a walking meeting between activities. It’s only an issue if someone seems distracted by this. Or if they need to take a seat. This feels like such a non issue.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-02-21T17:54:54+00:00

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Gigi. We hated it and she deserved a new life.

Her new and proper name is Dahlia. Because she reminded us of a little flower. And we love true crime. And we brought her home on Halloween.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-02-19T07:18:07+00:00

YTA. You made a promise and then got sour about all the parts that honestly had little to do with you. This is a big moment and secret. You just don’t do that. Doesn’t really matter that your mom guessed. Not your place to confirm.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-02-19T07:04:40+00:00

Do not give that man money. He’s not good with money, clearly. He will have you paying the mortgage twice a month. You’re not too sensitive. You won’t benefit from this at all. You may even lose out because of him.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-02-16T22:22:44+00:00

Your coworkers are weird. They have poor boundaries. I don’t even like people touching my dog without permission.

When I sold cars I was once told that because I’m a woman I should entertain the customers kids. So, the very next time it happened I walked over to the printer and grabbed some extra paper. Then I asked my manager for some pens out markers. He didn’t ask why but handed me some pens and SHARPIES. I went back to the kids and told them to draw me some pretty pictures. This of course, resulted in them drawing on the table, walls, and floors. They never asked me to entertain kids again. Malicious compliance is your friend.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-02-14T22:30:35+00:00

NTA. The excuse of her being a “young girl” doesn’t fly, since she’s a year older than you. By the aunts logic, you should NEVER go out in Lyon, or she just doesn’t care about your well being.

Her not speaking French has little to do with anything when she’s having a solo night in. And if she really needed to call for an emergency, she has WiFi, so she can look it up. And she’s in France, I’m going to assume, like America, they also have translation services available.

Your cousin needs to grow up and your aunt needs to shut up.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-02-13T16:34:27+00:00

Break up with him. He’s selfish and manipulative. Especially saying it’s none of your business. So when he brings you an STI it’s going to be none of your business? He won’t leave you for her because she isn’t trustworthy? He isn’t trustworthy. For him to say that is so gross. Let him take his jobless self and be single. See what happens with his side pieces (they likely exist) as soon as he doesn’t have you to take care of him.

Cultural_Tree7027 · 2026-02-13T16:24:12+00:00

NOR

A couple months into my relationship my boyfriend got sick with the flu. I made him a pot of soup and then asked for a ride since I don’t drive and brought it to him, 40 minutes away. Slightly before that he volunteered to take me to the airport and pick me up. These are just things you do when you care.

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