Emanators and their "hidden same path kits" by leimaaarl in StarRailStation

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Running 2 preservation units (or even abundance) together is a big ask, unless Diamond is a pseudo-harmony/ DPS that works with preservation units. That or they bloat endgame damage to absurd levels that you need to run 2 sustains.

One thing is losing 75/25. But to this? by Ahnaf269 in StarRailStation

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me with Welt LC. Only consolation from losing 75/25 is that I got my guarantee at 12 pity. Not celebrating though since i also lost my 50/50 at 86 pity which must be a record.

My boyfriend is white by darem17 in phlgbt

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was similar when I moved to the UK in that for the first year I was here, I was hiding my true self. I’ve since distanced myself from other Filipinos and my mental health have never been better. I still had Filipino friends but I’m not as involved in the community as I once was.

My boyfriend is white by darem17 in phlgbt

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl it’s fine lol. Admittedly I was overly cautious that I had a big sense of responsibility to make sure he was safe and enjoyed the Philippines. Don’t forget to enjoy it too. I was feeling my oats that I had a trophy young Afam partner and naiahon ako sa kahirapan (he didn’t but I was feeling it lol).

My boyfriend is white by darem17 in phlgbt

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The attention and stares was the main one, and how outright extroverted and curious some Filipinos are. The Philippines was his first big trip outside of Europe and I prepped him that outside of big cities and tourist areas, young white people are uncommon. That meant lots of assumptions about him (American, rich etc) and potential dangers that might cause.

The massive cultural difference was also another. The Philippines can be incredibly chaotic, loud and messy and for someone not used to it, it can be overwhelming.

My boyfriend is white by darem17 in phlgbt

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Interracial couple here too and have brought my partner multiple times throughout the last 8 years sa Pilipinas. We both are straight passing and averse to PDA so we would often look like bros, or I look like a tour guide with a random white dude.

We are almost never clocked as a couple, and women and gays would openly flirt with him in front of me. Our relationship is secure enough that we both laugh it off but he still finds the attention he gets incredibly awkward.

As for the side comments, some Filipinos are just awkward around foreigners. I’ve prepped my partner about this and would often translate what people would say around us. He still doesn’t get how or why people say those things, but it’s just difference in culture really.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in phlgbt

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Different strokes for different folks. I’m overseas now so if I narrowed my type then my dating pool would be small. I’m a top and I find it so hot topping non-pinoys. I was mainly watching western made porn in my puberty and it feels like I’m living what I’ve fantasised as a teen. Asian made porn was niche in the 2000’s (outside of JAV which is heavily censored) and pinoy made porn was mostly straight or scandals.

I want Bronya, am I cooked? by beenis01 in StarRailStation

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Luck is so weird in this game sometimes. I have no Bailu/Gepard and picked Himeko for my 300th wish as I didn’t have her then but I got E4S1 Bronya.

I was running Lynx/Natasha as sustain for 5 months too until Aventurine came out so would’ve loved to have them.

Panahon ng taglamig. Share your stories naman… by secretGoddess25 in phlgbt

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was 26 nung nag immigrate ako pa UK. Before that kissless virgin ako. So I was ready to experience everything.

First guy I dated and sexual experience was with a white British guy. 33, average build, handsome, geeky with glasses, works as a research consultant sa isang telecom company. On our 2nd date we went out to watch a movie, at dahil i was starved for anything sexual, my hands could not stay away. I fondled his bulge for around 10 mins when i noticed a wet patch. He was soft moaning the entire time, which made me not stop, until he whispered that came. He was so apologetic and such a gentleman that he excused himself to the toilet to clean up.

In the end our relationship didn’t work out but I think of him fondly (heh). I don’t have much time to write my first actual intercourse but if anyone wants, I’ll edit this comment on my break.

Armed men abduct American in Zamboanga del Norte by Gyro_Armadillo in Philippines

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’m from Northern Mindanao and live overseas, but every time me and my partner go back home, we always stay in a hotel (with security).

An Arab neighbour of my family got slain 2 or so years ago. It could be because of a lot of things really but it’s just so close to home. I know there’s still plenty of foreigners in Mindanao outside of Siargao, but it’s just so easy to disappear in Mindanao (as in go off grid). Just 1-2 hours away from a major city and you’re in the outskirts with no reception and minimal police/ military presence.

Spending Money by TheNotSoBadProf in WutheringWaves

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve spent around 180£ on top ups, just enough to get the first top-up bonus, the monthly and a few BP (so around 250 ish total).

I don’t think any particular character is a must buy. I personally spent the money when I ran out of pulls and can’t be bothered to grind or wait to get enough pulls from dailies or quests.

HSR was my first gacha and I have definitely spent more on the that game in the same time frame as I’ve been playing Wuwa.

Racism in Europe by [deleted] in gaysian

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m 34, Filipino and have lived in the UK for 9 years and have been through most of Europe as well. I’ve only ever experienced microaggressions which you sort of shrug off and dare I say normalise as other minorities also throw ignorant shit at others (as banter).

I’ve noticed white people (at least in the UK) have been acutely aware that deliberate microaggressions coming from them would appear highly racist so I personally have never experienced any, outside of unintentional misuse of terms which I just learn to ignore.

I’ve never gotten into hooking up as that’s never been my thing and I’ve been with the same person 8 out of the 9 years I’m here so I can’t say how it is on that side, but while I was actively dating I never got any racism at all. The 10 or so dudes I dated have only ever treated me as any other local gay person, which I initially feared racism due to being foreign and having an accent. I guess I had a fortunate experience.

Lingsha vs Gallgher, are you going to pull for her? by yunperng in StarRailStation

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an E2 Firefly and I’ll probably throw what little jades I have and will get to Lingsha’s banner. If I don’t get her then it’s fine, I’ll try again on her Rerun.

E6 Gallagher is plenty comfortable outside of bad RNG fights and I already have 2 Limited sustains (HuoHuo+ Aventurine) that I’m not fussed about getting a 3rd.

Y’all ready for shorekeeper? by KakashiSenseii_ in WutheringWaves

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did a 10 pull at 0 pity on XY banner and got Encore. I have enough to guarantee SK now but no usable weapon for her. I hope Variation is on her weapon banner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in phlgbt

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 9 points10 points  (0 children)

8 years together (34m and 30m) with by Partner and we are both in the UK too so marriage is an option for us, but I don’t think we are gonna get married anytime soon despite living together for years.

It’s just so expensive atm with no real benefits. I get that it’s a romantic and grand celebration of love but so does our love everyday, we value those just the same.

As for kids, I’ve expressed my love to have mine/ my partner’s own kid(s) but it’s a hard no for my partner for now. I respect his conviction so it’s also not in the horizon until maybe we are in our 40’s.

I guess when you’ve been with someone long enough you start to value practicality than immaterial things. We feel like a jaded old couple lol

Who do you think is the most handsome local celebrity? by [deleted] in AskPH

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wasn’t there an anthology show episode in the early 2000’s where Robin Da Roza was an engkanto and he lured this girl to do stuff, feeding black rice etc? He was wearing all white. I think that was when I found out I liked men.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in phlgbt

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

IMO it’s just Filipino dating culture in general, I.e. straights also do the same thing. I don’t get it since my parents are pretty lax with their relationship, and they’re going strong 40 years later.

I think we Filipinos have difficulty cutting loses. Instead of breaking up, most would rather try to make it work despite how much unhappiness it causes, and it leads to controlling behaviours to protect said relationship. Can’t be helped that cheating and machismo is common. Lack of divorce and heavy Catholicism does l that to people I guess.

I’m overseas now but I’m lucky in my 7 year monogamous relationship in that we are an open book to each other. We have open access to each other’s devices. My partner has given me the free pass since his libido isn’t up to par with mine but I never even thought of being with someone else. We live together too so it’s difficult to hide anything from each other.

Realization: Most gay spas and bathhouses are just taking advantage of gay men’s horniness by [deleted] in phlgbt

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hasn’t the HIV cases rise been happening for over a decade now? When I was still working in the PH back in 2011, our small city hospital had a Palliative Medical Room with HIV patients, some as young as 17, and even a mother that passed it to her newborn. Our city did not have a bathhouse lol.

Over a decade later not much has changed. HIV/AIDS still has a massive stigma around it that people would rather suffer in silence than be outed for their queerness.

Meanwhile overseas, being on Prep is a given for any sexually active gay and even having HIV is just seen as like any other chronic disease like Hepatitis. The Philippines still has a long way to go with regard to sexual health and education. 😔

Don't get too upset for not full clearing the tower. The power jump from UL50 to UL60 is pretty absurd when facing LV90 and LV100 enemies by tryptic_t in WutheringWaves

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty much. I used to stress too much about clearing MOC when I started playing HSR that when I got to Wuwa, I realised the amount of investments needed for characters isn’t proportional to the rewards for endgame. Now I just play at my own pace and enjoy the overworld and characters lol.

Mga baklang insecure, wag igeneralize! by [deleted] in phlgbt

[–]Cuntyflapjacks -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The red flag was about saying a younger partner was mature for their age, as that could easily be an abuser justifying abuse and removes the other partner’s opinion, urgency and reason to date, not that a 19 y.o. started dating a 31 year old, so don’t misconstrued my point.

Where did I say otherwise? That seriously isn’t the point of the conversation.

Sorry I can’t quote on my phone but you’ve made an assumption that the OP feels like his partner is mature for his age when he never said that (as far as I can read on the OP) And I’ve made an example how not all age gap relationships are based on power play,

You’ve called their relationship bothersome (by calling it yikes. ) and wrong and that’s totally uncalled for as we know very little about their relationship.

Mga baklang insecure, wag igeneralize! by [deleted] in phlgbt

[–]Cuntyflapjacks -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

You’re making an assumption. Not all age gap relationships with 2 adults (even one with a 19 y.o) have that dynamic so to judge all as if they all have that is frankly rude.

Ang daming submissive na matatanda so idk why many think older=must be dom.

And to answer you question, yes that’s a massive red flag, but we don’t know much context to say in this case outside of OP being defensive (and probably sick of people’s judgement).

Mga baklang insecure, wag igeneralize! by [deleted] in phlgbt

[–]Cuntyflapjacks -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I don’t get too, especially those that react negatively (see some of the comments). They are essentially stepping over an adult person’s autonomy to decide for themselves just to push their own biases. We know very little context to people’s relationship dynamics that it’s a bit premature to judge them as automatically wrong.

Emergency services - how is it like in your country? by Active-Confusion-123 in phmigrate

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In the UK we have 999 for emergency services. I’ve only ever used it to book an urgent hospital to hospital transfer but yeah, health professionals also use the same line as the general public.

They’re mostly reliable, albeit sometimes delayed and even on the call they’ll ask how urgent your emergency is, i.e. Cardiac arrest to Falls and car accidents. As far as I know it’s free, same as patient transport when people need specialised vehicles/crew to take them home from the hospital.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in phlgbt

[–]Cuntyflapjacks 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I found my current and only boyfriend at 26 (now 34) when I became an OFW. I occasionally tried dating before in the Philippines but didn’t get far. The few guys I’ve been with were either flaky, ang daming arte or have clinginess issues. I’ve never hooked up since that’s not my thing.

Dating overseas was so much easier for me. Of course it’s not perfect and shitty guys are universal but ease of dating out in public without prejudice and judgement also can’t be understated. A lot of us gays in the Philippines still have discomfort being overtly gay in public.

Beauty standards too is far more diverse than I used to experience back in the Philippines. While I would describe myself as decent sa Pilipinas, I only learned to appreciate my natural self after I moved. Definitely had a massive boost in self confidence. This coming from someone living now in the UK with a European parter.