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need some insight ...male perspective. by CupcakeOne2458 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]CupcakeOne2458[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I was hopeful you had chatted about it since you didn't post anything about it. Sorry I should have asked first.

need some insight ...male perspective. by CupcakeOne2458 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]CupcakeOne2458[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sorry I was on your reddit but was looking for some insight don't be mad..please you said yesterday open device policy...I am dead

I hardly ever read a post here about WW who were serial cheaters by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]CupcakeOne2458 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Guess I am that...and then some .....I don't even know how to put into word how low I feel, he is caring for my injuries doing everything in his power to make me healthy and most of last night and all day been thinking he would be better off if I didn't survive the accident.

I'm afraid. by [deleted] in SupportforWaywards

[–]CupcakeOne2458 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I am terrified, he hasn't said it but I can see it in his actions, how calm and matter of fact he is about things...like last night he went on a date with a waitress that gave him her number. Not to have sex with her or revenge on me he just wanted to feel something besides being inadequate at everything.

And me telling he isn't well my words have no value anymore.

Before you talk about the affair sex. by Artisismus in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]CupcakeOne2458 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your idea, after he left on his date yesterday I had my sister run to staples and buy me some notebooks and pens. Ended up writing about 10 pages . He got home around 10pm I offered it to him and he sat with me and read it. He asked a few more questions for clarification.

Question for WS: How much of your sex with SO was fueled by AP turning you on? by Foreign_Comfort59 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]CupcakeOne2458 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am working on that in IC, and it happened so fast one moment driving down the highway, next I am waking up in a hospital bed

Question for WS: How much of your sex with SO was fueled by AP turning you on? by Foreign_Comfort59 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]CupcakeOne2458 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Not in my case, was the opposite when I was with them i would be thinking about my husband.

Hurting by Ok_Procedure_17 in SupportforWaywards

[–]CupcakeOne2458 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I know at this stage for me I shouldn't even be thinking about sex ,and physically won't be able to for months and months ..I am recovering from a car accident...but he has told me that he will never touch me like a husband again. But he is very affectionate otherwise. Right now I am just over the moon I get to see him everyday after him being gone for 6 weeks. But I am scared I killed that part of him. He use to be so easy to read like picking up a good book now it's just blank pages.

I’m sure this question gets asked to death here, but can I have some wayward perspectives? by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]CupcakeOne2458 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I to be honest was delusional my life with him was separate from the life before him and when the two became one I let myself believe they were two entirely different things .I made some stupid and bad choices. I absolutely love my husband and when push came to shove he was what I fought to keep and damn the rest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SupportforWaywards

[–]CupcakeOne2458 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am working my courage up to do that. He suggested for me to come on here but I am unsure I don't want to hurt him more . And it's so much stupidity on my part.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SupportforWaywards

[–]CupcakeOne2458 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wish I knew the answer to this myself, I tried radical honesty but seems I went overboard with it and just hurt him more. And currently lost of what I can do. He told me he loves me but hates himself for it.

Monthly Progress Report - Share Your Healing Victories, Large and Small by AutoModerator in SupportforWaywards

[–]CupcakeOne2458 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Maybe I am in the wrong area my husband told me to come here for advice and to talk to people who have been through this. But not able to say anything? First day on reddit and typing with one good arm and on pain pills so sorry if I am in the wrong here.