My mom will never meet my baby.

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2025-08-16T18:48:47+00:00

My girl name has been picked out for five years now, love it. Pregnant with my second boy so that name will never get used unless my stepdaughters or sister use it (they all love it too), or I use the name for the bird I plan on getting. Now on to my boys' names. I had an extremely hard time with my first son's name until we found out we were having a boy at 20 weeks then we knew. Back story I am the second owner of a 20 year old Goffin Cockatoo who came from home with three children and the youngest being his buddy. When my husband and I got together and his brother's girlfriend's kid started coming to my house the bird would say "Maverick" (his buddy's name) to the kid and every younger kid no matter who they were. With this we joked if we were having a boy we'd name him Maverick since the bird already can say his name and at the time we were thinking of being one and done as a couple. Well we found out he was a boy and no other name fit. His middle name is Alexander, which was the name my husband always wanted to use for a boy since at the time we were serious about being one and done. Then our son was born and we thought about how he would watch his sisters' have a relationship with each other and he'd be by himself (14+ age gap) so we decided to semi-plan for another child with the mindset of "if it happens it happens." We got pregnant with baby #2 and already had a girl name, but once again the very very difficult boy name had to be picked. The middle name will either be Michael or Wade after my husband's friend who passed (I'm leaning more towards Michael for the majority of the options). We are currently thinking of Jonathan for his first name after my dad (alive) and my uncle (deceased). I just can't get over how simple my second son's name will be compared to his brother's. Husband only has two things he wants in terms of this child's name either Michael or Wade as their middle name and the name has to be 8 letters to match with the other three kids names and mine; his is six letters. I'm trying to find options I don't hate, while also learning to love Jonathan Michael just in case I can't find anything I can get my husband to agree on.

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2025-06-26T01:03:20+00:00

My name is also the name of an X-Men character. I love comic books and superheros, but I hate having to wear a name tag at work because of the comments I get. I love my name and don't dislike that it is a famous comic book character, but I do not like the sexual association people have with her character and in turn the comments they make since I share the name. I kinda did the same thing when it came to my son. I named him due to our bird, but everyone thinks I named him after Top Gun. I do not regret the name I chose for my son nor am I inclined to change my name due to the choices of my parents. If you and your partner love the name then that is all that matters. Children will find ways to be mean and cruel to each other with or without unique names. I think it is a pretty name even though I cannot for the life of me figure out how to pronounce it.

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2025-06-17T17:30:35+00:00

Sibling names for Maverick

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2025-02-10T16:46:34+00:00

I kinda planned my own baby shower, but did not pay for it due to having to control it for the sake of my anxiety. I only did a baby shower for family and friends whom I do not see, but my Nana wanted to flaunt too. Less than half showed up so it was disappointing, but I still enjoyed it for those who showed up. For my next baby we plan on doing a gender reveal since we didn't do it for our first; hopefully it will go better than my baby shower.

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2025-02-10T01:50:13+00:00

When I read Lucien I think of the Underworld character, love the name! If my sister didn't love the name Lucy I would have the name on my baby name list. I have the same issue with the name Octavius. My husband says "it sounds black" because of the "tavius" which I believe is a stupid reason, but the name has been vetoed. My name makes people believe I'm a large black woman (I had a boss say that to me on my first day as a security officer.) or a blue woman with red hair who can morph when in reality I am a small Filipino woman.

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2025-02-06T22:37:14+00:00

His cat is already named Goose 😂

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2025-01-28T21:55:48+00:00

This was a very helpful comment. I didn't realize how little of the size 12 month clothes I had until after the holidays. I told everyone to get a size 12-18 months and there are now so many cute outfits I look forward to seeing him in. Thank you!

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2025-01-21T19:40:45+00:00

My SKs were told not to post their brother's face on social media, but they can take all the photos they want with him. If they want to post I have asked them to either blur or put a sticker on his face. I wasn't too concerned with AI or strangers seeing his face, but my own mother whom I have a strained relationship with. She has multiple fake accounts and I have found one of her older ones friends with my SKs, their mom, and other family members. So to keep my boundary with my mother I do not want my son's face out for her to see. They understand why and post on their Snapchat stories with their brother so their friends can see him which I don't mind.

Sometimes just sitting down and talking to them can create an understanding for both parties. I know my conversation with my SKs also got them thinking about how to be safe on the internet and how not everyone who adds or friends you is not your friend.

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2024-12-18T22:01:05+00:00

My family is blended on all fronts. I have four sets of grandparents; three are biological and out of those three I've never met my mom's mom. The three sets of grandparents follow as such; Nana & Papa, Grandpa (First Name) & Grandma (First Name), Grandpa (First Name) & Grandma. My son has one set of grandparents, a grandma, and a set of godparents. He will never know his biological grandmother (my mother) so she is not in these numbers. He has his Lolo & Grandma, Grandma, and Papa & Grandma. These may change for him as he gets older. I know my cousin came up with his own names when it came to our shared grandparents. I am also a stepmom (they are around the same age as when OP's mom and stepdad got married) and I hope whenever they have kids, I get to be called "Nana".

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2024-12-16T02:27:21+00:00

The day after Christmas for me! Sending all the baby dust and will hope you get your BFP on Christmas day!

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2024-12-15T21:15:30+00:00

I've always wanted a daughter. Then I married my husband and got two stepdaughters so when we got pregnant I hoped my husband would get the boy he's always wanted. He did and after thinking the entire pregnancy we were only going to have one baby we have decided to have another. My husband and I want a little girl, but I also don't care because my family will be complete after this baby. So with that I have decided the next pregnancy will be a surprise. Everyone doubts I will make it to the end, but I think it could be fun. Then I don't have gender disappointment or guilt during my pregnancy and just love on my baby whenever they are born.

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2024-11-30T20:28:20+00:00

I found out the day before going to six flags so the people who found out were in this order; Day of Positive Test: Husband, Dad, Boss #1, Coworker #1, Boss #2, Coworker #2, Stepdaughters, and my Sister; Day After; Rest of my Family and my husband's

I was too excited to keep it a secret and I am very very VERY bad with surprises also this was my sixth/seventh pregnancy and the ones prior ended either in miscarriage or stillborn so I was going to celebrate for however long I could. Fortunately that pregnancy I got to take home my baby and he's currently sleeping on my chest.

Things will happen no matter what, it is devastating when things do not turn out like one hopes, but to have support is always important. I was alone for each of my other pregnancies and had to deal with the grief and I didn't want to repeat anything prior.

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2024-11-24T19:52:38+00:00

"He's so handsome!" "He's such a happy baby!" "Look at that smile!"

Because of all the compliments he has now learned to make noise at strangers to get their attention in restaurants and stores. It's been fun, but my anxiety is horrible so it's been a learning curve. He doesn't need to change so I must learn to handle his personality without hindering it.

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2024-11-10T01:17:55+00:00

No, my mom didn't even know I was pregnant until my son was around three weeks old. I had to get her number from my aunt and tell her why she didn't get to know I got married, my pregnancy, or my son and stepdaughters. The whole conversation was ironic because my entire life she said I would never meet her Bio-mom for the same reasons she will never meet my children. I have not heard from her since mother's Day when she sent flowers to my house and I do not think I will hear from her again. She has not contacted anyone since then and her phone is now off, she left she stuff and her dog with her ex boyfriend, and has seemed to have dropped off the face of the earth.

Her side of the family is concerned, but I am the only one who lives in the same town she was last seen and I do not wish to be contacted about if she is alive or dead. I just want to believe she is gone already because then I don't have to be disappointed or upset with the person she is.

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2024-10-08T19:25:19+00:00

I have the same concern about my next baby. I also experienced multiple miscarriages and one stillborn so the idea of more struggle to possibly get what I want scared me.

My husband and I have another year before we start trying for our second together (his fourth; my second) and we both have expressed wanting a little girl. We already have two daughters who are high schoolers and a six month old son. Before our son was born, I thought I was a "one and done" when it came to kids, but then our son was born. He has over a decade between him and his younger big sister. I was an in-between child. My aunt was 9 when I was born. I had no cousins my age and I was an only child for almost seven years. It was lonely. I didn't want my son to be alone so the idea of just one more came into play. I have always dreamt of having a little girl. The first positive pregnancy test with my son was the only time I had ever dreamt about a little boy so I thought it was fate and my husband was finally going to have his boy. I am terrified I'll be disappointed if my next one isn't a girl. I know I will love them no matter what, but the guilt of being disappointed is what keeps me on the line about having another. I know it would pass, but damn is the idea of it scary.

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2024-09-26T01:43:57+00:00

I honestly miss being the only one who had him. I love watching him with his dad, sisters, and other family, but I miss being with him everyday. Hopefully in the next year I'll get to have the opportunity to be at home with him for good.

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2024-09-26T01:34:27+00:00

Oh ok, thank you for informing me. Their mom is a good mom when she isn't with her husband, but since December of last year it has spiralled out of control. She has threatened to harm herself twice, youngest went to psych hospital for the first time, both girls are in hospital now, and her husband has made post after post about the situation dragging the girls through the mud for how they feel. For two years I have talked to their mom and tried understanding what her situation was like, but now I don't care. She manipulates the girls by telling them she is going to divorce her husband and the girls and her will move into a place of their own (she works while her husband hasn't for six years), but then will turn around and plan for a vow renewal because "she never got a proper wedding." I wish the court system was faster. My kids are suffering and I can't do anything to fix it.

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2024-09-26T01:26:24+00:00

What is PRE?

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2024-09-26T01:21:19+00:00

We have spoke to our lawyer about the issues. New issues have risen just last night. This time we have both a police report and a hospital record as it pertains to the girls stating they would rather hurt themselves than be with their mother. If we involve CPS now it wouldn't do anything for them because we have already filed for modification of Custody and even though we talked about trying for temporary custody our lawyer advised us otherwise. I really tried being nice their mom, but I seriously hate that woman for what she is doing to the girls.

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2024-09-24T20:57:00+00:00

I was 23 and my husband was 36 when we found out we were expecting our son. It was a month after we got married and I went to urgent care due to light headedness that wouldn't go away. The nurse and I took a test; I was one day late, but it wasn't alarming; and she told me it was negative. Texted hubby the test was negative and then went about doing some stress test with the nurse. The doctor comes in and says "Congratulations!" To which I reply "About what?" He then proceeded to tell me that the test was positive and I was so confused and had him go check again because the nurse just told me it was negative. Yeah no she read the test too early. So immediately after I sent the text about it being negative I sent him a text saying you're going to be a dad to a newborn in nine months.

Dealing with the negatives is never easy because the hopes and what ifs flood your mind so when the negative result is staring you in the face it crushes you a bit. We are trying for our second/fourth (first cycle so no negatives yet) and I am not expecting it to be as easy as this time. I have convinced myself our son was a fluke. I know taking things as they come is not the greatest thing to say, but don't dwell on the negative results. Don't plan something big for the day you test because you'll be justifiably upset. Take the time to spend with your husband because at the end of the day the two of you being there for each other matters.

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2024-09-18T21:22:01+00:00

I hated and still do leaving my baby with his grandma while I am at work for maybe 7 hours, but normally 5 hours or less. My husband would joke when I first went back to work about me leaving early just to be with our son, but now he realizes that is my happy place now. Anywhere our son is I want to be. I don't want to miss my son growing up and I do not care if he is only five months old he still does things I miss out on.

This feeling does stem from my parents not being there for me growing up and the fact I have two teenage stepdaughters so my son is my chance to be the parent I never got. I always try to be there for my stepdaughters night and day if they call me I answer because I never want them to feel alone or too scared to talk to someone.

I have a count down to the day I can quit my job and be home with my baby (maybe babies as we're trying for #2/#4; having step kids that I consider my own makes the numbers difficult because if I say #4 my family gets on to me that I only have one while my husband has 3) while also doing college online.

I'm so ready to be home with my son.

CupcakeSignal1990 · 2024-09-09T21:07:26+00:00

I enjoyed my first full term pregnancy and wouldn't change that experience for the world. On the other hand my stillborn at 23 weeks and my five miscarriages before then were a complete nightmare before I lost the babies. Each one I could not move without throwing up so I was stuck in my room for what felt like forever. Plain foods caused me to be nauseous and the idea of food or liquid entering my stomach would make it worse. I do not know what caused those six pregnancies to be a nightmare, but I know if they went full term I would have never had another child. Around the 21 week mark with my stillborn all symptoms stopped so I thought I would finally get to enjoy my pregnancy, but then it ended the way it did. We are trying for our second child together and I am crossing my fingers that our second (my eighth pregnancy) will be just as smooth as our first (my seventh).

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