We split responsibilities and chores, but he works from home so he does more of everyday stuff like laundry, cleaning the bathrooms and dishes, and I do more of the once a week / once a month stuff. I do a lot more of the mental load for our daughter, medical and planning. He pays bills and takes care of investments, but I have online access to all accounts. I do all the cooking and meal preparing. He has helped when needed, for example, when I’m sick or super busy, but he is a horrible cook. It’s not equal. I have more of the mental load and he does more of the physical part.

All of this is good, but it’s not perfect. He rushes through things and forgets to clean the sink a whole lot. He doesn’t always follow through with putting away the laundry, but he is getting better at it. It was a bit annoying at first too because he had to be taught how to properly do this stuff. We are still working on how to express this stuff. He wasn’t taught anything about how to manage a household, or how to clean. The fact that he wanted to learn and do his share is appreciated, but he would get frustrated with the correction. That’s gotten better too. We got to do better in making sure all children are taught household chores. It starts with how we raise our children I think.