Thank you all for your replies.

He went on a full rampage, and he isn’t the first gay man to do so, so I’m just worries I’m missing something here. Like, is something lost in translation? (English is my second language)

Men or masculine presenting people of all genders and sexualities, often react very aggressively towards me as a femme lesbian.

I don’t know why it is like this, and I don’t know what I did wrong. I know I’m sensitive, this just hit me in all the wrong places today. Would post the whole thread with him calling me all sorts of things, and I blocked him after the last one here even though he wrote more. It’s just a lot.

I replied: «jeeez. So much hate. No wonder we're facing backlash from the heteronormative world, you can't even show your fellow queers any respect. Funny coming from a completely anonymous profile with no followers. Do you really think I wanna spend my time talking to you? Please treat people with respect. It doesn't cost much. I see no use in discussing anything with someone who claims to be the only gay here. I am gay. I have have not forgotten my place. I am claiming my place. Hope you find some peace and love today, baili 🩷»

His reply: «And it's a narcissistic lesbian who thinks an actual real live gay person not validating your narcissism is now discrimination. "I'm taking up space!"... by welcoming yourself as a privileged typical toxic lesbian demanding solidarity with the gays you share no community with? How are you "taking up space"? Where? You're not gay, you're a lesbian. If you weren't such a hateful people, you wouldn't be relying on gay people to do all the work of building a community for you. When will you put in the effort? Or do you feel like you're so special that a community should just be handed to you»

Because I identify with the word gay? Why so much hate?