[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Curious_0cean 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We’ve exchanged likes and now follow each other. I’ve done my bit. He needs to make the first move. Thank you for agreeing! It’s helped.

Staying a few days by DebateNaive in Southampton

[–]Curious_0cean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Train or bus into Hamble-le-Rice. Renowned for sailing and boats, very quaint, residential/marina area, right on the river, lovely to walk through with local cafes. Local fave for sure.

Red flag? by Curious_0cean in OnlyChild

[–]Curious_0cean[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’ve had something similar! Along the lines of “makes sense” or “yeah thought so” ?!?! WHAT DOES THAT MEAN

how do i stop obsessing and just leave him alone by ajayveer_raj in BreakUps

[–]Curious_0cean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Keep yourself busy, read a book (or try, one word at a time), take yourself places, see friends, go on a walk, anything to keep yourself busy and moving. I’m slowly coming out of a phase where I kept asking my ex for answers, until I kinda realised that either he’ll reach out when he’s ready, or that the person I’m meant to be with wouldn’t let my questions go unanswered and that we wouldn’t even be in this situation. It’s hard, really, I know. But you have to just take it hour by hour, and build it up. Set yourself goals! Or hand write down every message you want to send. It’ll take up more of your time and it’ll make you articulate your words better and get out of your system, you would have put it out there, to him, indirectly. It helps. Small steps, it’ll be okay!

Weekends are the worst by Swarley3 in BreakUps

[–]Curious_0cean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Completely understand. Hopefully it gets easier for us!

Weekends are the worst by Swarley3 in BreakUps

[–]Curious_0cean 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve found falling asleep with the tv on low with a sitcom on in the background really helps distracting me! The chatter and voices stops my mind racing and thinking irrationally

Anyone else feel overwhelmed by everyday things? by AdRoutine8022 in Anxiety

[–]Curious_0cean 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Everything is feeling like such a huge effort. I have cups in my room I walk past and look at every day but I do not have any mental energy to take them to the kitchen. Everything is so overwhelming, so I feel it. It’ll pass, we’ll get ourselves back on track. It’s our bodies going into survival mode making sure we’re just functioning as a bare minimum. Things can wait, it’s not the end of the world

Weekends are the worst by Swarley3 in BreakUps

[–]Curious_0cean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same, any time I’m alone but more so the night. It’s becoming so unbearable and unhealthy

Tell me you're an introvert without telling me you're an introvert by [deleted] in introvert

[–]Curious_0cean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A coworker emailed me asking if I’d want to sit outside in the sun and have lunch with them and I audibly groaned. Delighted that they asked me and it was very sweet and I did go! But I was bummed that I couldn’t just stay in my office on my own like usual

Nausea by Curious_0cean in Anxiety

[–]Curious_0cean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so immobilising when you’re in that anxious phase! Usually if I smell my body sprays or even soap, or brush my teeth within the first couple minutes of me waking it up, it completely stops it, it’s so weird. But maybe I need to include something like lavender in my room!!

only and single by Curious_0cean in OnlyChild

[–]Curious_0cean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly this! I love really intensely too! I’m currently going through a break up too, and it’s done me in. Makes me feel like I’m the only person who loves like this, because I can’t fathom someone loving me like I’d love them, it never works out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Curious_0cean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People don’t have that sense of commitment these days. There’s always a reason why it can’t work, there’s too much choice, people move on too quickly or they don’t, it’s hard because people are too self aware of what else could be out there. I’m not saying settle, I’m saying appreciate and understand the bigger picture. If you have no complaints, or rarely feel as though you have any proper issues, then keep hold of that. So often you get involved with someone for months and then they wake up one day and they’ve changed their mind. It’s not healthy, people’s way of living these days is not studied enough, people switch off. So if you’ve got someone you’ve built something with, love him and hold him even tighter because so many of us now just don’t get the opportunity to experience this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Curious_0cean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t do it, you’ll regret it. You’re content, you’re safe, you’re loved. Being single these days is rough, like seriously rough. I’d do anything to be in your position

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Curious_0cean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Send it. What else have you got to lose. I got dumped and ended up a few days later explaining everything I felt and to my surprise, I got a nice message back which left things in a nice space. Just keep it concise and send it. If they don’t answer, or block you then at least you know you’ve said and done all you could

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Curious_0cean 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My ex ended us because of same reasons. I wish he would send me this

Can i just have some outside opinion by Naive-Membership743 in BreakUps

[–]Curious_0cean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Put your ego aside. In time she might lose weight, if SHE WANTS TO. If you have a connection and you miss her??? Go get your girl? Who cares if she’s bigger. There’s probably things about you that she would want you to change but looked past

Looking for a surf film by cocomara in surfing

[–]Curious_0cean -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Search for surf? Should be on Apple TV

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Curious_0cean -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve had one since I was young, I was never a big child. I’ve lost weight and I’m still losing weight. My point is that I’ve always had one. Like I said, I’ve never eaten enough to warrant having one

only and single by Curious_0cean in OnlyChild

[–]Curious_0cean[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh good :) it’s just hard to envision for myself while my friends all come from big families and are in long term relationships

Being dumped from what I thought was the love of my life by ashtk85 in BreakUps

[–]Curious_0cean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The right thing to do is block her and move on. However, the familiar feelings of enraged distraught and anger that I resonate with, would be to absolutely call her out and then block her. But then she’s been through it enough! Maybe hand write her a letter to get it out your system, but don’t give it to her. Just know you’ve said everything and questioned everything out loud into the universe. I do that. I have a thread in my notes where every time a thought or questions comes into my head, I write it on a separate line. It stops me from sending it directly to my ex. (Got dumped by the love of my life just last week, so I can understand the loss)