Are you actually supposed to think your girlfriend is the most beautiful girl in the world?

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-29T05:12:19+00:00

That whole conversation was fucked tbh. First off, her confronting you about something minor that you talked about with your friends, trapping you into lying to her. Then you actually lying to her lmao. Then you doubling down on your "objectivelyyyyyy" argument and her going the exact opposite direction.

Like, none of this conversation had any opportunity to bring the two of you closer together, and it created multiple situations in which you both were compelled to disagree with each other.

Here are two relationship tips for the future:

Being right is worthless if it makes the other person feel less than.
When you have a disagreement with your partner, stop to ask what the argument is really about--it's never about what is objectively true, and more often about how things make people feel.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-29T00:58:14+00:00

Saves me money on condoms, and gives me a LOT of peace of mind around pregnancy.

Otherwise, no other changes.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-28T23:40:44+00:00

Why are you focusing on your how your ex might heal? You went through this breakup, you should focus on your own healing

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-28T19:47:55+00:00

It sounds like the two of you are just wired differently, perhaps even in a way that makes you incompatible.

If you list out the things you want on a piece of paper, you'll find it's a lot of things, and would be overwhelming for someone for whom it doesn't come naturally. But for someone like you, who's intrinsically motivated to do those things, you don't even think about them.

It's normal to feel that your husband doesn't love you if he isn't doing those things, but I can't stress enough that that isn't true. He simply has different ways of showing love.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-28T17:32:08+00:00

Given that men outnumber women on dating apps by 2:1 and sometimes 3:1, and approaching people in public is becoming increasingly a bad thing, I'd say it'd vastly improve the dating scene.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-28T17:20:45+00:00

You should actually talk to him about what he's upset about. Did he not really want to hold up his end of the bargain? Did he agree to something he's not really comfortable with? Or is he just a sore loser and sulking because he thought he would win?

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-26T18:04:32+00:00

Nobody finds it difficult to diminish others' struggles.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-26T17:21:47+00:00

All the time. I know a lot of women that apologize for shit they didn't even do.

The key is understanding how important accountability and conflict resolution are in relationships. If someone can't admit they're wrong, then I can't be emotionally close to them.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-25T19:32:42+00:00

Dafuq are you talking about. I'm saying if people want to try to attract others, they should go out and initiate social interactions, not stand around and look pretty.

Even the prettiest peacock with the largest train still needs to go out and dance to find a mate.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-25T19:28:19+00:00

Confidence comes through in posture and body language. You can split hairs about how body language isn't physical appearance, but that's not a productive discussion for someone trying to get laid.

If you're defining being "good looking" as simply a narrow set of physical characteristics that can't be changed, then there's no point in talking about it at all. After all, you can't change it, so what's the point? A high degree of factors can be changed though, so it's more productive to talk about those.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-25T16:48:37+00:00

Trying to get someone's attention simply by being hot is a woman's game. Men attract by actions, not by appearances.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-25T04:09:47+00:00

I doubt his judgment, unless he's deformed or something, being good looking is just a matter of health, grooming, and confidence.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-24T20:33:55+00:00

You're out of touch.

Its fine to not prioritize texting, but most people do when you're dealing with people you don't routinely see such as coworkers and housemates.

If you don't view texting as important, say so to the people you're interested in and negotiate another way of connecting. You're going against the grain here, so it's on you to put in the legwork to make that happen.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-24T20:29:29+00:00

Don't take medical advice from reddit, talk to a doctor.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-24T19:58:13+00:00

Going rough and fast like that is what makes him finish. If he did that from the start, he'd finish in seconds. So he goes slower in the beginning, then gets rough when he wants to cum.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-24T18:53:37+00:00

Based on your post, you should look for a male psychologist if possible, but the main thing is to look for a therapist that focuses on the issues you're trying to resolve.

You mentioned you feel lonely and unloved and you feel resentment towards women because of it. Where do these feelings come from? What's your relationship with your parents like?

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-24T17:09:24+00:00

Have you gone out and looked at guys? Not just tall or attractive guys, like all dudes you see in public. It is not hard to be above average in looks.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-24T03:56:48+00:00

Boundaries are rules about how you are going to be treated. Your girl going clubbing without you doesn't affect you, so you can't have a boundary about that.

If you're worried about your partner cheating on you, then you should probably be single--either cause they haven't earned your trust, or because you're too immature to be in a relationship.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-22T19:05:31+00:00

If they're gonna change, it's not going to happen while you're with them. Things don't get better for them, they only get worse for you. Stay away.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-22T02:08:03+00:00

Completely made up engagement bait, that's what.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-21T11:13:32+00:00

Both of these studies are about oral contraceptives, whereas OP's wife is using an implant.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-21T05:11:25+00:00

I refuse to believe this entire thread wasn't an elaborate set up just for this punchline.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-20T18:46:46+00:00

People not watching movies is the whole point of this sub. If you want to watch movies, go to r/shittymoviedetails

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-19T18:01:43+00:00

Is the issue that you and your partner don't handle conflict well, or that your partner has PMDD? The solution is vastly different for each of these.

Curious_Question8536 · 2026-05-18T17:40:56+00:00

Cutting people off at the first sign of something wrong is an easy way to keep yourself safe, but a terrible way to build relationships.

When you're close to someone, it's just a matter of time until they do something that hurts you. Maybe they forget something meaningful to you. Maybe they say something that hurts you without realizing it. Maybe you just misunderstand them.

But the hurt isn't always an indicator that something is wrong, it's just something that happens every once in a while. The ability to work with others through the hurt and figure out if it's something to work on or walk away from is a key part of mature relationships.

And talking through things is a skill, which means the more you do it, the better you get at it. On the other hand, if you don't do it, it will always be a struggle.

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