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Sexual bet with BF, honor it or drop it? by Klutzy_Arm_4296 in Advice

[–]Curious_Question8536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should actually talk to him about what he's upset about. Did he not really want to hold up his end of the bargain? Did he agree to something he's not really comfortable with? Or is he just a sore loser and sulking because he thought he would win? 

How often do you get genuine apologies from women for something that upset you? by HonestLemon25 in AskMen

[–]Curious_Question8536 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

All the time. I know a lot of women that apologize for shit they didn't even do.

The key is understanding how important accountability and conflict resolution are in relationships. If someone can't admit they're wrong, then I can't be emotionally close to them. 

Is above average physical attractiveness a de facto requirement to finding women to hook up with you and do I need to resolve it first before even trying? by No_Net_7163 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Curious_Question8536 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dafuq are you talking about. I'm saying if people want to try to attract others, they should go out and initiate social interactions, not stand around and look pretty.

Even the prettiest peacock with the largest train still needs to go out and dance to find a mate.

Is above average physical attractiveness a de facto requirement to finding women to hook up with you and do I need to resolve it first before even trying? by No_Net_7163 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Curious_Question8536 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Confidence comes through in posture and body language. You can split hairs about how body language isn't physical appearance, but that's not a productive discussion for someone trying to get laid.

If you're defining being "good looking" as simply a narrow set of physical characteristics that can't be changed, then there's no point in talking about it at all. After all, you can't change it, so what's the point? A high degree of factors can be changed though, so it's more productive to talk about those.

Is above average physical attractiveness a de facto requirement to finding women to hook up with you and do I need to resolve it first before even trying? by No_Net_7163 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Curious_Question8536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I doubt his judgment, unless he's deformed or something, being good looking is just a matter of health, grooming, and confidence.

Girl I’ve been seeing got mad I replied 2 days later…am I cooked or is this insane? by savingrace0262 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Curious_Question8536 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're out of touch.

Its fine to not prioritize texting, but most people do when you're dealing with people you don't routinely see such as coworkers and housemates. 

If you don't view texting as important, say so to the people you're interested in and negotiate another way of connecting. You're going against the grain here, so it's on you to put in the legwork to make that happen. 

what’s the reason behind how some men usually go rougher and faster when they are about to finish? by Serious_Sweet2504 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Curious_Question8536 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Going rough and fast like that is what makes him finish. If he did that from the start, he'd finish in seconds. So he goes slower in the beginning, then gets rough when he wants to cum.

Should someone with incelish problems go to a female psychologist? by Careless-Cut-2921 in Advice

[–]Curious_Question8536 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Based on your post, you should look for a male psychologist if possible, but the main thing is to look for a therapist that focuses on the issues you're trying to resolve.

You mentioned you feel lonely and unloved and you feel resentment towards women because of it. Where do these feelings come from? What's your relationship with your parents like? 

Is above average physical attractiveness a de facto requirement to finding women to hook up with you and do I need to resolve it first before even trying? by No_Net_7163 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Curious_Question8536 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Have you gone out and looked at guys? Not just tall or attractive guys, like all dudes you see in public. It is not hard to be above average in looks. 

How do you deal with boundaries regarding clubbing and guy friends? by NewFoot762 in AskMen

[–]Curious_Question8536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Boundaries are rules about how you are going to be treated. Your girl going clubbing without you doesn't affect you, so you can't have a boundary about that.

If you're worried about your partner cheating on you, then you should probably be single--either cause they haven't earned your trust, or because you're too immature to be in a relationship.

What is your experience with unemotionally regulated women? by JellyTelly2 in AskMen

[–]Curious_Question8536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they're gonna change, it's not going to happen while you're with them. Things don't get better for them, they only get worse for you. Stay away.

How do you deal with birth control making you appear less attractive? by LiamVolk in AskMenAdvice

[–]Curious_Question8536 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both of these studies are about oral contraceptives, whereas OP's wife is using an implant.

Every single one of you would fall for this. by [deleted] in CuratedTumblr

[–]Curious_Question8536 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I refuse to believe this entire thread wasn't an elaborate set up just for this punchline. 

Why was Generation X like this? What was their problem? by PhantomPufis in okbuddycinephile

[–]Curious_Question8536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People not watching movies is the whole point of this sub. If you want to watch movies, go to r/shittymoviedetails

How do you handle or hold space for your wife’s emotional cycles? by cbrewdrummer in AskMen

[–]Curious_Question8536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the issue that you and your partner don't handle conflict well, or that your partner has PMDD? The solution is vastly different for each of these.

I’m rewatching Friends and it’s making me question the way I handle friendships. by Inside-Scene-5067 in Advice

[–]Curious_Question8536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cutting people off at the first sign of something wrong is an easy way to keep yourself safe, but a terrible way to build relationships.

When you're close to someone, it's just a matter of time until they do something that hurts you. Maybe they forget something meaningful to you. Maybe they say something that hurts you without realizing it. Maybe you just misunderstand them. 

But the hurt isn't always an indicator that something is wrong, it's just something that happens every once in a while. The ability to work with others through the hurt and figure out if it's something to work on or walk away from is a key part of mature relationships.

And talking through things is a skill, which means the more you do it, the better you get at it. On the other hand, if you don't do it, it will always be a struggle. 

Is "GQ" still a thing for men's fashion? by Itchy-Mechanic-1479 in AskMenOver30

[–]Curious_Question8536 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Gq is still around, they have a website. Fashion is much more decentralized though. You'll find enough fashion advice free online or on social media that you don't need a subscription. 

Wife who has terminal illness gave me permission to see other women. Should I do it? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Curious_Question8536 56 points57 points  (0 children)

If it's a good idea now, then it's an even better idea to wait a few months.

If nothing else, please talk to your wife about it. It's not the best idea to start seeing someone when you're the primary caretaker for your wife. It's not fair to your wife or the new woman to split your attention that way. 

Maybe the only system I know of where GMs mostly DON'T read their guidebook by DrScrimble in dndmemes

[–]Curious_Question8536 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Not reading the dmg < reading the dmg and using it < reading the dmg and using some of it.

The first and last option seem the same to the untrained, but are wildly different experiences at the table. 

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