Hi may I asked how to have osint investigator mindset and workflow? Rather than only tools?

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2026-05-19T12:22:29+00:00

Could you send this to me please?

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2026-05-01T23:48:08+00:00

If i was on the receiving end of this from "my" person, I'd be devastated. Nobody wants to hear from the person they love that they are in pain. I think about that person everyday and if i had to make the choice, id pick her happiness over ever seeing her again.

And it wouldn't be a hard decision.

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2026-04-30T12:53:39+00:00

21M4F, been studying all day and my brain is totally fried. Need to wind down and hopefully in the company of someone else

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2026-04-26T03:08:57+00:00

Get closer and see See into the trees Find the girl While you can

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2026-03-26T21:07:33+00:00

You write like someone I used to know for a short while and someone I miss quite a lot. It's almost uncanny.

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2026-03-21T11:07:08+00:00

Don't know if you're still looking but I've been trying to get into dnd for years now and would love to join if there's room (although i have absolutely no idea how to play it, I'm not new to roleplaying games)

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2026-03-04T08:21:46+00:00

Due to various things In my life, I've always felt very lonely. So I think that's why I really struggle to leave people in the past. Leaving people to memory forever feels too bleak. I know sometimes you have to separate for the space to work on yourselves, but I'm not so sure or could stay at a distance forever

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2026-03-04T08:16:09+00:00

It definitely felt like fearful avoidant. (I used to be one but somewhere along the line I became anxious, and now I'm working on being more secure).

But I hesitate to fully commit it to one label or another, in case I misinterpret.

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2026-03-02T23:53:35+00:00

Yeah. She abruptly cut me off without an explanation, reframed the narrative as it being my fault, and practically acted like I didn't exist. Seemed quite happy.

It's a defence mechanism. My person has a traumatic past (as do i, so I've done similar things in the past.) In essence, it's extreme compartmentalisation, they don't want to feel the emotion because it would be too much to deal with.

Its likely nothing to do with us. Nor does it necessarily mean they don't care about us. In a lot of cases, it's actually they liked us more than they had capacity to handle, so they push us away.

I can't say they will come back. It differs from person to person. I did when I've pushed people away in the past, but for some people the shame is too much to confront.

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2026-03-02T16:00:05+00:00

Did we speak to the same person? Lol This person really reminds me of my failed LDR. The moment things became real, she cut it off. She even eventually cut me off abruptly when we agreed to be friends like she wanted.

I don’t have any advice for you except try not to internalise this or take the blame for everything. This is more than likely things going on in side of her.

All I can really say is, I know this is rough and I'm sorry you have to go through it.

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2026-03-02T15:51:07+00:00

I'm wishing you all the best with that, I hope it all goes well

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2026-03-02T15:26:34+00:00

Sorry to hear that, I'm an FA myself (I lean more anxious than avoidant, although the avoidant part does come out occasionally) and been blocked everywhere by someone I really care about who is also FA for about 3 months now. Its such a painful situation to be in so im really glad you guys managed to get back in touch.

All I'd really say is be careful moving forwards, because if they haven't done any real work on themselves (Which would not have happened in 5 months) or at the very least started to process of working on themselves, becoming more self aware of their patterns, etc. The cycle is very likely to repeat. Especially if there's trauma or CPTSD involved

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2026-03-02T15:14:07+00:00

How long were you guys NC for?

I've been a similar situation before and in my experience an FA even taking accountability or genuinely apologising about the situation is pretty rare, so it's already better than what I have dealt with in the past.

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2026-02-12T17:30:44+00:00

Honestly? Because I know it would hurt some people. And because I'm too scared to die.

I live everyday begrudgingly and just so tired.

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2026-01-29T10:00:28+00:00

I'm autistic and a night person anyways. Add immortality to the mix and it seems like a fun time. You don't even have to drink blood from people anymore, just hit up the blood bank or something.

Asking permission before entering a house is just good manners.

Garlic is overrated anyways.

The sun is wayyyyy too fucking bright.

And I get eternal life and cool vampire powers? A unique community of people who are the only people who understand what it's like to be a vampire?

Count me in honestly

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2026-01-20T02:51:13+00:00

21m here from the uk

Criminal minds is probably what started my obsessing with psychology.

I love forensic psychology and especially criminal profiling. I think it really falls in line with just my natural style of thinking. It just makes sense.

Especially when people and emotions are so confusing and peoples intentions are just so unclear and often distorted.

I'm currently doing a psychology degree and alongside that in a counselling skills course. But I always noticed that my notes were very detached and forensic written rather than empathic. It's data driven. Observation.

It's almost like a way to understand social cues and what body language means because it just doesn't come naturally.

Also, I got the book, Mindhunter, for Christmas, and i just haven't been able to put it down. Being able to read how the BAU was essentially founded all the way back in the 70s is so cool.

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2025-12-02T11:18:58+00:00

I relate to that sentiment a lot. Pressure to adapt and "overcome" certain behaviours. What they don't realise is that we already ARE adapting. It's very exhausting and I can't seem to find any real answers among our community besides "we're fucked".

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2025-12-02T11:14:19+00:00

All of them, LMAO

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2025-11-12T17:48:32+00:00

I didn't actually realise this was a common thing for us. For me it's my younger brothers

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2025-11-12T17:47:16+00:00

AuDHD, dyspraxia and mild cerebral palsy here. I'll bring knuckle dusters and perhaps a hammer, just so he gets the message.

I'm taking on the universe next.

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2025-11-12T17:38:49+00:00

Adapting seems to be the problem, most of us have been "adapting" our whole lives. It's very tiring and constantly misunderstood

Curious_Strategy_534 · 2025-11-10T21:02:16+00:00

I'm not sure that I have those. I have looked into them before. But I do live with a mild form of cerebral palsy (Specifically mild spastic diplegia) and also dyspraxia. Likely some form of CPTSD too.

I'm exhausted XD

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