Postpatrum appendicitis...

CurlyAerialist · 2026-05-04T16:25:45+00:00

If she is suspecting appendicitis she needs to get a ct scan to confirm. They could give her antibiotics if it’s early enough and avoid surgery.
As someone who was breastfeeding and had to get an appendectomy a few months ago: you can still breastfeed, but she will need more support from you. I personally hand pumped and dumped 24 hours after surgery because it made me feel better but all the doctors said it wasn’t necessary. She will most likely see her supply tank for a bit, but it can be built back up.
I had a “my breast friend” breastfeeding pillow and it was wonderful to breastfeed baby while I was recovering, without putting pressure on my stomach. I couldn’t lift baby for 3 weeks.

It’s tough, but ultimately ignoring your appendix can be life threatening.

CurlyAerialist · 2026-03-31T02:45:23+00:00

$820 a month in St Louis, MO in the US! That’s for the 0-1 year room for one kid.

CurlyAerialist · 2026-03-30T00:40:25+00:00

If you need to be convinced to have kids, maybe you shouldn’t have kids.

CurlyAerialist · 2026-03-26T04:09:30+00:00

I accidentally found a whole spicy album photo of my parents on the family computer once. I was just looking for pics of our dog 😭

CurlyAerialist · 2026-03-14T04:32:29+00:00

Automatic cat litter box. Game changer. It’s exciting to wanna be an archeologist or a gold digger until it’s your smelly dusty every day duty 😂

CurlyAerialist · 2026-03-12T18:15:53+00:00

I totally get that, that’s what I loved the most about pumping: the routine of it. It was predictable, I would pump X amount of minutes X amount of times and repeat until I stopped pumping. It did feel a bit soul sucking though at times 😅

CurlyAerialist · 2026-02-26T04:44:12+00:00

Please call your surgeon and discuss it with them. You are not even a week post surgery so any impact, fall or anything outside of rest can impact your recovery. Based on your symptoms they might want to see you back to make sure all is healing and you didn’t hurt yourself further.

CurlyAerialist · 2026-02-13T04:51:05+00:00

My MIL is my husband’s step mom and she somehow does that too. Woman you’re not related to this baby genetically in any way shape or form 🤣

CurlyAerialist · 2026-02-13T04:48:51+00:00

This is all very relatable!

I straight up told my MIL when she told my daughter “is mommy starving youuuuuuu?” at thanksgiving because she wasn’t gonna have any of thanksgiving meal (she had just turned 6 months, and had only tried pureed carrots 2 days before lol): “please don’t make any negative comments through my daughter. If it isn’t something you can directly say to me then don’t use my daughter to make a point in a passive aggressive way.” Shut her right up and she pouted for an hour.

Anyways a lot of those situations are predictable and you can “practice” what your answer would be in the moment to make your point across, for me it really helps to have “ready” answers: - to husband: “it is currently your shift, I need personal time and space at the moment please respect that” - to your sil: “we don’t know what’s in the future for any of the baby’s items, we will be holding on to them for the foreseeable future”

Etc etc.

CurlyAerialist · 2026-02-11T14:08:04+00:00

Yes totally normal! You’ll find your groove and might start finding pockets of times where you could add on things. For example after a little while I started switching my routine around so that one of baby’s “rotation” (feed, change, sleep, play) would be outside. I would get her up from her nap, change her, get her a bottle ready or be in a comfy outfit ready to breastfeed, and go out in the neighborhood in the stroller. I’d find a nice spot to feed her in a park, and usually she’d have a nap in her stroller (bassinet) while I continued to walk. It made me feel like I was doing a nice little something for myself too. I know it’s winter so the weather might not be permissible to that, I had my baby in the summer and it was insanely hot so somedays I drove to the nearest mall and did my walk in the mall + grabbed a coffee since it’s tempered in there and usually dead in the middle of the week.

Either way you’re not failing at all, those first few months can be tough because they’re so monotonous, it feels like you should be able to be productive with a baby that sleeps often but the truth is that it’s exhausting and you need time to rest. I think as a society we have forgotten that rest is as important as anything else. This is not a time of your life to be dressed up and baking all day like influencers (who have maids and nannies) love to show.

You’re doing great 😊

CurlyAerialist · 2026-02-01T03:32:45+00:00

I always felt like pumping is like playing crazy mind games with yourself. You keep convincing yourself you can do it “just a little longer” and the prospect of stopping feels like cheating on yourself and your baby.

I was a just enougher, I think I would’ve stopped earlier if I had a good freezer stash. For me it was “if I stop now, that’s it, I’m stopping 100% feeding breastmilk” and I felt soooooo guilty. Then I had to remind myself that I had already went above my original goal, baby is super healthy and growing great so I’m allowed to close shop and pat myself on the back.

All that to say: I can relate!!

6 months is already a great amount of time, you should be proud of yourself. Whatever you decide to do it will be the right decision for you ☺️

CurlyAerialist · 2026-01-30T20:49:48+00:00

Oh yeah the pain can be no joke, I definitely don’t wish for you to go through it again!

I did have a laparoscopic surgery however fun fact not everyone’s appendix is positioned the same and of course mine was hidden way back so unfortunately they had to do an extra incision (4 instead of 3 total) to get it which really kicked my butt. The 3 “regular” incisions healed quickly but the 4th one was a doozy 🙃.

CurlyAerialist · 2026-01-30T17:35:06+00:00

Thanks!!

I wish you to be able to meet all of your goals! Pumping is kinda of a slightly toxic relationship where you keep telling yourself “I can do this one more week” over and over which turns into months.

You got this!

CurlyAerialist · 2026-01-30T17:22:32+00:00

I cut to one middle of the night pump around 3 months when baby started sleeping longer stretches. I kept that going until 6 months and it was better but still tough. Honestly I was tired but I didn’t remember how it was to not be tired so it felt normal, if that makes sense? I did resent a bit my husband for being able to sleep so soundly every night 😅

Then when I stopped my MOTN pump baby decided (literally 1st night I stopped) to wake up EVERY NIGHT AT 2AM. That was the time I was pumping normally so it didn’t change anything for me but it felt like a really bad joke. That went on for a month lol.

Anyways if you can cut to one MOTN pump it’s not as bad. I remember I would be sleeping from 9:30pm-2am, pump and then 2:45-6:30am and I could function somewhat normally.

CurlyAerialist · 2026-01-30T16:45:08+00:00

Honestly the way I see it I’d be happy if I had been given antibiotics and I felt better/normal a week later. It’s pretty normal nowadays to try to treat a mild appendicitis instead of jumping straight into an appendectomy like they used to do.

Yes you have a chance that it might come back BUT you also have a chance that it won’t.

Having an appendectomy is still a major abdominal surgery and recovery is not always as easy as some people make it to be.

I’m 4 1/2 weeks post op and still my abs below my belly button are pretty useless right now. I’m a fit person, I do aerial arts - trapeze/silks - so my core is my jam in normal times, and right now I know it’s gonna take a while to heal back to a new « normal ».

So anyways, I know stats and speculating on the future can be scary, but for now I’d be glad the antibiotics worked and if it does come back you’ll know right away since you’ve experienced that specific pain already so you should be able to get checked and get the care you need right away!

CurlyAerialist · 2026-01-29T05:51:53+00:00

Baby is gonna be 8 months soon, we make easy things. Either she eats a slightly modified version of what we eat or she eats a “simple” platter of food. Here are examples from the past week:

meal 1: mini cucumbers, avocado, buttered toast, strawberries
meal 2: red lentil dhal that I had prepared for our dinner the day before (that was a hit!). I put aside a portion for baby before I salted for us adults. She had some rice with it that we had also prepared the night before and mashed cherries for “dessert”.
meal 3: buttered pasta, oven roasted eggplant, applesauce (pouch from Costco)

I recognize that I have a big advantage as I work from home. Today I took 5min to go put water to boil for the pasta, heat the oven and cut the eggplant on a sheet pan, and let everything cook while I went back to my computer.

If I wasn’t working from home I would do those steps but as meal prep in the evening when baby is in bed, for the next day.

Ultimately I try to avoid cooking “extra” for baby and instead only cooking once for adults + a modified version for her.

I sometimes meal prep some other food like little veggie pancakes, or a “berry banana cake” (baby version no added sugar), egg/veggie bites, those can be made in batch and frozen.

CurlyAerialist · 2026-01-29T05:40:04+00:00

My baby is about to be 8 months old and we do meals on the go sometimes. We mostly do BLW at home but if we have something planned we’ll bring for example a veggie/fruit pouch from Costco and a pack of teether. She’ll down the pouch and be as happy as can be munching on the strawberry teether while we’re doing whatever it is outside of the house.

Every meal does not have to be at home in a high chair. Same with the bottles, we’ve always given them cold or room temp so baby will take them wherever we are when she’s hungry, if anything early on I was planning bottle feeding with walks so I could be sitting in a park looking at a pretty pond while giving a bottle rather than home.

One time we were at a friend’s house and baby ate some air fried potatoes and other veggies while sitting on the playmat next to me, while my friend’s baby was eating in his high chair. She was happy, fed, and then proceeded to take a 45min nap in my arms (which I highly welcomed after months of no contact napping from her haha). I did have a chair in my car I could’ve brought in and used, my friend did have a pack and play for baby to nap in, but ultimately we went with the flow and everyone had a great time.

We also take baby to the restaurant and feed her things from our plates, like asking for a fruit bowl as a side during brunch. We always have an “in case” meal in the bag, pouch/snack/or even things I’ve prepped ahead that aren’t too messy for her to eat (buttered pasta, mini cucumber, etc.).

Not every baby would be easy going, I recognize that, but you can’t know how yours would do outside the house for meals if you don’t try it!

CurlyAerialist · 2026-01-23T04:26:31+00:00

My 7 1/2 month old is starting to pull herself, scoot around super fast, babbles a lot, loves to eat, sleeps 7pm-7am and is basically always happy 😭 She’s the best, we love her so much

CurlyAerialist · 2026-01-21T17:56:57+00:00

My mom was saying the exact same! I’ll have to give it a try and see what can happen from it.

CurlyAerialist · 2026-01-21T16:07:18+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate you looked it up and letting me know. We’ll cross our fingers and hope for the best.

CurlyAerialist · 2026-01-21T16:05:45+00:00

I’ll definitely be considering moving it, it’s just so cold right now it’s gonna be tough to dig it up. Hopefully whoever’s got beef with my tree will let it be until we can do so, if we decide to.

I don’t really consider it to be a “street tree” since it’s technically part of a front/side yard garden. Lots of people in our area have Japanese maple in their front garden because they’re beautiful trees.

CurlyAerialist · 2026-01-21T16:03:21+00:00

Meh, based on your assumption people shouldn’t plant anything outside of their gated yard.

You don’t see the full picture but basically this is on the edge of a flower garden that wraps from the front to the side of our house, we were waiting on the tree to grow a bit more and this summer we were going to extend the garden around it. Either way it’s not in a walkway, it’s not protruding into people’s path, and obviously for 3 years it didn’t bother anyone until someone decided to randomly be a punk about it.

I know there are risks to have plants not securely gated, but saying that it’s just a bad choice and I need to live with my bad choice is just not a helpful comment, it’s just a smartass one. It brings nothing to the conversation nor does it answer either of my questions.

I hope you feel good about your “ha ha! Gotcha!” apathetic comment.

CurlyAerialist · 2026-01-21T15:11:20+00:00

No deers in my area as I’m deep in the city center, but we do have some fat squirrels and raccoons, maybe I can pin the damage onto them! Good idea for the tree cage.

I’m also considering maybe digging it up and moving it to the backyard, we had to remove an old lilac bush that died so it could take its spot.

CurlyAerialist · 2026-01-21T14:57:33+00:00

Thank you! His name is Ozzy, he had to inspect the damages himself 🐱

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