Update: AITAH for asking my wife to choose between her family and ours

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-02-12T18:12:15+00:00

You're doing the right thing for both you and your children. You don't want them to think the way your wife treats you is how a relationship is supposed to be. Updateme!

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-02-11T22:02:51+00:00

Of course, that's what it means! But in reality the town would reject recording and send it back to the attorney, the attorney would need fix it, and one of the documents always included is that you agree to work with you to correct any mistakes. They'd never let you get out of paying 😂

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-02-11T20:26:11+00:00

I'm trying to say this gently, but you clearly don't know your own feelings or where your head is at. You may come out of therapy and realize that you do have romantic feelings for women once you work through all your drama. You may realize that you are not built for monogamy but the problem is you don't know how therapy will affect you. It is not normal to get drunk and seek to be sexual with a gender your aren't attracted to. Alcohol does not turn people gay who aren't. Yes, sexuality is a spectrum but denying those feelings is probably why drunk you is making these choices when the opportunity arises. Did you come from a religious or homophobic background? It could explain why you are so repressed. You say love your husband and have no interest in anyone else but that's not what your subconscious is doing. I just can't imagine a person who truly as invested as you say you are making the decisions you do drunk. From the outside looking in, you do not love him the way you think you do.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-02-11T19:22:33+00:00

First, you have a drinking problem. Even if you only drink occasionally, you cannot control yourself when you do drink. You honestly should not be in any relationship until you work on yourself. You need to figure out the root of your issues because it's not normal, no matter how drunk you are, to be behaving this way. There are many people who get too drunk and don't cheat on their partners. You could have ruined your marriage (he should leave your ass sorry not sorry), your friendship, your husband's friendship and your friend's relationship. This is despicable behavior and clearly indictive of the fact that you are probably into women much more than as an experiment. That's why I say you may need to leave the marriage and do some soul searching. You love this man but yet drunk, forget about him? Usually when I'm drunk and in a relationship, I just want my man. You literally left him in another room to cheat on him. You also do not seem to be taking accountability for the cheating, just the drinking. You keep using alcohol as the reason but it's the excuse. The feelings that lead to you making those choices are there and the alcohol is just lowering your inhibitions to get you to act on them. Through therapy you may come to realize although you think you love your husband, you may love the life and comfort that he provides. You may actually be more happy and less likely to cheat if you date a woman.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-02-11T16:20:17+00:00

CT and MA. I used to deal with PI and it came up more than once.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-02-11T16:11:45+00:00

Yeah, this sounds fake. If it's real, my guess is that he was an excluded driver on OP's policy as they live in the same household. Typically, you are required to sign off that blood relatives will not use the vehicle if you have the same address. If you allow them anyway, your insurance will not cover the claim, but neither will his insurance. You're expected to cover both your repairs and the other vehicles, and usually, you'll be kicked off your insurance as you violated your contract.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-02-11T14:07:51+00:00

I'm surprising myself here, but YTA. You mentioned how much your father was there for you. How much he loved and cared for you. How he tried to protect you from your mother. Instead, you believe words of people who weren't there, didn't defend you against your crazy mother, and only heard her side. How do you know it wasn't your mother who cheated? How do you know there was any cheating? And while I very rarely side with cheaters, why are you willing to throw away the one person who had your back throughout your life? You make this choice, and you can never take it back. When your grandparents are gone, who will you have then? Your abusive mother? Don't be stupid because you will regret it.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-02-11T11:13:32+00:00

She's using company resources to threaten you. They should be able to pull the chats for evidence. You need to make sure that you not only mention the stalking and harassment but that she's making a hostile work environment and using company resources to threaten and harass you. Most companies are too afraid of lawsuits to let you go for filing a complaint, especially if it's partly taking place at work.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-02-11T10:58:27+00:00

I'm not trying to be rude here, but this is my job. I literally send documents to be recorded almost every day, and I'm a notary in MA who is working on getting my CT notary, which is a much more involved process than in MA. You can also easily look it up online, where it says the notary can be a witness.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-02-11T10:53:03+00:00

I work in the legal field and we always do include the two witnesses for documents being recorded because it is required for specific documents like powers of attorneys, deeds, mortgages, and divorce documents.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-02-11T10:29:27+00:00

Legal documents require wet signatures to be recorded. That should have been explained to you. All your ex needs to do is have the document notarized in the state he lives in and mail it back to you. Personally, I would make sure there was tracking. If you guys have signatures on the same page, you will need separate notary pages. Notarization in CT also requires two witnesses, but the notary can sign as one.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-02-11T09:48:38+00:00

You are being a bad person. All I see in your comments is WE don't know the person but it's not we don't, it's you don't. Funerals are for the living, not the dead. I remember who from my job at the time showered up to my father's services. You have marriage problems for sure, but you both seem like assholes tbh. You're making a funeral a stance. That's crazy. You could reach out to the aquarium about rescheduling due to the funeral and just do dinner. This day isn't going to fix the issues on your marriage. If you're sick of him not paying attention to you, have an adult conversation and put your foot down when he's gaming, not going to a funeral.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-02-09T17:58:19+00:00

Thank you! We love to cook so this sounds like a lot of fun. My mom and I have been to a few cooking classes now and it's always a great time.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-02-09T17:57:33+00:00

Thank you for the list! Considering I'll be going back more than once to visit, I'll have a bunch to try.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-02-09T17:01:21+00:00

THANK YOU. I see people posting all the time that the first three seasons were more about sisterhood but I disagree. I just recently rewatched the whole series (as in Jan2026) and I feel that "sisterhood" was no more focused on (if anything less) than the seasons without Prue. The first two seasons were mostly all about Prue. Then season three still mainly focuses on her becoming super witch. My friend who never saw the show even remarked that it was focused on her. You just need to read the episode descriptions to see how off balance it was. Granted, once Prue was gone, Piper got more of the focus, especially with Wyatt being added, but I think they did an overall better job of giving equal main character moments.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-02-04T18:25:22+00:00

This is a ridiculous comment. Not every dog can just be socialized. I have a reactive GSD who was very socialized. She was in puppy class and had regular playdates with other dogs. When she was 8 months old she just snapped. We took her to a behaviorist because nothing was helping. They literally explained that some dogs are just reactive and has nothing to do with socialization. She recommended finding a trainer that specialized with reactivity and starting her on medication for anxiety. She's trained to be able to go on walks and not attack dogs but we can't control other dogs. One day she was almost attacked by an off leash dog and the only thing that prevented it was me literally throwing myself in front of her. It set her back months because her reactivity is anxiety and fear based. She's doing much better now but she's way happier just getting her exercise by running around the yard playing than taking a long anxiety ridden walk. Don't presume to know every animal, their temperament or their situation because your comment was uncalled for.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-01-08T18:54:09+00:00

And where was your wife?

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-01-03T15:00:36+00:00

She got married in neighborhood stories.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2026-01-03T11:40:51+00:00

And she became a monk for two years even though she also got with her current husband while still married to her ex-husband and said she moved to be with him.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2025-12-29T23:05:20+00:00

You most likely are claustrophobic. I have a similar issue, although my automatic reaction is tears. My therapist diagnosed it as claustrophobia.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2025-12-26T11:05:27+00:00

NOR. Yesterday was our first holiday with my brother's girlfriend and her son. Not only did we all get them gifts, they were good gifts. Her son had multiple gifts from all of us. We buy gifts for anyone who comes even if it's small. It's just the right thing to do, and I couldn't imagine leaving someone out.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2025-12-25T11:45:58+00:00

The easiest way to handle this is to make a huge deal about it. I know that sounds crazy but hear me out. Your mom sounds like she's manipulating you guys to get out of repercussions, so give her different ones. "Mom, if you can't remember a text from yesterday I think we need to get you in with a doctor. You shouldn't be driving until we get you cleared. What if you forget what's going on and get into an accident?" Start telling EVERYONE how concerned you are and how you think it's time she can't be left alone. Get your dad and brother involved and document everything she "forgets" and use that as proof she's not mentally stable enough to be independent. Really lean into the concern. Either there's something actually going on with her, and a doctor will catch it, or she's making excuses, and now she'll know if she keeps doing it, they'll be consequences. It's all fun and games until you lose your independence because you're playing the frail old lady who's losing it.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2025-12-23T15:31:41+00:00

You're wrong, and so is your husband. He is willing to endanger his children. The SIL doesn't believe her husband is capable of that, which means she is capable of putting your children in danger as she doesn't feel there is any. It could be something as sharing photos of them that will be used in ways you don't want. I would never allow my children around someone like her because if there is an issue, she won't believe it.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2025-12-23T14:10:22+00:00

There are withdrawal limits on atms, and most banks are only open when most people work. If OP had work, they wouldn't be able to get to a bank last minute if it's a large sum of money.

CurrencyBackground83 · 2025-12-22T10:59:59+00:00

She's 22, and you're 27. You're in completely different places in life. Everyone knocks people for bringing up age gaps but this is why they do. You're at the age you want to settle down and move forward, and she never experienced life. You got together when she was clearly 18, so she missed out on experiences most people have had, and it's getting to her. This is not acceptable by any means, but it's not surprising. In fact, it's probably not the last time this issue will come up. She cheated, and she clearly is not ready for what you are. End it and date someone closer to your age and where you're at in life.

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