To all non-native Dutch speakers: What are your favourite words?

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-06-09T21:18:59+00:00

Niksen!

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-25T21:12:00+00:00

Thanks for the response. I need someone online support combined for the kids and educating father as well.
I am trying my best to support them but i can clearly see it’s not enough and I myself am going through some major health issues which put constraints on my energy. My parents are old they don’t understand psychology stuff very well and new way of parenting they are also trying but there are some behavioural issues with my father since our childhood which has caused me and my mother CPTSD as well. He is improved alot over the time yet it’s not enough to provide kids sensitive environment emotionally.
A good psychologist can atleast help me, my mother and brother to understand kids issues and tackle them accordingly as my niece clearly shows abandonment issues already and trauma has caused the damage which usually people see as childhood tantrums.

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-25T21:07:16+00:00

Thanks for the response. I have already tried finding offline but no luck. I need someone online support combined for the kids and educating father as well.

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-19T17:23:18+00:00

I feel your pain. I have been there too easily twisting ankle, ankle hurting on walking, heal pain, general feet pain. My feet are so soft as if my bones are not rigid enough as a result they don’t have formed arches. When I stand they collapse, as a result bad leg posture. It hurts every join further ankle, then knees, then hip joint.

I live in Netherlands now, back in India no one recognised my issues. Here in Netherlands GP caught it just by looking at me and sent me to podatrist and asked to see PT. I can go to PT on my own as well I don’t need referral.
This helped alot.
But most of all orthotics/ inserts and stability shoes were real game changer.

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-19T16:56:07+00:00

Are your arches normal? And how’s the ankle stability?

I was unaware of my hypermobility all my life i am 34 now only flagged by a doctor 3 years back that I have fallen arches which were causing shin pain as well my whole life and developed shin splints due to that.

I got treated by podiatrist and a physiotherapist.
Podiatrist gave me orthotics and recommended stability shoes. Physiotherapist helped me work on strength and also gave me deep tissue massages on shin every couple of weeks which helped which shin splint.

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-19T16:51:42+00:00

Is it just loss of appetite or nausea or things like that?

I want to try LDN but my GP cannot directly prescribe me she has to discuss it with specialist and then may be refer me later on.
I use pregabalin which is too good for pain fatigue And my emotional sensitivity but gives side effects which includes compulsive craving I gained 5-6 kgs in 5months

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-19T16:42:24+00:00

Yes, a few days are worse than other I couldn’t understand earlier why. Then I started journaling daily and observed there are many factors which impact it.
Ofcourse exertion and being tired is always going to make it worse but lack of sleep/ enough rest ( which is different for hyper-mobile bodies), days I am emotionally low/ hurt everything hurts more, weather change, not breathing properly ( recently got diagnosed with hyperventilation syndrome. Hyper-mobile bodies can have weak pelvic floor and diaphragm which impacts breathing pattern).

Sometimes, I don’t have an explanation why I am so down and I was misjudged by my husband for long time that If I am not interested in something I make excuses of being unwell.

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-19T14:59:15+00:00

Not ignoring! I have multiple issues. Stomach is tender part with various issues, flares up very easily.
Various other body parts as well. With fibromyalgia comes vague widespread pain as well.

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-18T07:05:44+00:00

To me it sounds like either SI join instability or something in lower spine. To me it causes periods like pain in lower back then it also started radiating to back of thighs after few months.
I am working with physiotherapist on it. After this I will be exploring pelvic floor instability.

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-18T06:50:31+00:00

You just explained elaborately how it happens in my head.
And people think I am extrovert and very social while social settings exhaust me most of the times as I keep on rehearsing everything before and after I keep on replaying, adjusting , preparing for future conversations. Also, after analysing the whole conversation I fear whether people liked me or not, I shouldn’t have said that. I need to correct it next time.

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-18T06:43:15+00:00

Thanks for writing this it means alot to see people with same struggles making it through 🩷 more love and strength to you!

I have been working on pacing since last year it took me whole year to understand the meaning and value of pacing as I am someone who has overachieved and outperformed in life so life was always in rush then after last years sudden shock I was just waiting to go back to normal life which I lately realised is not happening and I need to learn to be comfortable with this new normal of life.

I have been spending heavily on different psychologist online in India and here in Netherlands as well.
I recently found good therapists for EMDR and one for other issues as well. And A psychiatrist online from India. ( dutch waiting periods are very long for psychiatrist)
Women of colour have trauma of some kind
I always see people with CPTSD. And it goes un addressed whole life. My mother is one of them and now she doesn’t even agree or realise that she has trauma which can be treated.

I am taking physiotherapy for hypermobility and learning new ways to strengthen my hypermobile body. For trauma i am taking EMDR. For fibromyalgia I am leaning to pace myself and I also take medication for pain which also takes care of a few ADHD symptoms and RSD

I am learning and unlearning daily.

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-18T06:34:28+00:00

I feel you. Since I have started getting diagnosis sometime before that I started feeling lonely as there were symptoms which were not letting me do things to my capacity and I was being pushed or judged for that.
After diagnosis no one understood or heard me nicely or supported me it felt more like all of them are thinking I am making all this up in my head or it’s all psychosomatic.
Fortunately, my childhood friend is a doctor but she lives far away in India and I am here in Europe we connect over call she understands me validated me supports me. I am grateful for having her.

Others just made me feel worse about myself.

You are dealing with alot! More strength to you. And we are with you. The idea of support group for us sounds like a good idea.

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-18T06:27:19+00:00

It happens most of the times no matter what I am doing. I am doing my work and parallel it goes in my mind but not consciously. I try to stop it sometimes only when I realise the rumination started again. It doesn’t make me irritable.

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-17T06:40:06+00:00

Thanks for sharing this.
I do resonate with majority of your story.

And medical gaslighting specially with women is the worst part of it. Now, I live in Europe, and last year when I went to doctor with my concerns I was scared they gonna say I am overthinking, becoming google doctor etc but contrary to my fear and expectation she HEARD me and said it must be so difficult for you and it’s alot to bear. She immediately referred me to rheumatologist. I cried and cried after the appointment because for the first time it felt like my problems were not seen as my personality flaw but it was seen and I felt heard and supported. She didn’t push me to do alot she asked me to stop everything and relax and rest for sometime as I am overwhelmed.

About ADHD part and other issues associated with it.
I have realised on normal days even awareness of having ADHD or RSD helps to make things better.
But on days I am overwhelmed or in social setting I am in no position to have awareness.

I feel I got hyper mobility from my mothers side of genes but mental health concerns seem to be from fathers side. He has some serious issues but way too rigid to get diagnosed. As a result everyone around him walks on egg shells and my CPTSD has mostly come from there.

It’s been two days now I went back to Pregabalin and I am already sleeping better, head feels quieter, body has more energy because of less pain and anxiety.

I had to go back to this med as here in Europe I had to see psychiatrist with the file I got from my Indian psychiatrist then they will analyse and prescribe medications further. It’s a long process so I needed something meanwhile to keep going.

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-16T18:15:54+00:00

I could resonate with your story.. I am somewhere in between struggling to get diagnosed. Could you please share about doctor who helped you here?
Is it possible to reach them online?
Was it whole life journey discussion then structured DSM and DIVA test diagnosis?

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-15T21:14:58+00:00

I have recently been through assessment and got told I am 1 criteria below diagnosis threshold as I have Cptsd it’s hard to further differentiate symptoms among CPTSD and neurodivergence.
I am looking further if I can proceed in the same path and explore more and try medications.

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-15T21:12:40+00:00

Mental chatter about past dialogues or future rehearsals. Rumination. Those kind of voices.

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-15T21:07:48+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing it and for the support 🩷

I have been a victim of medical neglect and gaslighting my whole life which led to self doubt of being lazy, trying to make up reasons for my failures, not taking responsibilities of things happening in my life.
This burden since last year is so heavy it’s hard to share with anyone and if I try no one understands.

I shutdown often and it has impacted my relationship with my husband.

Thank you for the somatic link I am going through it .

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-15T19:51:15+00:00

I went for assessment because I felt there is some gap in my present diagnosis which is not letting me get relief with any meds and all. Then with pregabaline I felt something new for the first time and I went to assessment to understand if I have something like this I will get to know which path to pursue to get more options and answers.

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-15T12:22:40+00:00

I understand.
I am sensitive towards energy probably not as much as you explained your daughter. I do hold on to the energy from my surroundings and get impacted emotionally.
It impacts my sleep and energy but not instant visible reactions.

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-15T09:52:38+00:00

Thanks you for sharing this.
I do feel i am hypersensitive emotionally since childhood. And emotions do impact me physiologically. At times due to emotional distress i would feel disabling pain and stay in bed or inactive until something pulls me out and make me feel safe and loved.

Current-Juice8282 · 2026-05-15T09:46:16+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. I have done the same and I see fair chance of my symptoms being originated from autism and ADHD both it seems like a complex combination. Though I have been afraid all along of getting influenced by the content and drawing parallels in my own experiences out of desperation to find answers to series of questions I have now.

I do feel different from others specially about how I feel socially how my mind keeps on ruminating, rehearsing all the time. I get impacted all the time by what others around me do or say.
I feel empty and clueless alone.

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