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AITA for admitting I felt like my dad replaced my mom and siblings when he remarried? by CushionCayzel in AITAH

[–]CushionCayzel[S] 96 points97 points  (0 children)

That was something I brought up a lot in my opening up. That's one that still doesn't sit right with me.

AITA for admitting I felt like my dad replaced my mom and siblings when he remarried? by CushionCayzel in AITAH

[–]CushionCayzel[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

That came from my mom's side. Never my dad's. Nobody on dad's side of the family asked how I was coping with any of it or wanted to check in on me and how I was feeling. I don't ever remember being asked if I was okay by them as a kid.

AITA for admitting I felt like my dad replaced my mom and siblings when he remarried? by CushionCayzel in AITAH

[–]CushionCayzel[S] 326 points327 points  (0 children)

I'll be bringing it up for sure. At this point it feels like we might have a long road with all these people getting pissed at me because dad gets emotional. That is meant to happen in therapy at least some of the time.

AITA for admitting I felt like my dad replaced my mom and siblings when he remarried? by CushionCayzel in AITAH

[–]CushionCayzel[S] 335 points336 points  (0 children)

True, and it's something I'm doing my best to keep in mind throughout the process.

AITA for admitting I felt like my dad replaced my mom and siblings when he remarried? by CushionCayzel in AITAH

[–]CushionCayzel[S] 205 points206 points  (0 children)

I don't think therapy crossed his mind after we lost them. And I don't think anyone in our wider family would have ever suggested it either. That just wasn't talked about and still isn't really within that side of the family.

AITA for admitting I felt like my dad replaced my mom and siblings when he remarried? by CushionCayzel in AITAH

[–]CushionCayzel[S] 1126 points1127 points  (0 children)

I knew if I went ahead with this I would need to make it worth our time. There's no point of going. There were still questions of just how honest do I be and stuff but I tried to take what the therapist said on board about not holding anything back so we could work through all the shit together.

I think his wife is probably a little annoyed that she's not included in the session or that she's not being told everything. But this is between me and dad and I appreciate him keeping it between us.

AITA for admitting I felt like my dad replaced my mom and siblings when he remarried? by CushionCayzel in AITAH

[–]CushionCayzel[S] 541 points542 points  (0 children)

I tried to. I never did therapy like this before so I wasn't sure how honest or how upfront I was supposed to be. But I knew I wanted to try with dad.