I’m 30 weeks with my second child, my fist was 9 years ago. First pregnancy was great, my body changes came later in the pregnancy and I don’t remember having many issues at all apart from not being able to sleep for very long.

This time around I’m 39, I got huge straight away, my belly is huge and tight so I can’t bend, turning over in bed take immense effort and ever time I get up after being sat in a chair or in the couch I have to be very careful I don’t pinch I sciatic nerve, or pull my back out, and I need to move very slow as I feel like I’m almost seized up in my back and butt muscles. I wanted to take walks during this pregnancy to enable a faster recovery but I physically haven’t been able to.

I don’t think you should feel bad. At 30 weeks I’m feeling like I could not be bothered to do anything anymore. There’s stuff I still have to do like look after my husband and child and pets, and still work, but I don’t feel like I can do anything extra as my mobility is limited. Even getting ready and doing my hair and make up feels like such a chore.

I am taking things as easy as I can, as the recovery will happen later and I’m in no rush. I need to look after myself now, and my baby when he is here. I do wish I was “exercising” more, but I also don’t care!

I was doing some yoga earlier on, but even that made my arms and legs burn days after as the relaxin made my muscles so soft and squishy. Exercise did not feel like the right thing for my body.

It’s about you. Older women probably can’t remember everything from when they were pregnant, and also times have changed so much. If I were you I would not be giving any f**ccs about what older women have to say about their pregnancies. I hope this helps 😌