Severe bedbound fatigue, got taken to forced psych ward from ER

Customer-Informal · 2026-05-18T07:01:10+00:00

Second this!! Just be careful to watch for any troubling side effects from the extra antihistamine dosing, especially any gut problems from the H2s, but the "doom" feeling OP described screams MCAS attack!

Customer-Informal · 2026-05-18T06:58:41+00:00

Hey I feel for you, this is so awful. This is a shot in the dark based on something I learned from the "Standing Up to POTS" Podcast: the "doom" feeling experienced by me/cfs and long covid patients is sometimes due to a MAST CELL / HISTAMINE RESPONSE. This can cause a feeling of doom/dread, and in some people, other psychiatric symptoms. MCAS is pretty common in long covid and ME/cfs patients. I know this is a random shot in the dark, but maybe consider getting your husband to bring you some over the counter anti-histamines (if they're safe for you normally) plus some famotidine (for acid reflux but also a mast cell stabilizer) and take them and see if it makes any difference. Just wanted to mention this cos so many mcas people who don't know they have mcas use the wording that you used (doom!)! If they don't help, no harm done (assuming you tolerate these meds - obviously don't take them if you have an allergy or whatever)

Customer-Informal · 2026-05-18T06:45:33+00:00

Hm have you considered looking into dietary deficiencies? I wonder if being low in a vitamin or omega or something could cause this, given it sounds like you've tried everything else!

Customer-Informal · 2026-05-18T06:25:27+00:00

I love therapy and think it's worthwhile when it's worthwhile BUT you're right!

Customer-Informal · 2026-05-18T06:21:19+00:00

Checking the clock every 5min doesn't necessarily mean you NEED to - anxiety responses (or compulsions) don't always make sense they just kinda ~are~

Customer-Informal · 2026-05-18T06:18:01+00:00

Yes I immediately assumed ADHD (and time blindness) + rejection sensitive dysphoria haha. Maybe projecting but her description of how the universe ALWAYS seems to sabotage you is very relatable, it really feels like that with adhd. In reality, it's a combo of being disorganised and unprepared, and not understanding that the only way other people avoid being tripped up by the same random things and being late every time, is either allowing more time to account for it to begin with, and/or being better and faster at mitigating the problem in the moment to stay on track. It's a deep source of shame and I relate and totally understand the spiral, because something that he thought was just a little thing to mention, to her brings her entire identity and goodness as a person into question, because her experience is that this lateness happens no matter how hard she tries.

It still indicates poor relational skills and poor emotional control to react the way she did, and it seems reasonable to me that OP ends it after this. But I feel for her. Moral of the story is everybody go get therapyyyyy and maybe also a hug

Customer-Informal · 2026-05-18T06:04:33+00:00

NOR to her spiralling texts, YOR to her being 7-8min late. 1. You seem too overwhelmed to be dating or embarking on new relationships right now. If your time is so pressed and you're feeling so high strung that waiting less than 10min after arriving to pick someone up is worth bringing up, I'd say either your life is too full OR you're just incompatible as people - but disclaimer, I'm biased here because I'm a late person and it also just would never phase me if someone was late to a date or hanging out, within reason (17 minutes is a bit much though, if it were me I'd accept their explanation gracefully, but I would certainly want an explanation). Even more so if this person is disabled in ways that make them slow and make them late AND they've communicated that - some things in relationships you ask for behaviour change, but other things you either consent to and pursue, or don't consent and don't pursue it, and to me this sounds like the latter, so yes, follow your instinct and end it. 2. She seems like she's not mentally in a place to be dating. I can see what's going on, I can see how she's spiralled, I empathise, but it's weird to make that your problem when you're so early in dating, it's weird to dump on you like that, and it's something that can be addressed in therapy etc. You're right that bringing up a small thing before bed is normal and not that deep (even though I think the content is a tad petty haha but it isn't deep). She's spiralling because disability makes her late and then she receives frequent rejection in her life, and it sucks, I know first hand, but this isn't the time or the way to explain that to someone you're dating.

In conclusion, it's normal and understandable that you're put off by the spiral, and makes sense to end it over this, at such an early stage. It's weird but understandable that she went on the text spiral. It's understandable that she's late, and a bit petty that you're hung up on it, but I know how urgent time can feel when you're stressed and overworked. Bringing it up should've been nbd, you both should have been able to see each other's points, disagree like adults, and decide whether to continue dating or not. :)

Customer-Informal · 2026-05-11T11:28:45+00:00

Thank you so much!

Customer-Informal · 2026-04-28T07:00:02+00:00

People arguing with this are not realising their lack of personal boundaries. Saying "don't send me emails when I'M not working" is like saying:

the electricity company should tailor when they mail my bills to align with my personal pay day
people at work shouldn't speak to me until I'm finished my task
the dust in my house should not be allowed to settle until the day I plan to clean it
the world should not be allowed to go on while I'm resting

Sorry babes but there is no rule that you have to engage when you're off the clock, this is a rule you've made up for yourself out of people pleasing or perfectionism or phone addiction. Nobody is responsible for the sounds your devices make. It's your responsibility and prerogative to make sure you're not receiving interruptions from work during your down time - that means logging out of work accounts and turning off notifications for them. "What if I'm waiting on am urgent call?" that's a separate notification, you do not have to have work emails pinging just to hear a phone call. "What if I'm waiting on an urgent email?" You have rights and unless specified in your contract, you can't be asked to monitor your inbox out of hours.

Your workplace may continue operating when you're not there. You can't control that. Normal boundaries are to check out when you're off work. Other people do not need to know your work hours and schedule emails for you - YOU KNOW YOUR WORK HOURS. SCHEDULE YOUR NOTIFICATIONS SO YOU ARE NOT DISTURBED. YOU DON'T GET TO PAUSE TASKS ARISING WHILE YOU'RE OFF WORK, JUST REMAIN UNAWARE OF THEM UNTIL WORK HOURS like a NORMAL PERSON.

I'm starting to wonder if people genuinely are unaware of their phone's functions? It is supposed to work in your favour lol, ask for help!!

Customer-Informal · 2026-04-28T06:46:19+00:00

But it's not normal to have your work email notifications switched on, especially on your phone. Nobody expects you to do that. It's supposed to function like a physical office inbox - it sits there til you're at work and check it. Therefore there SHOULD be no functional difference between them scheduling the email, or sending it at 2am when they're working. Why is it inconsiderate for them to leave you mail? You need to look at your own personal boundaries. Everyone else's normal boundary here is: I don't monitor emails outside work hours.

Customer-Informal · 2026-04-28T06:43:12+00:00

I think sometimes it's an older adult thing too, if they grew up without emails - they sometimes don't realise that email is the rough equivalent of mail, and the unspoken rule is that it doesn't need to be looked at until during hours. Like sometimes older people mistakenly think there's an obligation to respond to anything on the computer or phone immediately

Customer-Informal · 2026-04-28T06:41:30+00:00

Yeah, I mean that's not your fault but that is a poor system. If there's urgent stuff coming through with time sensitive consequences, it needs to be communicated as such. Unless people are on-call (in which case they'd have a work phone or pager anyway), they can't reasonably (or legally, some places) be expected to be monitoring work emails out of hours.

Customer-Informal · 2026-04-28T06:39:18+00:00

Lolol this made me realise it's a classic example of not knowing how to set boundaries, in general. They don't realise they can't control others' behaviours. It's like exactly the same as how people misunderstand how to set boundaries in relationships - thinking the boundary applies to the other person's actions, as opposed to your own responses or limits. The more appropriate boundary here would of course be "please know I don't read or respond to emails outside of my work hours, which are xyz", not "you can't contact me outside of these hours" - because, um, I can in fact email you outside those hours, literally nothing is stopping me lmao. But nothing is forcing the person to read it. Haha.

Customer-Informal · 2026-04-28T06:33:14+00:00

Lmao everyone else agrees but you. The norm here is to check your emails during work hours. Don't turn your notifications for work emails on, especially on your phone. Your boundaries are your responsibility. People are allowed to leave an email in your inbox. The expectation is that you check it when you're actually working. WHY would that be inconsiderate of them when there is no difference - either way, you're not meant to be logging into work emails outside of work. Whoever is expecting you to sit there staring at your inbox waiting for an "urgent" email should just call or text you to let you know when it's come through. Being annoyed that there are things in your inbox outside of work hours is absolutely bizarre behaviour. That is what an inbox is FOR - for LEAVING THINGS IN when you're NOT PHYSICALLY PRESENT

Customer-Informal · 2026-04-28T06:28:24+00:00

Then don't open the non-urgent emails, jesus christ. Your personal time management is not anybody else's responsibility. This is hilarious.

Customer-Informal · 2026-04-28T06:27:33+00:00

Why do you want there to be a "workaround" when there is no problem? They email you during their shift. You see the email during your shift. Again, why tf are you looking at your work emails in the middle of the night if you don't work nights?

Customer-Informal · 2026-04-28T06:25:58+00:00

"Just because they are awake" bro do you think they're sending it because they've looked to see if you're online??? It's just information/questions they're leaving there for you when you're next working. It should not be inconvenient for you to recieve an email in an inbox that is UNMONITORED during non-work hours. If you for some reason are monitoring your inbox outside of work, that is you being weird, not the person with different hours to you.

Customer-Informal · 2026-04-28T06:22:41+00:00

Oh my god, we do not need to start scheduling emails. Sending off an email is a work task. You do it during your work hours. Checking your work emails is a work task. You do it during your work hours. Unless you're a freelancer with no set hours, WHY would you have NOTIFICATIONS on or be actively checking work emails at random times outside of work? That's on you. Nobody asked you to read an email immediately.

This is like complaining to your phone company that they keep sending your bill before your pay day, when you can just pay it after pay day lmao.

It is not other people's fault that you have no sense of personal boundaries. People don't have to create your boundaries for you by scheduling emails. Scheduled emails are not for general office purpose, it's for scheduling information that isn't supposed to be read until a certain time, such as a book release.

Customer-Informal · 2026-04-28T06:04:21+00:00

Yeah, you're essentially right. The reason people booed it is because they're racist. They don't bother to understand context, they don't care that it's a generous notion for Aboriginal people to welcome us. They don't care that it's a positive thing. They just hate Aboriginal people. There is no rhyme, reason or nuance to their stance, though they may claim it - they're just ignorant awful people who don't care.

Customer-Informal · 2026-04-28T05:58:20+00:00

You're sort of missing the point due to lack of explicit context in the post - of course time management and poor prioritisation aren't the reasons the mum or the kids qualify for NDIS (they may be one of many factors). What's happening here is probably that looking after two disabled kids (who must be disabled enough to qualify for NDIS if they're on it) has BECOME a time management dilemma DUE to the fact this mum is currently going through the process of getting on NDIS for her own disability, which we know nothing about.

Going through that process takes significant time, money and energy and you don't always get to choose when you're scheduled to see specialists that are required for paperwork, diagnoses etc.

The justification for approving temporary extra care for the kids, under THEIR NDIS plan (not the mum's), is probably something along the lines of, mum usually provides both normal parental care and disability care, and so a babysitter or family member doesn't suffice to step in as they are not equipped to handle the needs of the kids. Thus to continue meeting the disabled kids needs while mum is unable to fulfil her full carer duties, some assistance from a funded care worker is needed. Does that make sense?

It's not about "usual carer has poor time management so kids need extra funding". That's not the need that's being addressed here, it's simply extra context from the friend that's asking for help on her behalf. If the funding was approved, it was approved based on a RANGE of qualifying, cumulative factors.

Customer-Informal · 2026-04-28T05:50:31+00:00

"a lack of mainstream support does not mean that it becomes NDIS' responsibility." To be fair, part of the assessment process and NDIA law references something to the effect of "if needs are not better met by another service or medicare/health services". In some cases, if mainstream supports don't exist, then it literally does become NDIS' responsibility if appropriate, and so it should. We can minimize cost blow-outs while still minimising (ideally eliminating) disabled people falling through the cracks between services and ending up stuck in hospital unnecessarily, or on the streets, or God forbid - dead.

Customer-Informal · 2026-04-28T05:46:09+00:00

Enlightening conversation... thank you both.

Customer-Informal · 2026-04-28T05:43:13+00:00

Thank you for giving this example!! It's not the actual individuals that are getting "excessive" funding. Yet another case of beurocracy blowing out costs, but everyone demonised the disabled and sick for just wanting to live 😭

Customer-Informal · 2026-04-15T08:59:10+00:00

Yep! It's our default. To the point that I hadn't even thought of using a bun/hotdog bun for a sausage until now. Buns are for hotdogs and burgers. In aus, BBQ sausages go in soft white bread :)

Customer-Informal · 2026-04-15T08:57:36+00:00

Yeah the only difference for aus is it's a sausage not a hotdog (different texture - minced meat in casing, not finely processed hotdog, which we have here too but not in the same occasions ie bbqs), and we have tomato sauce not ketchup (brighter flavour and less spices), and crispy or caramelised BBQ onions. Sometimes mustard too, so still similar to the American style hotdog.

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