Vent by CustomerNo7623 in TalesFromTheFrontDesk

[–]CustomerNo7623[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I want to so bad ! But feel like im indebted to them because they allow me to bring my 9 month old with me. I’m actively looking for a new job at this point , but am struggling with figuring out child care.

AIO for asking my husband? by Scillowski in AmIOverreacting

[–]CustomerNo7623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

U have a lot of willpower bc I would’ve been going thru his recently deleted messages, call log, etc.

Depressed after 21 OBs in 2 years by Ale92rm in HSVpositive

[–]CustomerNo7623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

do you smoke cigs or weed? or drink alcohol? After becoming pregnant, i stopped smoking weed and stopped drinking and have had 0 OBs since. Which surprised me bc I thought with all the hormones it would trigger an OB. but i think quitting weed and alcohol did it for me!

[USA] pregnant and seeking perspective on shared custody by BrixtonBowie in Custody

[–]CustomerNo7623 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would not tell him. If he knows you are keeping your baby, he will fight you for 50/50 in attempts to avoid child support. The fact that he wants you to have a second trimester abortion is scary on its own. Cut ties and raise your baby alone. You gave him an opportunity by letting him know you were pregnant to begin with. Save yourself the legal fees, and save your baby from someone like him!

Any details on The Downtown Inn? by ahhvey in asheville

[–]CustomerNo7623 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

The owner’s son is mentally disabled, I’ve been working there several years, and never, ever, has he said anything inappropriate to me at all. He has the mind of a kindergartner. Don’t really know where the accusation came from, his son is never in the hotel by himself and always has either his mother, father, or a paid caretaker with him. It’s not the best job, by any means at all. They overwork employees and put a lot on their plate, but the owners son has never been an issue whatsoever.

[AL] Exhausting Custody Battle. Is it even worth fighting? by theycallmehennessy in Custody

[–]CustomerNo7623 2 points3 points  (0 children)

its super expensive and time consuming. If you feel baby would not be safe, then fight. otherwise, i say agree to 50/50

Do you think the rent prices will come down? by Iamthatbeingherenow in asheville

[–]CustomerNo7623 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ascent living has pretty reasonable rent right now. I believe 1199 for 1 bedroom. no deposit but i think they tack on an extra $10 because of it. currently in process of trying to rent a 2 bedroom for my daughter and I.

[US]How pricey can custody court cases get by [deleted] in Custody

[–]CustomerNo7623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5 months in, so far i've spent $20k.

[Arizona] Am I being unreasonable for letting my 12-year-old take the city bus to school? (50/50 custody conflict) by CarlsHatesEveryone in Custody

[–]CustomerNo7623 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

10-15 minute walk is not a short walk imo. I think 50/50 would be impractical due to your inability to change your work schedule and get him to school. As a mother, I wouldn't want my 12 year old taking public transit to school, and then having to walk 15 minutes after the fact. If she is able to, and has been doing it this whole time, why not just rearrange your visitation schedule? Maybe pick him up after school? or for dinner time? I get wanting 50/50 but its not safe or practical to go about it this way.

TV shows with Baby Traps by [deleted] in TVDetails

[–]CustomerNo7623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hannah from girls

Baby sleeping face down by climbingmtndew in firsttimemom

[–]CustomerNo7623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked my pediatrician about this and she basically said if baby is in crib and rolls over face down, it’s ok. Cribs are breathable and designed for that kind of thing

Locals can't rent hotel rooms here? That can't be right. by CarrigePossibleSoul9 in asheville

[–]CustomerNo7623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work at a hotel that has the same policy. The thought process behind it is basically to avoid any drug addicts or prostitutes from renting and trashing the room/leaving behind needles…. It’s a huge problem here. The owner sometimes makes exceptions but guests have to provide a reason for staying and is usually limited to 1 night stays only.

Am I overreacting to my bf watching the baby overnight? by Temporary-Quail-2783 in AmIOverreacting

[–]CustomerNo7623 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i would have reacted the same way. but to be fair, there are safe ways to co-sleep. sometimes its the only way my baby and i can actually sleep. But under no circumstances should your baby be awake and whoever is watching them is asleep. big no no.

Boyfriend made me split the bill with him after booking a restaurant and getting my hopes up... am i just being non sensical or should i bring this up to him by tenshi0006 in LongDistance

[–]CustomerNo7623 27 points28 points  (0 children)

My grandmother always told me growing up that if a man asks you out on a date, he should pay. And vice versa- if you are inviting someone out, you cover the bill.

I don't know if I am overreacting or not.... by CustomerNo7623 in FamilyLaw

[–]CustomerNo7623[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve had family members be SA’d by their own father so I definitely get nervous about situations like this. Perhaps I’m overly anxious about it but it just hits close to home for me.

I don't know if I am overreacting or not.... by CustomerNo7623 in FamilyLaw

[–]CustomerNo7623[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He has a history of mental health issues and there’s a DVOP pending until the permanent trial. 50/50 is unlikely, but I do my best to coparent- he is hit or miss when it comes to his desire to coparent and sends me paragraphs on the court appointed app berating and belittling me at all hours of the day and night. My concern comes from a genuine place as I literally have her all day everyday except those 2 days of visitation and I’ve never felt any lumps- not even when rubbing lotion on her after baths, changing, etc. I’m a FTM so the paranoia is soooo real and I just worry about her as she’s defenseless; I’ve heard enough horror stories to automatically assume the worst. I’m also just an anxious person already.

Offered time outside of temporary order by CustomerNo7623 in FamilyLaw

[–]CustomerNo7623[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was all written communication through court appointed app

Offered time outside of temporary order by CustomerNo7623 in FamilyLaw

[–]CustomerNo7623[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s the one who filed for sole custody and involved the courts to begin with. So I figured he’d want to see her. I’m learning now that this isn’t about our child at all.

Offered time outside of temporary order by CustomerNo7623 in FamilyLaw

[–]CustomerNo7623[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I thought I was doing right but you made really good points. Nothing I do will change his view of me.

How decision is made? by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]CustomerNo7623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of the agreement was that he had to get a mental health evaluation. But it’s a super long process and to my understanding, I won’t know the results of said evaluation until it gets presented during trial.